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Chris_B Forums etiquette: give support to receive support
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Hi everyone, particularly any new members who may be reading. From time to time, we get contacted by members who are unhappy that they haven’t received a lot of replies to their posts. Our community champions work very hard to make sure that all newb... View more

Hi everyone, particularly any new members who may be reading. From time to time, we get contacted by members who are unhappy that they haven’t received a lot of replies to their posts. Our community champions work very hard to make sure that all newbies are welcomed when they first post, and we understand that it’s a big step to post for the first time on a forum like this, especially if you aren’t feeling great. It’s important to remember, though, that these forums are a community of real people, just like you, not a one-on-one support environment like going to see your psychologist. To get the best out of being here, one of the best tips we can offer is give support to receive support. Being a good community member means: participating in different threads (not just your own), replying to people who have taken the time to reply to you (even if it’s just to say thank you), and... posting words of emotional support and encouragement when you see others who are hurting and reaching out. You don’t have to feel obliged to solve the problems of others: that’s not what we’re here for. But you can offer empathy and what you’ve learned from your own life experiences, even if it’s just a line or two, eg. “I don't know what to say, but I want to give you my support and tell you I care about what is happening to you and hope life will get better soon.” Try to develop an interest in the journeys of others here on the forums. You may be surprised at how good being an active, caring member here can make you feel. For those of you who have had good experiences giving support here on the forums, please post in this thread here and let us know how it has helped you on your journey.

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MainlyG Tight hips and body (anxiety)
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Hi all. 39male here. Only my 2nd post. Have many had really tight hips from anxiety? I feel I may have anxiety and will tell GP in weeks ahead. Signs are... -worrying about things (never used to) -stress -tight hips -always tired -feel pretty weak -b... View more

Hi all. 39male here. Only my 2nd post. Have many had really tight hips from anxiety? I feel I may have anxiety and will tell GP in weeks ahead. Signs are... -worrying about things (never used to) -stress -tight hips -always tired -feel pretty weak -by 5pm I'm cooked (even on days I don't work) In saying that I have had a pretty big 6 months but I have been relaxing-mindfullness etc. I must admit the 2 glasses of red at 6pm really does loosen my body up so I'm going to continue that. but back to my original question, have people experienced ridiculously tight hips with anxiety? I'm seeing a physio weekly but obviously he doesn't talk about anxiety. He does say they are so tight.

jonjr short story " to disappear"
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I would like to share some of my stories about my struggle. I wright them during real moments as a snap shot, I have to edit them into stories as often they can be just a jumble of words or nonsense sentences i scribble down at a point in a journey. ... View more

I would like to share some of my stories about my struggle. I wright them during real moments as a snap shot, I have to edit them into stories as often they can be just a jumble of words or nonsense sentences i scribble down at a point in a journey. i hope you like them To disappear Its 3 o'clock I am up and sleep is not on my mind, theirs nothing to do theirs no one to talk to. I make some tea to try and distract myself for the feeling of collapse that my mind is in. No where to go ,no doors I can open, I feel trapped. The nurses stare from the glass station pretending to be occupied by work but I feel the glancing looks from behind the screens. No where to hide I am in constant line of sight.. I begin to feel the wrath of my own mind as the speed of my thoughts quickens, repeating the same messages over and over. The feeling of something coming, the inevitable sense that I am not about to be me. Confusion, pain , in this moment I am not sure where I am. It takes a while for the surroundings to become some what normal and familiar. I am not where I was, theirs no cup of tea. The nurse is beside me calling my name , I hear her and try to focus on the voice. You disappeared for a while she says, the reality of what happened hits home. The evil triplet the strangest of the three Mr dissociative has had a play. The other two siblings anxiety and panic are still there, like they been freed from there estranged partner in crime they continue the offensive. I remember nothing from beginning to the end its like I had simply vanished Its not a new thing to me nor is it surprising but it is terrifying and totally un welcome. Over the years I have learned It can not drive, it does not know left from right, stairs seem troublesome. I still wonder what it is like though, do I talk , can I run or jump, so many things without answers. I stand up and make my way back to my tea ,its gone cold. 4 o'clock that is 1 hour I have lost for ever, it has simply disappeared.

