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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remember, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anxiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for your post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthwhile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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Losstt Feeling lost
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I feel very alone and anxious all the time. Today is a bad day. I feel like nobody loves me. I spent the day looking up mental health facilities thinking i need to admit myself or something I don't know what i hope to acieve from this post

I feel very alone and anxious all the time. Today is a bad day. I feel like nobody loves me. I spent the day looking up mental health facilities thinking i need to admit myself or something I don't know what i hope to acieve from this post

Goose93 Gday everyone this is my anxiety
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Gday everyone! Ive always been an anxious/no self confidence person. Ive done a course of anti depressants a couple years ago. I went through a horrible relationship getting cheated on by an 23yo woman when i was 17/18 inwhich she ended up having a k... View more

Gday everyone! Ive always been an anxious/no self confidence person. Ive done a course of anti depressants a couple years ago. I went through a horrible relationship getting cheated on by an 23yo woman when i was 17/18 inwhich she ended up having a kid that wasnt mine (thank god) but she stuck around and led me on. Because of that i went of the rails. I started smoking, drinking heavily and gambling everything i had. Icut ties with my family at that point. I put on so much weight which cooked what little confidence i had. I tried to move myself away from the problem and pursued my dream of being a pilot. I finished my studies and am now qualified but the timing was horrible and i didnt end up getting a job. I ran out of money and reached out to my family who brought me home in a heartbeat. Started work at a petrol station and ticked off another bucket list activity of travelling europe. I woke up a few days later and decided enough was enough. From that day i dropped the smokes, gambling, antidepressants and lost 35kg in weight. I felt a clean slate. I started a business windowcleaning on the side of my other job. I then had a woman walk into my life which was the first woman since the last relationship. I love her to bits butapparently she treats me horrible according to her famiky and my friends. Stuff gets to me occasionally but I understand she has been through her own trouble. I know deep down she is a nurturing loving soul but she has a rough outer shell. She encouraged me to move in with her after 3 months and she is so easy to live with we have lived together over a year and she is starting to push marriage. I constantly fear though that she is cheating on my even though all she ever wants is to be around me. To make matters worse i have horrible health anxiety. Ive had my head scanned for brain tumors that obviously arent there. I had a pain in my right testicle and thought the worst. Ct scan showed nothing and all pain gone the next few days. Company offered me a full time job. I took it. As soon as i did the other window cleaner left town so ive copped everything. I work 60+ hour weeks while worrying about health and relationship problems. Huge panick attacks in the past and am getting them again. After getting them i feel tired for weeks on end. Ive been to 5 different doctors and all have told me anxiety. Struggling with the lack of support from gf and severe health anxiety. Thanks for reading.

Mum-in-training I feel different
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My anxiety has always been easy to distinguish from others, theres always the signs i recognize. But for the past couple of months its not so easy to tell whats what anymore. I feel so sad, like i want to cry all the time. I feel like everything i do... View more

My anxiety has always been easy to distinguish from others, theres always the signs i recognize. But for the past couple of months its not so easy to tell whats what anymore. I feel so sad, like i want to cry all the time. I feel like everything i do is not good enough so i wont bother trying which makes me feel like crap because i dont have the energy or motivation to do anything. I feel like my 1 year old daughter and hubby would be better off if i just ran away and never came back. I feel so angry that nothing i do is ever good enough. I hate looking in the mirror to see the disgusting person i have become. I hate trying to dress myself when its easier to not think about what im wearing because i get so so self concious when i try to look nice for an event or going out because nothing i wear makes me look good. I dont want to smile because my brain brings something forward to make it go away. I don't know why I'm feeling like this. I don't know why this is happening to me. Does anyone know what this is? And what can i do. Please i am so desperate right now. I need help bad..

Flower Earth angel Dental ANXIETY / PTSD 3 years
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Can any one help i dont feel safe laying at the dentist...for a long prodecure and extraction. i have have neck issues and severe ptsd..ear problems imworried when im laying there or ifthey put me tosleep my weak body wont cope. I wish i was strong..... View more

Can any one help i dont feel safe laying at the dentist...for a long prodecure and extraction. i have have neck issues and severe ptsd..ear problems imworried when im laying there or ifthey put me tosleep my weak body wont cope. I wish i was strong...i wish i can feel ok. I donthave a psychologist ii had onebut it was awful. and wont have time to book a new one. i dont know if ill have family orfriends to come with me but illtrynot that it willchange it Much appreciated.

