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I want to get help !

JaneyP
Community Member

Hello Everyone,

I'm really wanting to better myself and I know a massive step in doing so is going to see a doctor.

I am really considering doing this but I have problem.

My problem is that I have absolutely no idea how I would start this off.

What do I say to them?

Do I just come out and diagnose myself to them.....

How do I start of the conversation?

Argh, I'm so confused and I have major anxiety about talking to people like this and I get super nervous.

I really want to see a doctor to help but I'm also dreading it.

I need help!

Cheers, Janey x

6 Replies 6

pipsy
Community Member

Hi JaneyP. May I ask what exactly you need to see a Dr for? If you're experiencing severe depression, yes, a Dr would be your best starting point. If it is physical - again, yes a Dr to possibly refer you to someone for assessment. To start with, seeing a Dr to discuss whatever your problem is, all you need to say is Dr I need help. I understand where you're coming from, if you're not in the habit of seeing Dr's. Try to remember, they're people, like everyone else, except they have medical knowledge. Perhaps if you make the appointment, then write down some of the things you wish to discuss with him/her. This way, if you're feeling slightly tongue-tied through anxiety/nerves, showing the letter would help eliminate the problem of how to say, what. Do you have a close friend/rellie that would be prepared to go with you, the first time.

Lynda.

trustlife
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi JaneyP, thanks for your post. I totally concur with pipsy on this.

You could also open up with your doctor with the following:-

Tell him you have no idea how to start this conversation and it can make you anxious.

Tell him you know you should be talking to him.

If he/she is any good they can start with just that. After that it becomes a natural 2-way conversation.

blondguy
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hi Janey

I just thought Id see how you are going. Have you had any luck with seeing a doc?

You are not alone here...you are very welcome to post back as many times as you wish!

Kind Thoughts

Paul

JaneyP
Community Member

Hi All,

I have not seen a doctor yet as I am just to anxious about it.

I just don't know what to do at this point at it's really frustrating me and not helping at all !

I just don't know who I am anymore, I just don't know what to do.

pipsy
Community Member

Hi Janey. I can hear the desperation in your post. Also the nervousness. Have you thought about phoning BB's helpline to discuss how talk to a Dr. If Dr's are not people you regularly see, the process of making and keeping the appointment can be a bit daunting. I think BB also has a list of Dr's at the top of the page if you're unsure who to call. I gather there's no-one close for you to talk to about this?

Lynda.

PatT
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Janey,

It's incredibly hard to make that first big leap and get yourself out there (doctors offices used to be an awfully anxiety provoking place for me too) but I think we both know it's really got to happen at some point. You have to ask yourself "how long do I want this to continue for?" I completely empathise with you - tired all the time, losing the will to go around with your everyday routines and all the physical and emotional exertion that accompanies it. But one day you're going to have to push yourself and really start to make some changes.

You have come forward and started talking to us and that's a great step but you just need to push that little bit harder and get to the doctors office. Alternatively, like Lynda suggested, ring the beyondblue chat and use it to get some stuff off your chest. It helps to speak to people on the forums but a real voice can sometimes do a wealth of good. Also, do you have anybody that you can speak to in person? Family, friends etc.?

I'm so sorry you're feeling like this, but everyone of us knows how you're feeling and you're never alone. I'm 24 and I feel like I've gone through enough emotional drama to make me about 90 years old. I was in a terrible place for most of my teens until about last year. But I've gotten better, heaps better. There is always light at the end of the tunnel, it just takes some dedication and time to reach it.

Pat.