Is it okay that I actually prefer not to talk about my problems?

[Bemo]

You're probably thinking right now that what I'm asking is whether it's okay to bury your feelings down and ignore them, but that's not actually what I mean.

What I mean is, if I have something that's bothering me deeply and someone, on the odd chance, actually happens to notice that I'm not myself they almost always say, "You'll feel better if you talk to someone about it.". But the problem is, I never actually feel better if I open up to someone. Whenever, I do try to tell people what the problem is I either have this psychological tendency to be never be satisfied with the answer, or I simply just feel like I could never explain it well enough for them to actually understand the point I'm trying to get across. Most of the time I can't understand what I'm feeling, so how could they possibly understand what I mean? I know that sounds patronising and condescending, but it's true. I just feel like regardless of whether I try to talk about it or not I'm stuck with the same mental state as I had before hand - It doesn't really seem to change anything, so I avoid it. 

Is it alright that I do this or is it just making the problem worse?

[cherrytree]

In my experience, it's a slippery slope. When I decided "nobody gets it so I'm going to avoid talking about my problems or what's bothering me, because what's the point?", it became something of a cross-roads and I ended up spiralling downwards really badly after that point. My own mind became my worst enemy, gradually enough that I didn't pick up on it. But it began when I stopped talking to people.

I think talking to others, even if it doesn't seem to help, keeps a kind of aeration going, and keeps things flowing. Once you stop that, I think it can become a quick and easy slope down into stagnation and increasing loneliness. For me, when I aired some of my thoughts, at least people could sometimes call me out on things I said/thought that weren't true, or sometimes give a different perspective. But because I felt so bad all the time, I didn't feel any different after talking to them, I still felt dissatisfied and misunderstood and alone. Giving up on others was when my inner darkness started winning. 

So, my thoughts are, don't give up on it. Keep the flow going. It may be sustaining you more than you realise. Just my 2c.

[meatloaf]

Hi 

i know exactly how you feel, I find it really difficult to express myfeelings and I don't find talk therapy that helpful either. That being said keeping stuff bottled up is just as bad...I started to keep a diary of my thoughts even if they make no sense, and I sometimes draw, badly, to try and express how I'm feeling.

much love to you xx

[_NaturalTalent_]

Cherry tree has said most of what i would, but Meatloaf has a really good suggestion there, what he is referring to is actually known as "Creative/Expressional Therapy"

Its range is extensive! Everybody should Google search it and read into it!!