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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remember, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anxiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for your post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthwhile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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_Gigi_ Afraid of losing friends
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So, basically, my whole life I've struggled a lot in social situations and had a lot of trouble making friends. My therapist thinks I have autism, which would explain a lot- especially how I interact with others. As I got older, I learned the 'formul... View more

So, basically, my whole life I've struggled a lot in social situations and had a lot of trouble making friends. My therapist thinks I have autism, which would explain a lot- especially how I interact with others. As I got older, I learned the 'formulas' of starting friendships and managed to actually make some really good friends. Now, a newer friend has asked me out. I want to focus on managing my depression before even considering a relationship (I've been especially struggling lately). My anxiety is spiking because I don't want to lose a friendship by saying no, but I also don't want to lose a friendship by being rude and not answering for ages. This friend is someone I feel unusually comfortable around (normally I take ages to warm up to people and I mask a lot) so I really don't want to blow it. I feel like a bad person for freaking out. Is this another thing everyone knows how to handle except for me, or am I overthinking again??

Guest_06474314 Anxiety worsening and I feel lost
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I've been experiencing anxiety and depression since my teens (now 38) and have managed to keep at least a semblance of being functional (keeping job/friends etc) until recently. At the start of the year I lost my dad (complicated relationship) then I... View more

I've been experiencing anxiety and depression since my teens (now 38) and have managed to keep at least a semblance of being functional (keeping job/friends etc) until recently. At the start of the year I lost my dad (complicated relationship) then I recently lost my nan who was a big part of my life until dementia stole her away. During all this I have been dealing with my mum being diagnosed with alzheimers - having to put her into care (I'm her decision maker so literally carrying the guilt of putting her there) and my step dad suffering a medical crisis and requiring multiple surgeries. All the while being assessed for autism (per gp suggestion) Throughout this it feels as if my anxiety just keeps building and building higher with barely any relief- I struggle leaving the house except for work and even then I have massive panic attacks on the way to work, I forget to take my medication as all this anxiety is causing fatigue. I can barely manage self care at all- feels as if I'm losing the self I was under all the stressors and anxiety. I know I should see my gp- but the problem is I feel like I'm being 'weak' and taking up their time over this. I've tried telling my sister a little of what is going on- ie said I'm struggling visiting mum (she's recently become agressive/im called daily with issues as her ower of attorny) because anxiety is so bad and she responded that it's better I go in even if it makes me a 'bit uncomfortable ' as it deescalates her behaviour. But it's not just' a bit uncomfortable' - it's full on fear and panic, shaking,crying spiralling. At one point standing on the train platform contemplating bad options not because I wanted to hurt myself but just wanted a moment of peace/not being anxious. I dont know how to get my sisters to understand this when they've never been this way- they get a little anxious but have never (as far as I'm aware) been to the level I am. They're outgoing, confident people compared to me. I feel as if I keep going on this path it's not going to end well but don't know how to get out of this anxiety hole.

Sam2 depression/C-PTSD/ OCD and now panic attacks
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have slipped back into a deep depresion due to feeling so lonely as i live with Cptsd depression and OCD and find it hard to socialise or make new friends yet i find myself yerning for friendship mainly somone to talk to about my problems, yes i see ... View more

have slipped back into a deep depresion due to feeling so lonely as i live with Cptsd depression and OCD and find it hard to socialise or make new friends yet i find myself yerning for friendship mainly somone to talk to about my problems, yes i see a scy every 6 to 8 weeks but i havent been able to get in and its the longest i have gone without talking to my therapist, i just want to hang out and talk either with ppl that have been going through the same thing or just anyboody who can advise me on how to get through the worse and sttart to make me feel better as a person Reply

Lauryn21 Burnout & feeling anxious after being sick
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I am just getting over the flu and trying to get back into my daily life & work however I’m feeling like I’m burned out and I am so anxious to get back into my work. I work 1:1 with clients and am a professional at what I do however I keep getting th... View more

I am just getting over the flu and trying to get back into my daily life & work however I’m feeling like I’m burned out and I am so anxious to get back into my work. I work 1:1 with clients and am a professional at what I do however I keep getting this feeling like I am not good at it and the anxiety from getting back into the work that I have worked so hard for is getting to me.Is this normal and is this just my body telling me I need to take time to recover more because I do love what I do, I want to continue doing it but I keep getting this anxiety.

stroud Fear
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Hello, This is my first post. I am 55 year old male, happily married with a couple of awesome kids and financially secure. Unfortunately I have suffered from depression and anxiety badly for the last 4 years. My anxiety seems to be getting worse. I a... View more

