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BeyondBlue Hello! Read this if you're not sure how to get started
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Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for ... View more

Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for coming this far, we know it can be really hard to take these steps if depression is in your life - we see you and think this is a great step. To get the most out of this space we have a few tips: Get involved. The Forums work best for you when you get active and post where you can. Now, we know that can be really hard, especially when you are experiencing depression. So, if you can post something supportive to someone else here, that would be an incredible start. Speak from the heart. This community wants to know how YOU feel and what has worked for YOU. We trust that you have something unique to say and we can’t wait to hear it. Check in. Lots of the discussions in this section of the Forums have been going for years and they are some of the richest conversations we have. Keep checking in to get new ideas and offer your support. We know it can be tough to start, but when you are ready we want to hear your thoughts. If you need some time to get to know the community, that's okay! Have a look around and see where you want to get involved. Thank you for being here! Beyond Blue

Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Autumn_ I’m all alone
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Hi Everyone, I’m not usually much of a sharer but I don’t know where else to go, so here it goes. I’ve always felt alone in the big blue world and tonight is no exception. Most days, I justify it by telling myself I’m a lone wanderer, but sometimes i... View more

Hi Everyone, I’m not usually much of a sharer but I don’t know where else to go, so here it goes. I’ve always felt alone in the big blue world and tonight is no exception. Most days, I justify it by telling myself I’m a lone wanderer, but sometimes it gets on top of me. I’ve never had many friends. I think I’m too quite. I’ve dated men who seem fabulous but they always end up emotionally abusing me. My most recent relationship (which also seemed the most promising) has just taken a similar turn. I think my dad taught me to accept poor treatment. He is extremely selfish and has left when I was a teenager so he could travel the world. He still messages every so often, but I think it does more harm than good. My relationship with my mum is better but still not great. Despite living out of home for many years, I’m always doing something wrong and I think she complains to others about me when I’m not present. I moved out of home when I was 17 because of my parents and had to grow up very quickly. I’m tired from constantly worrying about money and putting a roof over my head. My only friend and I are growing apart. I find that I support her (she has a range of things going on) but she is never there when I need a shoulder to cry on. I’m at peace with it but I always find my relationships follow this format. I feel really alone and sometimes wonder what the point even is anymore. If life is always going to be more pain than happiness, what’s the point.

Dannos Corona and living with other family
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I’ve been living at my otters family home with 8 to 9 others . Loving and full functioning family. I have a 1 y.o son with her and a 3 y.o daughter to someone else which I share 50/50 . My parter who I can’t open up to gives no shits about me when I ... View more

I’ve been living at my otters family home with 8 to 9 others . Loving and full functioning family. I have a 1 y.o son with her and a 3 y.o daughter to someone else which I share 50/50 . My parter who I can’t open up to gives no shits about me when I open up. I feel alone, no one to talk to when all I have and everything I gave up for and sacrificed was for my family (son,daughter,parter,her first family and my own) I commit to work family and that has been my routine . When it comes to talking about my feelings my parter blows up. At times like this I can’t see my daughter and she has no idea how that feels like and I think all she cares about is her son and that’s how she sees it as . Her son! That’s not fair

Ocean_explorer I don’t understand why people don’t try to understand
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Hey, I just really don’t get why people don’t try to understand. I have many things going on in terms of mental and physical health but everyone lives in denial. No one wants to accept the truth. i constantly get told that I’m lazy and selfish and ne... View more

Hey, I just really don’t get why people don’t try to understand. I have many things going on in terms of mental and physical health but everyone lives in denial. No one wants to accept the truth. i constantly get told that I’m lazy and selfish and need to just get on with it. Toughen up, be like everyone else. Make my own way in life. Get real I have 1 person who listens to me and that is my therapist and I have to pay her to listen. I recently asked my family if they would read a book on autism if I gave it to them to read, they said sure of course, they offered to buy the book. But more than 2 months later the book still sits there. Today they couldn’t understand why I’m distressed at the thought of having to do Telehealth with my therapist. They have said if I want a house to live in I have to isolate and not go out , including to medical appointments. Instead of asking why this was distressing or having a discussion about my needs they were aggressive and said if I don’t like it I can move out. no one wants to try and see it from my perspective, no one gives a shit. I wonder if anyone would even bother showing up to my funeral

aussiestorm How much more pain can I suffer? Help
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I feel like I am losing my mind with the lockdown. I tend to dwell on things too much. The online learning for my child is not really difficult just frustrating. I feel like giving up. My child tells me that I'm the best mum and of course I turn arou... View more

