31 year old depressed, socially anxious, long term unemployed, overweight, dead broke loser recently separated and living with with my parents.

[QWYP]

I’m just frustrated and feeling hopeless about my future…

I've been suffering from depression and social anxiety for about 7 years now and haven't done anything about it because I’m too much of a coward to go seek help.

I was living with my girlfriend of 8 years and we mutually decided to end things because she has hopes of getting married and starting a family and she obviously has a time limit. And at this point in my life, in this head space I'm just not ready to commit.

She’s already seeing other people. We still talk often and I’ve visited her a few times. I honestly wish her the best in life and she deserves all the happiness in the world, she’s really an amazing person. I can’t stop crying while I’m writing this, but it’s just difficult for me to see someone that I love, someone that I shared 8 years of my 20’s with - dating other people.

I moved out and now I live with my parents. I’m extremely grateful and lucky that I have parents who were willing to take me in and provide a roof over my head and food on my plate otherwise I’d be living on the streets. I've been living here for 3 months now, and I can’t stop thinking that I’m just sitting here wasting time. My parents are getting older and I can’t be relying on them to be taking care of me. Thinking about this leaves me sad, frustrated and feeling hopeless.

I struggle to go to sleep and wake up in the mornings, if it weren't for that fact that I have to drive my parents to work in the mornings I honestly wouldn't wake up at all.

My entire day is basically spent on the computer, playing games, watching videos and streams and whatever else I can find to keep my mind occupied and distracted from the fact that I am an absolute loser.

From the second I wake up I take 4 steps to my computer and sit my ass down for the entire day only getting up to go eat and go to the toilet and have a smoke.

When I get into bed I often cry myself to sleep. This isn’t what I had imagined my life to be like. I had huge ambitions… I had a vision of who I would be in my 30’s and my reality is the COMPLETE opposite.

I want to change my life but I don’t know where to start or what to do.

I feel hopeless and scared that I’ll never be able to live a happy and productive life.

[Eternal_Happiness]

QWYP said:

I’m just frustrated and feeling hopeless about my future…

I've been suffering from depression and social anxiety for about 7 years now and haven't done anything about it because I’m too much of a coward to go seek help.

I was living with my girlfriend of 8 years and we mutually decided to end things because she has hopes of getting married and starting a family and she obviously has a time limit. And at this point in my life, in this head space I'm just not ready to commit.

She’s already seeing other people. We still talk often and I’ve visited her a few times. I honestly wish her the best in life and she deserves all the happiness in the world, she’s really an amazing person. I can’t stop crying while I’m writing this, but it’s just difficult for me to see someone that I love, someone that I shared 8 years of my 20’s with - dating other people.

I moved out and now I live with my parents. I’m extremely grateful and lucky that I have parents who were willing to take me in and provide a roof over my head and food on my plate otherwise I’d be living on the streets. I've been living here for 3 months now, and I can’t stop thinking that I’m just sitting here wasting time. My parents are getting older and I can’t be relying on them to be taking care of me. Thinking about this leaves me sad, frustrated and feeling hopeless.

I struggle to go to sleep and wake up in the mornings, if it weren't for that fact that I have to drive my parents to work in the mornings I honestly wouldn't wake up at all.

My entire day is basically spent on the computer, playing games, watching videos and streams and whatever else I can find to keep my mind occupied and distracted from the fact that I am an absolute loser.

From the second I wake up I take 4 steps to my computer and sit my ass down for the entire day only getting up to go eat and go to the toilet and have a smoke.

When I get into bed I often cry myself to sleep. This isn’t what I had imagined my life to be like. I had huge ambitions… I had a vision of who I would be in my 30’s and my reality is the COMPLETE opposite.

I want to change my life but I don’t know where to start or what to do.

I feel hopeless and scared that I’ll never be able to live a happy and productive life.

Hey mate,

The struggle for survival is real but don't feel as though there is no hope in this world. Have you thought about booking a session with your GP to do a sleep test? If you are overweight, and have trouble sleeping and are depressed, you can do a free sleep test either through a hospital or through a sleep lab. Also, don't feel bad about not working. Do you have any experience at all? Have you thought about looking at places like Indeed/Seek/Jora for Jobs that might be suitable?

[Fr00tbatt]

Hey mate.

after reading your story, so many things rang true.

I too recently separated from my girlfriend of 8 years and i am also in my 30's. She moved on very quickly and its painful and discouraging. but when i left i knew i could not be the person she needed in her life anymore and that she would be happier finding someone who could be that person and we both needed to take the steps to fulfill what was best for both of us and that unfortunately couldn't be together. I am glad that she has things working out for her. Its painful to see but i know it was for the best and its good you're still in contact.

I moved back in with my parents for a few months which gave me some time to work things out a bit and get some kind of direction. they supported me and as i was also afraid to get help they came with me to see a GP and get a mental health plan. i was put on some medication which after a while gave me a bit of focus back and start looking at options to help with sleeping and other ways of coping.. Having someone who knew what i was going through and trusted come with me made it a bit easier. Is there someone like your parents or friend who would come with you to the docs when you might feel you're able to?

keep battling mate.