CHRISTMAS 2018/NEW YEARS Chillout Lounge

[kanga_brumby]

Hey Everybody! Christmas is the time of year to enjoy & share with family & friends. Some people will spend this time alone & isolated too!
This is a safe place where people can post and say hello, chat or send wishes to others and have a 'Virtual Christmas/New Years'!
Whether you have plans for Christmas/New Years or having a quiet one you can kick back and just enjoy company of others. Its been a long year. Even if you have never posted on Beyond Blue before you are very welcome to come in and sit around our 'Virtual Christmas Tree' and chat 🙂
You asked for this Paul here it is for all.
Santa (AKA Kanga Peter) Ho Ho! 🙂

[CMF]

My head is in turmoil again.

It's like someone through a heavy item into the middle of a still, calm body of water and the ripples just go on and on and on.

[PBelle]

I have decided that Christmas day is the perfect day to send an email to a loved one, explaining my anxiety issues. I just hope that they read it and understand and don't just delete it. Hoping that the Christmas spirit will allow that. I'm going to be anxious cause I won't know unless I get a reply. I'm just going to have keep my fingers and toes crossed for that while trying to enjoy the day with my parents.

[ninjetta123]

Hi all

I am suffering crippling anxiety. I've come out of a violent 4 year relationship and thank God I'm still alive. He is locked up, remanded until late January then who knows how long he'll be given. There is a full intervention order out on him which he breached around 30 times before he was finally arrested and remanded. His abuse was psychologically destroying. He broke in twice while I was out. Destroyed my tv's my stereo my coffee machine. Took my favourite perfume took my dogs and dumped them at the pound.. it goes on but I just get sick of this fear and my heart beating so fast all the time. Night time is horrible. I hardly sleep just listening for noises etc. I was getting camera's installed but I think I need to move away. Away from the horrible memories somewhere he can't find me. I don't enjoy Xmas at all. I am isolated from my family partly his doing as well. I think I'll take advantage of the free trains on Xmas day and visit a friend who I know is by herself. I haven't helped myself by self medicating with alcohol.. trying to block out the way I'm feeling. I know it does me no favours and only makes my anxiety worse. But that was 2 days ago and I plan on getting out of the house to at least buy some food.

Thanks for your posts. They really help.

[Doolhof]

Hi Ninjetta,

I'm so very sorry to read your story and do hope you manage to catch up with your friend so you can share Christmas together.

Maybe you could send a text to family members, wishing them a Merry Christmas. You never know what the outcome might be. Do they know that your partner has been locked up?

Please feel free to connect anytime you need to with people here on the forum and also with the support team at Beyondblue on 1300 22 4636.

As horrid and traumatic as your life has been recently, it does sound like you have the opportunity to make this Christmas different from what you may have experienced recently.

Wishing you a Christmas where you find a sense of inner peace, even if it is just a little bit!

Cyber hugs to you, from Mrs. Dools

[Doolhof]

Good Morning Everyone,

It is lovely to see people using this thread to express their feelings about Christmas, the happy and the not so pleasant! This morning I saw a Facebook message from my older sibling telling people to "think about Family" for Christmas...maybe I will hear from my sibling tomorrow! I have been trying to contact them to see what they are doing for Christmas and have had no reply.

To all of you doing it tough, I wish you acceptance that expectations may not be met, realisation that you can change your thoughts and emotions, even a little on Christmas Day and any day.

We can think outside the box like GG and decide how we want to feel today and tomorrow and how we go about making each day the best it can be for us and our loved ones. We can decide if we are going to contact family and friends or not or if we will wait around all day for them to call us, then be disappointed if they don't. ( I will phone my sibling later today or tomorrow night)

Last night we visited friends in the suburbs of Adelaide and had a lovely Christmas dinner and time with them. I was the designated driver, so on the way home, I deviated down a few streets to see some Christmas lights. Some displays were beautiful.

Wishing you all some peace, a sense of self care, calmness and joy this Christmas, Love and hugs from Dools

[CMF]

Merry Christmas Eve to all,

Mrs D summed it up well. We have all come here for different reasons, circumstances, needs and wants. Whatever yours may be know that WE, the BB community, are in this together. No one is alone, No one has to celebrate anything if they choose not to,No explanation needed, no masks to wear. Just be you and know you are cared for Nd supported right here.

CMF x

[Birdy77]

Beautifully expressed CMF and Mrs D

xo❤xo

🌻birdy

[CMF]

Thanks Birdy x

If no one objects I'd like to light some candles to remember those loved ones who are not with us this Christmas. They are not here in spirit but always in our hearts.

There may be a food fight, on a trampoline, in the BB cafe next door, beware of flyings pavlovas coming over the fence.

[ninjetta123]

Thank you Mrs D.

Yes.. I've gotten off my butt and I'm taking the train to see my friend. She suggested I stay a few days just to get some restful sleep. So I'm happy about that.

It's nice to know we're not alone and have a place like these forums to come to.

Thanks again x

[Doolhof]

Hello Everyone,

Just popping in again before our visitors arrive, wanting to add more love, hugs, care and concern to this special thread.

CMF I like to light candles too for loved ones who are no longer with us or who can not join us on Christmas Day for one reason or another. I will be doing that again today.

Birdy, safe travels for tomorrow, if I remember correctly you have quite a journey Christmas Day. Hope you have your songs ready for the trip!

Ninjetta I wish you and your friend all the very best for Christmas. It sounds like the change of scenery will do you some good.

To everyone else reading, thinking of you as well and hoping you all keep safe over the Festive Season.

Christmas blessings to you all, hugs to those who like them, to those who don't like Christmas, I hope you have a lovely day regardless of it being the 25th.

Cheers to you all from Dools

Time to turn the lights on the tree and put the Christmas music on ready for our visitors!