Hitchcock Share House Anxiety
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Hi all, I've been sharing a house with a couple (James, Sarah) for the last 18 months and it's presenting a few difficulties and contributing to anxious feelings: I hope it's appropriate for me to collect some of my frustrations here in the hope for ... View more

Hi all, I've been sharing a house with a couple (James, Sarah) for the last 18 months and it's presenting a few difficulties and contributing to anxious feelings: I hope it's appropriate for me to collect some of my frustrations here in the hope for some advice. I had known James for 8 months prior but had never met his partner Sarah. James and I got along relatively well as colleagues and coincidentally were both forced into a quick exit from our previous living situations and felt it would be appropriate to move in together. We had a few interests in common, so we figured it could work. Sarah is a self confessed introvert - we have nothing in common and struggle immensely to strike any sort of rapport unless there are a few beers involved. If we're in the communal area, at most it's a "Hey, how are you? Good" and that only stems from me initiating the conversation, otherwise she will pass by like I don't exist. If I enter and they're present, she will almost instantly leave, allowing James and I to have a slight amount of chit-chat that more often than not feels forced (for the sake of us knowing each other prior. He isn't a brilliant conversationalist also) before he leaves. I love my downtime, but I guess I'm also relatively extroverted. I feel I often need to speak to break the tension within the room just to feel like there is even a small sense of community. I try to strike subjects that I know they're both interested in, even if I'm not as well versed to try and lay some foundation in the hope that the next day might not be as difficult. You can literally cut the tension most days like butter. When I eventually burn out and can't be bothered trying and want to ignore them myself, I'm the worst person ever however. I don't want to be best friends but I feel perhaps a little bit of effort on both of their behalves would go a long way in making the house a little more enjoyable. I respect their space when cooking and will join the kitchen from my room once they've sat down to watch some television, but more often than not find I'm locking myself away in my room just to avoid the uncomfortable situation that inevitably awaits me. This is an ongoing thing during lockdown and its starting to affect my mental health hugely. Constant stress and anxiety; avoid them - feel bad, try to help, feel worse. It's a really uncomfortable environment. Apologies if this is a ramble, any thoughts or experience with this is greatly appreciated. Thanks kindly.

Fiatlux Easter Anxiety
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I know many of you will understand the anxiety of holidays and family gatherings. I have absolutely hated them. My abusive husband would give me a stern warning even before we got in the car to go anywhere that I had better be good or else… Strangely... View more

I know many of you will understand the anxiety of holidays and family gatherings. I have absolutely hated them. My abusive husband would give me a stern warning even before we got in the car to go anywhere that I had better be good or else… Strangely he remembers family gatherings as fun. Even my children remember him menacing me in the car as they got older. He would make all celebrations about him. Christmas we tried a small family gathering, just 4 of us and this he had to ruin by telling awful untrue stories of me from 25 years ago. I spent the next few days crying. I want to see my sons if for no other reason than to give them an Easter egg, but I have yet to contact them to try to arrange a catch-up. I absolutely hate Easter

Supportrequired Drank and kissed two men
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Hi All, it's been a rough day some of this is self inflicted. I understand that. Last night a enjoyed a few drinks and ended up missing two different guys. I'm single. I live in a small town and everyone knows everyone. I'm panicking it will get to m... View more

Hi All, it's been a rough day some of this is self inflicted. I understand that. Last night a enjoyed a few drinks and ended up missing two different guys. I'm single. I live in a small town and everyone knows everyone. I'm panicking it will get to my workplace and everyone will be talking about it. I'm scared and just about to go into an emotional breakdown over it. I know the act itself wasn't bad as they are single too. But it's more the social scrutiny that's really working me up. Help!

Kimczar Family estrangement
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My son my 26 year old has disowned me again . This is the third time . He has chosen this time to disown his brother my oldest my youngest his other brother . I’m so sad .

