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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Arejay871 Career break from mental health
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Hi, Been living with depression and anxiety for the last 5 years and recently just decided to resign from my work (I am an IT Project manager) as i just couldn't take it anymore. I would describe myself as a people pleaser and found that If i didnt d... View more

Hi, Been living with depression and anxiety for the last 5 years and recently just decided to resign from my work (I am an IT Project manager) as i just couldn't take it anymore. I would describe myself as a people pleaser and found that If i didnt deliver something on time or knew all the answers i was failing. I also felt very burnt out and wasnt able to enjoy things outside of my work. Or even knew what i enjoyed outside of work to be honest. - im feeling stupid/annoyed/weak not being able to cope and deal with the day to day pressures of work. - im worried about my career prospects moving forward (even though my bosses were very understanding and supporting - i didnt leave in a very good way - which im ashamed of... - im finding it hard to not work and also ashamed not to be working - finding it hard to do whats best for me

Surfie883 Hi my name is Lawrence, and I have a problem.
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I don't know how to ask for help. It been on medication for depression for twenty years and I'm still the same . I'm old and just want the world to stop so I can get off.

I don't know how to ask for help. It been on medication for depression for twenty years and I'm still the same . I'm old and just want the world to stop so I can get off.

Guest_1573 Happy Doormat Day To Me
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So it is another Mothers' Day. Another day where I get nothing. No recognition; no presents. I don't care about material issues but I have bought my son up on my own since he was two. I have sacrificed money, a beautiful house, many so called friends... View more

So it is another Mothers' Day. Another day where I get nothing. No recognition; no presents. I don't care about material issues but I have bought my son up on my own since he was two. I have sacrificed money, a beautiful house, many so called friends...all to get him out of the violence we were living with at that time. That was 15 years ago. I have never gotten over having to give up so much. I have had major issues with finances, mental health and day to day care of my son. As not one person ever helped us. He is now a lazy slob and only cares about himself. I love him; don't get me wrong. But it is soul destroying living with him. He is very overweight. He blames his situation on everyone but himself. He is not making any effort to get a job or enrol in his uni courses. I try everything I can think of to motivate him. Nothing works!!!! So today is just another depressing day watching him play his stupid computer games and eat everything in the house. I am so bloody sick of it. I am 57 years old for gods sake; I am working at a supermarket whilst he sits around doing nothing. He then gets upset and dramatic. Says he hates himself and wants to die etc etc. I have booked appointments for him (counsellors etc) and he always bails at the last minute. I have done everything possible to help him. He just wants to be a lazy slob and smoke weed and stuff when he goes out with his so called mates. His 'father' is obviously useless. He only cares about himself. I am just so sick to death of this. What can I do? I can't kick him out...he has nowhere to go...it is a horrible life. If he was doing the right thing I would love him to stay. But he is abusing my love and generosity and I really can't deal.

Montacute When psychologists are not for you
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Hi all, I know many people find the support of a psychologist to be helpful ( and I am glad they do ) but it’s not for me. I find it too intrusive, I am a private person and don’t speak to the ( few ) people close to me about personal things let alon... View more

Hi all, I know many people find the support of a psychologist to be helpful ( and I am glad they do ) but it’s not for me. I find it too intrusive, I am a private person and don’t speak to the ( few ) people close to me about personal things let alone someone I don’t know. And yes, I have tried quite a few. Then when I can’t open up they tell me I’m not helping myself. So it is a vicious cycle and each attempt leaves me feeling even worse. Anyone else the same, and what helps you?

HamSolo01 First day in years without being on medication
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Hi there. I've been a frequent flyer on the beyond blue forums in a past life and I'm back again these days. Just a bit of an update. Over the past number of years I have been dealing with depression and anxiety. Part of my treatment plan has include... View more

Hi there. I've been a frequent flyer on the beyond blue forums in a past life and I'm back again these days. Just a bit of an update. Over the past number of years I have been dealing with depression and anxiety. Part of my treatment plan has included medications with the help of specialists. Today is the first day where I will no longer be on medications and I am now going to start implementing better lifestyle choices. Not too long ago I was in hospital, and also I had posted on here sharing about my expeirences with depression and anxiety. I recently quit a full time job because it was not fulfilling enough and I believe that 2 years of covid lockdown has impacted all of us in some degree. For me this was especially hard given the lack of human contact. I think it's fair to say that all of us want some change in our lives given the last 2 years. I am kind of comforted by that fact and that people no matter where you go on this planet will now have stories to tell about the impact of covid on their life. Here's to new beginnings and the notion of rebirth

x_BLUE_MOON_x I need some help...
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Hi, I'm not sure how to start this post. I'm a 27 year old female. I have ADHD, Specific Language Impairment, Anxiety, Depression , Social Anxiety and maybe OCD??. I have trouble socializing, I feel socially awkward most of the time, even with some o... View more

