Feeling overwhelmed and need to talk.

Beaser · ‎06-06-2022

I wish this wasnt the case but things are getting overwhelming for me again . The world just seems a lonely place at the moment. I have friends who i seen on the weekend and i do get relief then. Its when i get back to being by myself that i crash. I have an appt with my psychologist today and had GP appt but he cancelled on me . I have had recent life events that have really made me distraught and lonely the main being a relationship breakup.

Im also unhappy at work and i feel like everything is so grey for me.

I have been a life time sufferer of anxiety and depression and being 56 it has tired me out. Im actually quietly proud of how i have managed to keep going and get as far as i have . Im scared about where i will end up from all this as i dont know where to turn . I have tried all my life to be a good person and think i have been .. I have always helped where i could and been a good citizen.

My family seem to have a history of depression and anxiety but i feel i have copped the worst of it . Ive always been oversensitive and let things affect me. I just want all this anxiety and depression to go away.

I have turned to these forums recently and its been a help to me . My anxiety and depression just gets so tough at times.

Where do i turn too in this place i just want to be happy again and want the same for others. Brett

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Beaser · ‎15-01-2023

Had a read of some peoples situations and there are some very familiar stories. Ive been away camping and had a great time. I just feel a crash now that im home alone again.. I feel an urge to reach out to my ex girlfriend but i guess i know it will do me no good. I have a sudden urge to apologise for some of my behaviours, which really werent that bad , maybe i neglected to make her a priority at times and i regret that.

sbella02 · ‎17-01-2023

Beaser,

I'm sorry to hear about your dilemma here, thank you for confiding in us on the forums. I know that feeling of wanting to reach out to somebody from your past who you feel you have more to say to. This is an entirely personal decision of course, but there may be a few important questions to consider before reaching out.

Firstly, what has made you want to reach out? I know that you mentioned how you've just returned from a camping trip, were you feeling the urge to contact your ex before the trip? If yes and this is something you've been thinking about doing for a while, maybe it would be useful to say something small.

What would you like to achieve from reaching out? Being on good terms, maintaining a friendship, etc. Are there any significant benefits to making contact with your ex, or perhaps any major consequences?

I know that if there's something I wish to get off my chest that is directed to somebody, it can be useful for me to write out everything I'd like to say in a journal entry. If your intention is to express your remorse or take accountability for past behaviours, this can be a healthy way of doing this without having to reach out to the person, which can help avoid any real-life consequences that could come from making contact.

At the end of the day, making contact with somebody from your past is a very personal and time-specific decision to make, and it's important to listen to your mind and what you feel is the right thing to do. I hope this advice helps, please feel free to reach out more if you need. We're here to support you.

SB

Beaser · ‎17-01-2023

Thank You SB.

Im very grateful for your reply and understanding of my situation. I realise that making contact could have some negative consequences. I think i realise that there isnt a lot to be gained , after i last reached out by text i wasnt in a good place as a result after it. We are on good terms and i would hate that to change and i certainly dont want to upset her in anyway. Its always been me who has made the first move since we split so i think that says something in itself . I also notice i am no longer on her friends list on facebook so i guess that is a way of her wanting her space from me. I think i just have to let her make the first move if there is to be contact. I want to be a gentleman and be respectful of her at all times. Thanks again SB. Hope to talk more i appreciate the support. Brett.

Beaser · ‎22-01-2023

Feeling lost of late. I know we all have our different battles and im respectful of everyones situation. I dont know why but im struggling at the moment . I feel that my depression and anxiety has cost me so much over my life. Im 56 so ive fought hard for so long. Relationships, careers, family contacts and so much else. Im scared at the moment and the loneliness is so hard. Beaser.

Beaser · ‎31-01-2023

Feeling a bit scared again. I get horrible feelings of guilt with my depression even though ive really done nothing wrong.

sbella02 · ‎23-04-2023

Beaser,

I apologise for not getting back sooner, I've only just seen this post now. How are you feeling now? Any better/worse since the last time you've posted?

It can be horrible to feel like depression and anxiety are consuming your life. Have you had the chance to chat to a professional about how you're feeling? A GP, therapist, or psychologist may be able to offer some professional advice, reassurance, and coping mechanisms for you.

Please let us know how you're feeling.

All the best, SB

Beaser · ‎24-04-2023

Hi SB

Thank you for your kind reply and please dont apologize for anything its hard to keep up with posts . I justhope your going ok yourself.

I spoke to a specialist /physc online last week and she has prescribed something different so im following her instructions. I also have had my dogs take for the time being as i just cant cope with them at the moment. Its been hard as i am in a unit and no real yard and they were weeing inside and that was becoming a trigger for me. I had to decline a job that i thought would be a bit overwhelming for me and that has upset me a lot . Im 57 and worked since i was16 and its been a tough haul. It has been a tough few weeks . Hope you have a Happy day SB. Aways good to hear from you. Brett.

TLD1968 · ‎30-07-2023

Hi Buddy,

I woke yesterday feeling the most disengaged I have felt for some time. I was lost and walking around trying connect with some sort of realistic place and emotion. I came across two things that helped me become a little more grounded. One was this website which showed me I wasn't alone. Then a started a journal of my truth and thoughts, I started to write and found myself writing and then deleting as I found myself trying to meet other peoples expectations. The truth is I needed to hear myself and connect with myself rather than tick the boxes of others. I have found someone who I haven't acknowledged in a long time. ME. Its not easy , it is confronting and scary. I stop and start in-between reading this forum. I walk away when others expectations enter my thoughts.

In short I have found these two avenues helped.

I acknowledge you and resonate with your pain and confusion at this time.

Be kind to yourself buddy.

Beaser · ‎30-07-2023

Thank you TLD.

I appreciate you taking the time to reply to me.

You make alot of sense.

I like what you say about acknowledging yourself i guess thats in a way what i am doing.

Im sorry that you are going through some pain yourself and want to wish you a happy day.

Brett.

sbella02 · ‎30-07-2023

Beaser,

I'm glad to hear that you've been speaking with a specialist, that's good. Pets can be high maintenance, as much as we love them, and if it wasn't working for you at the time then that's okay.

That would've taken a lot of self-control and discipline to decline a job you felt would've been overwhelming. Prioritising yourself and looking out for your needs are important, even if it may be difficult to pass up opportunities like that. You deserve a break.

Good to hear from you too! As always.

SB