I feel like I am losing my mind with the lockdown. I tend to dwell on things too much. The online learning for my child is not really difficult just frustrating. I feel like giving up. My child tells me that I'm the best mum and of course I turn around and say that I'm not. I have cried myself to sleep only to wake up 10 mins later to think about nothing. I've been put down my whole life so I don't knoww how to get myself out of this dark shadow. My headspace is saying if you didn't wake up would you be missed? I feel that people in my community think that since I'm a SAHM that I am not as important as others. I haven't got sour grapes as I'm doing everything humanely possible to educate my child. He misses the interaction with other children and I've explained to him heaps of times that he can't because of the coronavirus. I need help

Kimella Managing feelings and depression associated with the impacts of COVD19
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I have always struggled with my mental health. The one thing that was getting me through day to day was our wedding next weekend and European honeymoon. With everything being cancelled and having to push on through with no direct contact or hugs from... View more

I have always struggled with my mental health. The one thing that was getting me through day to day was our wedding next weekend and European honeymoon. With everything being cancelled and having to push on through with no direct contact or hugs from friends has been the toughest thing ever. As our wedding date gets closer, I am finding myself even more depressed and seeking chocolate/unhealthy foods for comfort, which turns into a viscous circle of feeling down about myself. Is anyone else in a similar situation with COVID19 impacts?

TishaJade Starting on antidepressants and I feel worse than before
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I started on antidepressants a week ago and I am so up and down all the time, anxious, overthinking and I just want to sleep all day. I woke up this morning completely out of sorts and got upset with my partner over nothing. I am finding it hard to c... View more

I started on antidepressants a week ago and I am so up and down all the time, anxious, overthinking and I just want to sleep all day. I woke up this morning completely out of sorts and got upset with my partner over nothing. I am finding it hard to cope with things this morning which three days ago I was okay about. My main problem is my partner has a child to someone else before he met me. Their relationship was bad and they agreed to have a baby to work on their relationship, eventually my partner left her and then she turned out to be pregnant. He didn’t want to keep it but she didn’t want to get an abortion so they agreed to make it work. But eventually he was unhappy and decided to leave. I love my partners son as if he were my own and he considers me his step mum, and my partner admits he never truly loved his ex or anyone before he met me. I believe him when he says he loves me and actually wants a family with me and to share a life with me and get married etc. But when I’m really down I just focus on the fact he had a baby with someone else and I feel so depressed. It ruins my day and I hate talking to my partner because he has to reassure me all over again and it’s exhausting for him. Sometimes being around his son when I feel like this makes me worse because I see my partner in him and also another woman that’s not me. Other times I don’t think about it and I am completely fine and happy. I don’t want to end up arguing with my partner or venting because of the same things over and over again. I’m so exhausted with myself.

Stressed Guy My life at the moment
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So, I'm just going to start of by saying my problems aren't as serious as others on these forums but here goes. I guess with this coronavirus situation happening in the world it's made me regret not making any real friends or even having a girlfriend... View more

So, I'm just going to start of by saying my problems aren't as serious as others on these forums but here goes. I guess with this coronavirus situation happening in the world it's made me regret not making any real friends or even having a girlfriend up until this point in my life (I'm 26 years old). It just feels like I have no one to talk to except for my parents (I have 2 older brothers but they've got their own lives) I also got accepted into uni back in February and was supposed to start my bachelor of arts course on the Gold Coast in July and I was really looking forward to it. I wanted to study subjects I was interested in, I wanted to socialize with other people and I was going to join their soccer comp. I currently live in Sydney at the moment and with all of this happening I don't know when our house will be sold and when my parents and I will be moving to the Gold Coast (Not like the course will be on campus in July. It would probably be online anyway which I don't really like. I'm currently studying a diploma of travel and tourism online and it's a little bit challenging. I prefer studying on campus) I guess I feel depressed sometimes about all of this as well as being angry at myself for not trying enough in years gone past. I'm trying to stay positive and keep busy by writing short stories (I really love writing, that was the main reason for applying to uni) as well as reading, watching movies, playing videogames, creating a website, making funny YouTube videos, continuing to clear stuff in the house and trying to complete the diploma of travel and tourism (I don't know what for, it seems useless atm) It just guess everything right now feels monotonous (And even though I'm an introvert, I miss going to the movies, bowling and to sport games with my mum) I know it's not as serious as other people's problems but I just don't know who to talk to about any of this.

