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[Hello9000]

Hey guys.

My parents just recently broke up, probably around 3 months ago. I don't speak to my dad now. He does not speak to me. he is quite rude to me, every time we talk.

my mum has found a new partner. And lately my anxiety levels have been sky rocketing.

I have also been quite moody.

im glad my mum is happy now.

but am unsure why my anxiety is sky rocketing.

i also worry about things / situations that happened ages ago, and re evaluate them.

One of such was about a year and a bit ago. I was out and had a bit too drink and tried to get with a girl, got rejected. Later found out that she was quite annoyed about it.

do I have anything to worry about?

thanks

[geoff]

hello, thank you for your comment and welcome to the site.
Are you worried about what your dad may do to your mum because she has now found a partner, because if you are happy for her doesn't take away the fact of what your dad could do.
Why does your dad treat you like you're not his daughter by speaking rudely to you, and even though you're pleased for mum this means that you have to get her new partner to get to know you, and that can be scary.

Have you been to see your doctor because it appears that you are suffering from PTSD, although I can't diagnose you because I'm not a doctor, but this thought obviously keeps annoying you.
Was she annoyed with you because you actually tried to hook up with her, or was she upset because you had too much to drink, however do you still see her.
There's been a lot going on for you at the moment and understand why you are worried, and sorry there were more questions than answers, but please understand that we want to help you, and would love to hear back from you. Geoff.

[pipsy]

Hi Hello9000. Not sure of your age, so don't know if we can be of assistance here. Parents breaking up affects children in so many ways. The arguments before, can cause kids to question whether it could be their fault. It's usually nothing to do with the kids, but they still question what did they do wrong, how could they fix it. I'd say your dad's moods could be because he can't change what caused the split. he shouldn't be 'taking it out on you', however, be that as it may. I would be inclined to keep contact to a minimum till he is in a better place emotionally. Your mum having a new partner possibly has also contributed to dad's moods. In the meantime, you have no-one you can talk to about your feelings and emotions. Trying to kiss a girl possibly scared her if she was not sending you signals of interest. Have you tried to talk to anyone about how you're feeling with everything that's been happening. Perhaps asking a Dr for a referral to a therapist/counsellor to try and sort out your emotions would be a good starting point. Maybe also short term AD's to help relax you, if you're feeling uptight/rejected etc.

Lynda.

[Neil_1]

Hi Hello (isn’t that the most confusing of two words together!) 🙂 :)

Ok, so it sounds like a very tough situation for you at home. You’ve mentioned that you don’t speak to your Dad – did you initiate this or is it because of how he was in the marriage? Apart from you and he apparently not getting on overly well, do you feel safe at the moment? Ie: from your Dad and that he “is” ok with your Mum’s new partner?

Alrighty – the attempted kiss was over a year ago. I’ve made mention about this on your other thread. I guess my question now is, as it’s so long ago, it’s a bit of a concern that you seem to be still dwelling on this. Are you in regular contact with the girl or have you never seen them since?

Do you have some friends/mates who you get along well with? Perhaps to be getting in with them for a bit, might help you – to get out and about kind of socially. Just a thought.

Kind regards

Neil

[Hello9000]

Hello,

I have not seen her since. However I think worry about the smallest of things.

Do you think I'm all good now?

I think I just dwell on stupid stuff, that doesn't need dwelling.

As as for my parents I think I will be okay.