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Smile8
Community Member
I have moved to a new place recently. I am not very good at making new friend. Come to think of it, not really recently. I have moved to this new place for nearly a year. Feeling down. Spending a lot of time on the net. I guess that is how I found this forum. Ironical.
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Fairywings
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
Hi there lovely and welcome xx I am sorry ur feeling down atm but heads up we r a great bunch here and we are all here to help u get thru ur darkest times. There is a forum for young people where u can go in and chat with others similar in age xx worth while checking it out bb social zone is another goody to check out nice to have a laugh and chat this one off the serious sidea bit 😉 please feel free to open up to us about anything and everything u r safe here and will not be judged u will find most if not all of us will be able to emphasize with you in some way shape or form. Nice to have spoken with you i hope you have a wonderful day xx take care now venessa

Zeal
Community Member

Hey Smile,

Welcome to the forum!

Even though you have been at this new place for about a year, it's understandable that adjusting to the change is still hard. I take time to adjust to change too. I'm 23 and female by the way, and I have actually lived in the same family home for my whole life! While I don't have personal experience with moving, I'd like to try to give advice as best I can.

Technology can become a trap in a way, and you are not alone in feeling that your Internet time is becoming too central in your life. Did you move location with your parents, and a sibling too? If you don't mind me asking, did you have good friends where you used to live? Calling, Skyping them and using Facebook chat to communicate is a good idea. While this isn't the same as in-person contact, it will still enable you to keep in touch. Also, how far away did you move from where you were originally?

If you feel unhappy and isolated, it is worth talking to a family member about this. Making an appointment with a doctor (GP) soon is also wise. If you haven't yet found a regular GP near your new home, this is a good time to do so. Even if your mental health/wellbeing is not currently jeopardised, having a GP appointment can function as a check-up. If you would like to speak to someone understanding over the phone, Beyondblue's 24/7 helpline is on 1300 22 4636.

If you would like to talk further about your situation, please post back here.

Best wishes,

Zeal

159357
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
you can find friends on the internet and you might even prefer that. THink about going outside and when you want to do it. Maybe ride a bike around at night. One thing to watch out for is when you go out you might get some really bad anxiety about not being kept up to date with those possible friends, so make sure you're prepared for camping etc.

Smile8
Community Member

@ Fairywings. Thank you for welcoming me. I am so happy to receive replies.

@ Zeal. I am here by myself for work. I have a few friends back home but not very close to them.

@ ewrc. Thank you for your advices. Maybe I should get a bike. When I go out with people, there are many awkward moments where I do not feel important.

Fairywings
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
your very welcome anytime xx Venessa

159357
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
Good luck, remember to try to get quality friends.