Emily1992 sudden feelings of depression
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i dont generally struggle too much with depression, but i have very bad anxiety and social anxiety and generally if i do start to feel low mood or depressed it will usually be due to overwhelming feelings of anxiety. its like a sick, twisted cycle. a... View more

i dont generally struggle too much with depression, but i have very bad anxiety and social anxiety and generally if i do start to feel low mood or depressed it will usually be due to overwhelming feelings of anxiety. its like a sick, twisted cycle. anyway, i suddenly feel depressed right now and the thing is i hardly ever know how i got there? its like my brain is working overtime and overthinking in the background doing tasks that im not entirely aware of, almost like a background program on a computer. Yes! actually that is exactly what it is like! like im thinking anxious all over the place thoughts, but i myself in my concious mind dont even know what im actaully thinking. how insane does that sound?! LOL does anyone else feel this way? i literally dont even know where i am going with this, but i guess im sick of the same old pattern and cycle and i always end up feeling extremely irritable and angry more than anything because im sick of feeling this way. why cant i just be normal"?!! i wonder what it actually feels like to feel "normal" (lol what even is "normal" though right?!) and have an absolute absence of these crazy thoughts in you mind?! i know for a fact i have met people like that although i cant see into their minds and i may be wrong, i swear these people are so convincingly calm and seem as if they dont have a care in the world. i am intelligent and i often think about all the amazing things i could have/could do if it werent for these utterly paralyzing thiughts and feelings, especially around social anxiety and being around different people in general. I just have so many compunded thoughts and feelings (like i said i dont even know half of them!) and i end up like a pathetic, lazy and unmotivated heap of mess! and then i get even more pissed off at myself for being lazy! OMG lol talk about drama queen! i go for walks, i try to get out i mean its harder with this pandemic shit at the moment, but i am still going for at least a 30 minute walk each day well most days anyway. I have felt alright the last few days but not sure why. but now feel like crap. i am 28 and i still live at home with my mum which i still feel bad about although i have gotten better at not letting it bother me as much. I have been single for 5 years now and i feel very sad deep down that i still have not met anyone amazing in my life, but i just get on with it. and i have like 1 freind lo. i am very lonely but honestly in this world not much you can do.

FightingFree12 New here. Is life supposed to be like this?
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Hi all I am suffering what I’m assuming is depression. I have suffered mild anxiety over the years and have worked extremely hard to cope with that. I found a deep spiritual faith early last year and had my life on a good track. But sadly towards the... View more

Hi all I am suffering what I’m assuming is depression. I have suffered mild anxiety over the years and have worked extremely hard to cope with that. I found a deep spiritual faith early last year and had my life on a good track. But sadly towards the end of last year I let myself go and have felt useless, hopeless and have zero self-worth. I am a 24 year old nurse working through this crisis and while I’m grateful for a job I wish I too had an excuse to stay in bed all day like people who have lost their job. I see people on social media exercising and being active and I can’t even fathom moving my body or eating healthy. I’m eating a lot, tonnes of sugar and fatty foods. I’ve put on 8kg. I feel horrendous but am in such a dark place to have any hope of healing myself. I planned on moving to Canada in July this year and finding a new life for myself. But now that has all been ruined. I have a supportive family but no friends. I have never made friends for the past 6 years and my high school friends are very far away. I feel so extremely lost and hopeless about life and especially this pandemic. How long will life have to be stagnant and mundane for? I’m not suicidal but I genuinely can’t begin to imagine having to live a life this flat for another 70+ years. Any tips for depression welcomed. Thank you

Lid My depression
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Hey, I've been suffering from depression for approximately the past two years but during the past few months it has gotten much worse. I am having trouble getting out of bed. I'm always down and I don't enjoy doing some of the things I used to do. I ... View more

Hey, I've been suffering from depression for approximately the past two years but during the past few months it has gotten much worse. I am having trouble getting out of bed. I'm always down and I don't enjoy doing some of the things I used to do. I feel so alone. The only reason I get out of bed is the thought of some of my closest friends. They are always there for me. They are always willing to listen, to support me and to help me. I am so grateful I have them in my life. My family does not help. I have been diagnosed with PTSD, Anxiety and depression. My older brother suffers from depression as well and my parents were there for him instantly. They helped him through it but they can't do the same to me. I just want them to help me through it. Not put me down or say I'm bunging it on or something else. I need them and they are not here for me and they wonder why I no longer talk to them about how I'm feeling or why I'm so down. They wonder why I've become so distant. I don't want to be but I am over getting hurt by them. Could really use some advice. Lid