Hello, This is my first post. I am 55 year old male, happily married with a couple of awesome kids and financially secure. Unfortunately I have suffered from depression and anxiety badly for the last 4 years. My anxiety seems to be getting worse. I am afraid of many things. I am afraid to drive on the highway, am terrified to try and teach my daughter how to drive and an very scared of an upcoming overseas trip. For some reason I am just terrified that something horrible is going to happen to one of my kids and I feel as though I may contribute to this by making a mistake or having a panic attack whilst driving with the family in the car etc. I also used to play lots of sports but am frozen with anxiety these days and really struggle with performing any sporting activities without my anxiety taking over and causing me to freeze. Not sure if anyone can relate to these feelings and or offer any advice?

Amara Bouts of Anxiety
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I have been struggling with (undiagnosed) anxiety. I have bouts of it. I will be feeling fine and then will do something or have something happen that triggers it and my mind catastrophises it. So for example:- I googled and printed some ben 10 pictu... View more

I have been struggling with (undiagnosed) anxiety. I have bouts of it. I will be feeling fine and then will do something or have something happen that triggers it and my mind catastrophises it. So for example:- I googled and printed some ben 10 pictures for one of my kids on the work computer during my lunch hour. Not something I normally do, and then i spent the whole afternoon silently freaking out that maybe one of those pictures could have had a virus that I have now downloaded and I will have to explain to work about the pictures. I ended up binning the pictures because they caused me so much anxiety to look at. - if I go past a mobile speed camera, even though I know I was doing under the speed limit, I will start to question myself. Maybe I wasn't under the speed limit and then spend the next two weeks checking the app for a ticket. These types of incidences and triggers seem to be happening more and more. Generally every day I have to check things are locked/ turned off like three or four times. I feel like I am spending so much time fighting myself that taking on life is exhausting. I am a mum of twin boys with behavioural/developmental issues, working full time and paying off a house. I feel like I am responsible for everything and my partner just has no responsibility. I need to tell him to do things to get them done (e.g. housework, drop offs for kids, etc). He isn't on the mortgage as he has child support/student loan debts that i wasn't aware of until after we had kids. He is concentrating on paying those off but it means he can't help paying extra off the house. Sorry for the rant. I have put in Doctor's appointments and chickened out on keeping them. I just need a break from the anxious feelings and don't know how to voice that to a doctor to get help.

Guest_76012991 panic attacks
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I have been having panic attacks more recently and when that happens I overthink loads and have loads of negative thoughts. Like I think i’m not smart enough, I’m not pretty enough, I am useless, nobody’s cares about me. I feel awful and I can do not... View more

I have been having panic attacks more recently and when that happens I overthink loads and have loads of negative thoughts. Like I think i’m not smart enough, I’m not pretty enough, I am useless, nobody’s cares about me. I feel awful and I can do nothing when this happens except try to breathe and wait it out. I would love suggestions about how I can try to relax when this is happening. I am already taking medicine and seeing a therapist and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do, I feel so alone.

Dirox Anxiety because I have been sick.
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Hi all, I have been sick since December. The doctors are not quite sure what it is. I have had every test you can think of. They think I have gastroparesis ( which is my stomach is emptying too slowly) I have nausea, pain in the stomach and loss of a... View more

Hi all, I have been sick since December. The doctors are not quite sure what it is. I have had every test you can think of. They think I have gastroparesis ( which is my stomach is emptying too slowly) I have nausea, pain in the stomach and loss of appetite. Since then I have become very anxious about anything. Has anyone been through this. Please let me know. Wishing you all a great day. 🥰

Guest_65297329 I feel like I can’t talk to anyone
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I feel like I can talk to anyone about anything I told one of my friends about my stuff that being going on and then someone told me that I wasn’t allowed to talk to anyone and now I feel like I can’t talk to anyone and I don’t want to be here

I feel like I can talk to anyone about anything I told one of my friends about my stuff that being going on and then someone told me that I wasn’t allowed to talk to anyone and now I feel like I can’t talk to anyone and I don’t want to be here

Ail_ Peripheral Neuropathy
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I have had numerous sleepless nights because of restless legs Sometimes I only have 2 hrs sleep i take medications on prescription and over the counter pain killers Have numerous showers Am desperate to find some help Doctors have given me no treatme... View more

I have had numerous sleepless nights because of restless legs Sometimes I only have 2 hrs sleep i take medications on prescription and over the counter pain killers Have numerous showers Am desperate to find some help Doctors have given me no treatments to follow or drugs for RLS I have been diagnosed with Peripheral Neuropathy Anyone with same problem