Hi, I'm not sure how to start this post. I'm a 27 year old female. I have ADHD, Specific Language Impairment, Anxiety, Depression , Social Anxiety and maybe OCD??. I have trouble socializing, I feel socially awkward most of the time, even with some of my family, people also sometimes treat me different because of my disability. I have trouble making friends. I feel like most of the time people don't want to talk to me or they can't be bothered, that they rather talk to other people instead. Most of my life this has been happening. It was like that at primary school,high school, tafe, and now. It makes me feel like I am not good enough.That no one wants to be my friend. And it hurts me so much. I feel so lonely. I have had friends in the past, but some ended up using me, and some didn't put a lot of effect in. Most of my life I have had no friends. I feel like I am a damaged person, I really want to make friends. I want people to talk to me more, to want to spend time with me. I feel so hurt by people. Even my own sisters don't bother talking to me, they talk to each other but not me and they are family. I do go out, but I have only been going to this meet up where I play board games with other women, but I find it very difficult to socialize. I have been to counselors/psychologists before, but that didn't help. Most of my life i have been dealing with mental illness. Mostly anxiety a bit of OCD, during high school my anxiety was so bad that I though I was losing my mind and that I was losing control. I didn't tell anyone what was wrong (including the school counselor) because I thought that it wasn't normal and I thought it was weird. I also have a anger problem, because I feel hurt, and because of my ADHD. I feel like sometimes I just lose it. I get angry very easily and I feel like a horrible person because of it. I have so many things wrong with my life. Also, I have no self esteem, no self worth, I just wanna be happy. To have a normal life. I am also having trouble getting a job, I have applied for so many, I really want a job. So one day I can move out of home. At the moment I am trying to get my license. I have been on my L plates for 4 years because I don't have much confidence when I drive. I really don't know what to do. I just want to have friends, move out of home, have a job and my p plates. Am I really asking for too much? Any feedback would help. Thanks

Anxiety_is_who_I_am Feeling so unsupported and alone
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Does anyone ever feel like no matter how much they try and tell people they're having a hard time coping, others just don't want to hear it? They're only listening for the "yeah I'm fine". I've been having a hard time with anxiety and depression for ... View more

Does anyone ever feel like no matter how much they try and tell people they're having a hard time coping, others just don't want to hear it? They're only listening for the "yeah I'm fine". I've been having a hard time with anxiety and depression for a few years and most of my family know I have it but don't understand the severity of it. I have a special needs child that has a lot of appointments and things so I'm currently struggling to find work, meant to be planning a wedding that I have no idea how we'll afford to pay at this point. I have no friend's in the town I live in. My family doesn't live close. I just feel like I'm trying my hardest and people can only see my failures. How do you tell yourself that it might work out or that things might get better? No matter how much I try and tell myself, it just doesn't get through.

Jason-X I feel helpless and don't know what to do
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I'm at a loss on what to do with myself. I want to get better and stop hating myself, to stop feeling miserable and enjoy life or at least have hope for the future. So far every therapist I've seen either leaves to go to a better city/get better inco... View more

I'm at a loss on what to do with myself. I want to get better and stop hating myself, to stop feeling miserable and enjoy life or at least have hope for the future. So far every therapist I've seen either leaves to go to a better city/get better income, is unprofessional, or just straight up say they can't help me. With my last therapist I was really hopeful that I could be safe enough to talk about my life going on at home. He didn't believe me after talking with my mum and blamed me for not going to a shelter when I didn't know the abuse I discussed was bad enough to warrant that. I've just gotten so used to it that it's my life now. He abruptly stopped contacting me after only 3 sessions and when my mum found out, she used it as evidence that I'm so crazy and unfixable that even therapists give up on me. But I can't deal with the abuse anymore. I need help just getting confident enough to get a job and move out, but my intense self-hatred gets in the way of progress. Constantly being threatened at home and called homophobic slurs is killing me. In public I'm scared of getting bashed up. I don't have any friends because I got too scared to see them again after coming out. I'm at a point where suicide feels like the only way out. I'm too scared to start therapy again for the 7th time. I hate talking about my life and my upbringing. The last few times I got close to progress, my therapists ended up moving away or having their funding cut. At one point a therapist focused only on how me being gay was the problem here, and that if I stopped being gay, then my family would love me. I know it's stupid to air our out my laundry online to people who'll never see me or know me but I genuinely don't know where else to turn. I guess I should be asking how to actually make progress in therapy, or if I should even bother and just turn to self-help instead. If so, what steps can I make by myself to get better? Thanks for reading this if you do.

Jester3 struggling with mental health and school
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Hi, I'm in year 11 and I am really struggling at school because of my mental health. I have BPD, depression and Anxiety. I lost my motivation for school a few months ago and I have stopped doing work and I am far behind in all my subjects. I don't re... View more

Hi, I'm in year 11 and I am really struggling at school because of my mental health. I have BPD, depression and Anxiety. I lost my motivation for school a few months ago and I have stopped doing work and I am far behind in all my subjects. I don't really feel real or see a point to anything I do and I have no clue what I'm doing in the future. I want to go back to school but I'm so overwhelmed by all the work I haven't done, that I keep staying home. I feel like I'm gonna fail school and not get to Uni, I feel like my options are limited which just makes me more depressed to think about. My goal was to become a therapist but my grades are so poor I know that wont happen, and my plan B was Art teacher but i Feel like i wont even graduate. I don't really have any friends or family that I can talk to. the only things i do all day is read books and watch my comfort shows, everything else overwhelms me. I feel so alone and like I have nothing to look forward to and I have no idea what to do, please help.

Fiatlux Being laughed at
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I was laughed at for admitting that I had depression and was suicidal. I don’t know what to even make of this. This person went on to tell me that if I were depressed and or suicidal, that I wouldn’t be talking about it. That I would have taken my li... View more

I was laughed at for admitting that I had depression and was suicidal. I don’t know what to even make of this. This person went on to tell me that if I were depressed and or suicidal, that I wouldn’t be talking about it. That I would have taken my life. I am sure that some of us have heard of those who suicide without warning signs ever being noticed. This has happened to me, (a dear friend). The laughing has me bewildered. Who does this?