My son my 26 year old has disowned me again . This is the third time . He has chosen this time to disown his brother my oldest my youngest his other brother . I’m so sad .

GingerMegs SLOWLY LOSING MYSELF
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I am beyond my breaking point and my nerves and anxiety and depression can't take it anymore, my partner doesn't understand me she always has high expectations of how the house should be cleaned I clean it up as much as I can within the time I can be... View more

I am beyond my breaking point and my nerves and anxiety and depression can't take it anymore, my partner doesn't understand me she always has high expectations of how the house should be cleaned I clean it up as much as I can within the time I can before going to bed and mind you I feed our kids clean them put them to bed she doesn't understand my mental health problem I have taken her to all my appointments yet she tells me oh you arnt on the lease your never clean you don't put things where there ment to go you don't do anything in this house she has always been like this 6 years of hell I'm only staying for my boy, my 2 step kids never listen to me, she always has high expectations of what should be done and if it gets late and it's not done she gets angry like what have you been doing all that crap yet I'm trying to get as much do as I can when I have to go to work the next day, it's very hard and emotional and physical mentally.

Shemila Hardest day of my life
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Today has been such a struggle, the last time I felt even close to how bad I feel today was 4 years ago. I live at home in my parents but I just took a job interstate. I drove here over 3 days with my dad and today was the day he went home. I have ne... View more

Today has been such a struggle, the last time I felt even close to how bad I feel today was 4 years ago. I live at home in my parents but I just took a job interstate. I drove here over 3 days with my dad and today was the day he went home. I have never been alone before and had my worst panic attack ever where my fingers went numb and my legs were shaking. I spoke to my managers and they said they would write up a support plan for me but at this point I just want to go home. If I do leave though I know I'll regret not trying it out and I'll hate myself. Nothing can be worse to how I'm feeling now. At this point I'm going to start my training tomorrow and see how It goes, I just dont want to quit before giving myself a chance to settle in. I don't know what to do but right now I feel absolutely awful

DaisyDills202 I have been too I mean I'm way to tired...
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I am going through things that I don't get Being with this certain person can get so exhausting And I don't want to be with anyone else cept those meant to be Everytime she gets near I get anxiety...or troubling... Sometimes I don't really get her or... View more

I am going through things that I don't get Being with this certain person can get so exhausting And I don't want to be with anyone else cept those meant to be Everytime she gets near I get anxiety...or troubling... Sometimes I don't really get her or what she wants...I just want to be with people who are uplifting and fuun Nothing serious. I am too tired for anything else... some parts of me want to be left alone without that person haggling too much energy on something i don''t understand... can someone get rid of these blues for me? make me feel better? some parts i don't understand what shes going through or what she thinks too etired...

Annadolcia Panick attach & blocus in throat
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Hi everyone, i am so glad I found this forum 3 month ago I got separated with my partner as he couldn’t stay with me in Europe anymore due to his visa. It was the first time we got separated and I got very depressed. I have always been very anxious. ... View more

Hi everyone, i am so glad I found this forum 3 month ago I got separated with my partner as he couldn’t stay with me in Europe anymore due to his visa. It was the first time we got separated and I got very depressed. I have always been very anxious. 2 weeks later I had my first panic attack and ended up at the hospital. I was very scared since then I have this constant feeling of something stuck in my throat.. as well as a very dry throat and couch. i made the mistake looking online and now all I can think of is throat cancer. Now I am back with my husband and this feeling doesn’t go away. I went to the GP who thinks I might have acid reflux as well as a thrush. I am taking antibiotics and reflux treatment. He also think that the more I am anxious about cancer, the more my body create acidity and tighten my throat the feeling doesn't go away. I can quite eat normally even though sometime it feels like it takes effort to go down. And now I don’t eat much because I am scared it would get stuck has anyone ever had that feeling of tightness and lump in throat ? i am really scared and the more I think about it the more I am convinced I have throat cancer. i am a 33 female. much love