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[Hello9000]

I tried to kiss a girl a while a go and got rejected when I was out. She evidently was not happy. I'm feeling anxious about all this. I realise it was a bad idea. Will everything okay. Should I be worrying.

[Doolhof]

Hi Hello,

No. I don't think you need to worry at all. People don't always like to be kissed or hugged, so it is no big deal if this girl did not want you to kiss her.

You haven't given us a great deal of information to go on. Is the girl your girlfriend? If so is it the first time you have tried to kiss her? Maybe she just was not ready. Not everyone likes to kiss on the first date, or even the 100th date.

If she is a good friend, maybe she thinks that is all the relationship is between the two of you, she might not see you in a romantic light and that is okay too, as friends are very special people to have in your life.

Can you phone her and let her know you are sorry if you upset or offended her. She might discuss this matter and she might not.

Try not to worry about this too much. Hopefully it will sort itself out.

Let us know how you get on.

There have been a few guys whom I have kissed and they were not at all excited by the prospect. Others were so that is okay.

Cheerio for now from Mrs. Dools

[Hello9000]

I only just met the person.

[Neil_1]

Hi there Hello9000

As with what Mrs Dools said, you’ve got nothing to worry about – I’d put this behind you and move on – nothing more to see here.

Oh boy though … you’d only just met her and you’ve gone to plant one on her. I’m not overly sure why you’d try such a thing in that instance, but hey, we all live and learn; and the more you live, the more you learn.

It is great to hear that you know that it was a bad idea – and so you can store that in the bank, to know this isn’t quite the way we go about things.

How are you feeling now about things? As Mrs Dools also said, you didn’t supply too much information, so if you’ve got other things to talk about, why not, if you feel ok to do so, put some of those down in writing.

Neil

[Doolhof]

Hi Hello9000,

Some people believe in love at first sight, but that does not involve everyone and it does not mean that because you have met someone they will be obliged to let you kiss them.

Maybe put yourself in their shoes, would you like some person you have just met to give you a kiss? Guess it might depend on who that person was!

Do you have this girl's number so you can apologise to her?

Like Neil mentioned, if there is more to your story that you would like to share, people are here to read.

Cheers from Mrs. Dools

[geoff]

hi, have you had your eye on this girl for awhile, because I wouldn't think that you would just go up to a girl and try and kiss her, but she may have been on your mind quite a lot.
All those girls that I adored when I was young and always wanted to kiss them but I was too scared and never did, or even ask them out, I was never game enough too frightened.
Have both of you had your eye on each other, continually meeting eyes together, looking for her and she with you, wanting to connect, and if so then it's natural to believe that she liked you and was ready for a kiss, boy, how many times has that happened with me, countless times, far too many to even remember, but if I was game enough it might have been too soon, because she might be as scared as I was.
Just because she rejected your approach doesn't mean that she dislikes you, she may want to move at a slower pace, so maybe you could go and see her and say 'sorry', that's all, and if no response from her is given then walk away, but if she starts a conversation then take it slowly.
Don't lose your confidence over this, there will be many more times it may or may not happen, so don't be discouraged. Geoff.