Smiffy25 New to Anxiety
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Just looking for answers really... For the past few months I have been having what has been described online as anxiety attacks. I have the following symptoms: Fear of every ache and pain. Feel like I’m short of breath. Tight chest. Racing heart. Eve... View more

Just looking for answers really... For the past few months I have been having what has been described online as anxiety attacks. I have the following symptoms: Fear of every ache and pain. Feel like I’m short of breath. Tight chest. Racing heart. Everything seems to scare me for example I will feel a twinge in my arm and that will send my mind in to overdrive Next minute my heart is pounding then I think I’m breathing funny each thing making it worse. I can’t seem to get out of my own head always thinking and I can’t seem to pinpoint anything that is making me feel this way. Im constantly scared that I’m ill and I’m scared of hospitals and doctors I went and had an ECG on my heart which is fine but I’m petrified of needles so I don’t want a blood test. Im basically on here to find out if this is anxiety and if other people are having these same feelings and if so if there’s anything I can do to stop it??

pinkgeek Stressing about food is making me anxious
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Hi, I'm not entirely sure this is the right place for this but I figure since its making me anxious it's a good place to start. PS Sorry for the long post. Basically in the last few months I've become super conscious of the food I eat, I also have hy... View more

Hi, I'm not entirely sure this is the right place for this but I figure since its making me anxious it's a good place to start. PS Sorry for the long post. Basically in the last few months I've become super conscious of the food I eat, I also have hypoglycemia. In the past I have had an attitude that would had I acted on it, definitely lead me down the physical path of bulimia. I am average weight and a little shorter than average but have a very petite (naturally petite) family. I don't wanna play the blame game but my father put a lot of pressure on me during my teens about my weight, quite often my meals were moderated for me and I was unable to have extras or be made to do laps around the block because I had been lazy that weekend. I was very active in my teens and am moderately active now. I have gym twice a week and play netball on the weekends and have training once a week. Recently my PT has been hassling me about food as I have not been eating enough and have been struggling more than usual in our sessions. This has lead to my being extra conscious of making sure I get enough fruit and vegetables but often once I start thinking about food I stress myself out that I start feeling sick and so I only make myself eat half of anything (because food is good) otherwise I will get sick from not eating enough. But sometimes the only things available are chocolate bars etc and I have to eat something because I will faint or vomit from low blood sugar which in turn makes me feel worse. Anyway this has recently led me to actually getting sick before my gym sessions and having to calm myself down before going. So what I'm asking is whether this is serious enough for me to get help or whether I just need to pull myself together and make sure I have support and proper food available when needed.

Tails77 It's never too late to keep trying. Hi, I'm new here 😀
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Hi everyone, I'm not sure where to start, this is my first time posting, though I've been reading posts here for a long time. I've struggled/dealt with anxiety and depression on and off since I was a teenager. I'm now 40. My current bout started 3 mo... View more

Hi everyone, I'm not sure where to start, this is my first time posting, though I've been reading posts here for a long time. I've struggled/dealt with anxiety and depression on and off since I was a teenager. I'm now 40. My current bout started 3 months ago and has hit me particularly hard. I've seen psychologists over the years but haven't found that overly helpful. However I started seeing one last year a few times, and have seen her twice this year, and feel it will hopefully help this time. I've been on ADs on and off since I was 18yrs but don't feel they've helped much either, am off to my first psychiatrist appointment later this week. My bouts used to be triggered by 'significant' stressful events like relationship breakdowns, last about 6 mths and not return for 2-3yrs. But I've now had 2 bouts in the last 2 years and am scared they're becoming more frequent. I'm petrified that I've wasted my life struggling with this condition and it now might be too late. I'm 40, single and no children, I would dearly love to have children. Ive tried exercise, diet, meditation, AD's, counselling and nothing has made a significant improvement. I'm scared that this is just the way I am and that it will be an ongoing struggle. I'm not too sure how many times I can keep going on this journey. Any support to keep trying would be appreciated. Thank you so much in advance. Gina

Lebs Anxiety is sooo hard
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Everytime im doing something, Im thingking this could be the last I am doing now.. I'm scared to get help from psychologist, asI can't accept that I'm having mental health. So i keep getting information to social media like fb, if i read something I ... View more

Everytime im doing something, Im thingking this could be the last I am doing now.. I'm scared to get help from psychologist, asI can't accept that I'm having mental health. So i keep getting information to social media like fb, if i read something I got so scared, I feel like i know what is going to happen next, and waiting for the that to happen ,like today something is going to happen to me bad. AND all day I'm waiting for the that to happen , felling nervous all day... I dont know where to get help and talk about how i feel. Im so scared.

