Hi everyone,
I'll try and keep this as short and sweet as possible.
My boyfriend (BF) lives on campus at uni and I stay with him about 2-4 nights a week. One of his main reasons for moving on campus was to make friends. We both originally shared a friend group, but had a falling out which means it very rare that we hang out with people outside of us two. While I am totally ok with this and have very little desire to make new friends, BF is the opposite. He misses having a more friends and has always liked the idea of having lots of friends.
So because of this, living on campus seemed like a really good fit for him as there are always heaps of uni events and "hall activities" going on. At the start of his first semester there he went to almost all of the orientation events, but being mid year not many people went so he didn't meet anyone there. In the following weeks he also went to a fair few hall activities but after each time he came back disappointed about not hitting it off with anyone. As time went on he also became more and more annoyed with the people at the events and eventually just stopped going to anything non essential. During this time he would get quite depressed about not being able to meet people and would be really harsh on him self.
This year starts another semester on campus for him and despite uni not being officially back yet, already he is getting a bit depressed about not going to the hall activities. I think he's gotten to the stage where he's too afraid that he'll fail again. Naturally he isn't a super out going person and as much as I hate to admit, at first glance he can seem a little standoffish despite being an incredibly caring and interesting guy.
I would hate for this to be another disappointing year for him so I have come for the advice of all you lovely people as to what you would want me to do if you were in his situation?
Any advise would be greatly appreciated!!