Jabby_88 I have this little monster in my head called doubt
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Hi all, I'm 23, new to this & feel a little silly resorting to a forum but hope that putting something down in words might help me feel a bit better. for the last few months it's like I have this little monster in my head called doubt, everything I d... View more

Hi all, I'm 23, new to this & feel a little silly resorting to a forum but hope that putting something down in words might help me feel a bit better. for the last few months it's like I have this little monster in my head called doubt, everything I do it's like this voice in my head questions if it's what I want to do, or if it's how I really feel, or makes me wonder how my life would be if I went a different path. i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half, he's not perfect, and the last few months haven't been wonderful, but I love him. I know I do. I want babies with him & to grow old and have a life together, That being said I always find myself questioning if I love him enough, just that little voice in my head again, for a while it's like that thought was stuck on repeat and I just couldn't get rid of it..it's not as bad these days but it still happens & drives me crazy because he's what I want, we live together & I guess the affection from his end isn't wonderful, which in a way i guess makes me feel a little like I'm not good enough, or that there's something wrong with us..With this being said it leads to the next thing, a few months ago I was at the gym and randomly got a thought of what would it be like to be with a girl if my boyfriend and I broke up, now this sent me into absolute melt down, this thought got trapped in my brain stuck on repeat and literally left me feeling helpless and hopeless, I couldn't go to work one day because the anxiety of the fact that 'what if I'm a lesbian' was eating me up inside. Personally it's not for me, I can appreciate when there is an attractive female, but not because I want to be with them, I've always been attracted to men, always.. The thoughts aren't too bad anymore, but I still have days where they get trapped and I don't know how to deal with them or understand why they're there. I guess I'm wondering if anyone else has dealt with this, could it be because I'm not feeling satisfied in my sexual relationship with my boyfriend? I know I'm straight and this is why these thoughts are so distressing, I've looked up HOCD and think maybe it could be that? Also ROCD seems to fit me too.. It creeps up on me at the weirdest times, and it's always that little monster 'doubt' asking me what my life would be like if it was like 'this' or like 'that'. anyways that's it in short, hopefully someone can let me know I'm not tapped or crazy & that these things are somewhat normal & a part of life

Jubee Burnt out
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Hi all, I’m new here and honestly didn’t think I’d have the courage to post online. A bit of a back story I’m a 30 yr old married, mother of four children under 8 years old. We’re a homeschooling family as the local public school didn’t work out for ... View more

Hi all, I’m new here and honestly didn’t think I’d have the courage to post online. A bit of a back story I’m a 30 yr old married, mother of four children under 8 years old. We’re a homeschooling family as the local public school didn’t work out for my eldest. ive suffered with anxiety for as long as I can remembered and it is burning me out more than ever now. The demands of being a stay at at home mum, feeling lonely but surrounded by tiny people is exhausting! I feel horrible for my children because my anxiety has caused me to be a grump and not at all a ‘fun’ mother. I desperately want to find a suitable school but it’s difficult because I obsess over how far away it is and how I’ll go driving there (driving is another issue). I always worry over my children’s health even with a basic flu/cold I assume they’ll be in the hospital on an oxygen mask or something. One tiny cough and I go into panic mode it’s awful. You’d like I’d be past that with having four children but it’s amplified. I have feelings of wanting to put the kids in school and daycare and find a job for myself to zone out but then I can’t think of a suitable career for my quirks and worry wart tendencies. A few months ago I got a referral for 10 free sessions with a phycologist. I haven’t had the courage to book and call them because once again making a basic phone call gives me anxiety. It feels like a living hell and constant merry go round I want a better life for my kids, husband and myself! Please any suggestions of where to even start would be greatly appreciated!

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