DEPRESSIIom

[Alyssa_M]

My name is Alyssa and I am currently in term 4 of year 7(about to finish) ,I have tried almost everything to try and deal with my constant depression but can't seem to shake it.I have been bullied and teased most of my life and have had to deal with people crushing my confidence and lowering my self esteem down.I went into year 7 hoping that everything would change because I'm in a new school(and I had new bright attitude towards it )but I fell into the wrong group of girls who were nice at first but then turned on me very quickly,they called me names and didn't want to be friends, leaving me alone.My mum is one of my biggest supporters but I got teased that I was so close to her.my mum always helped me through it but I don't feel she completely understands so I turned to this website for help(I found it when I was searching "how to deal with depression".I feel like I don't won't to go to school or do anything and I don't want to eat, I just want to lie there.It kinda feels good getting it out on this website but I would be really great full if anyone could help me or to see if anyone is in my same situation.sometimes I think that I'm the problem that's why no one wants to be friends and that I should just go away.

Thanks

[Touille]

Hi Alyssa,

Welcome to the forums.

You are brave for writing your post.I'm sorry you feel depressed.

Growing up and dealing with kids at school can be hard, especially bullies, well done for coping the best you can. Even though the girls rejected you, surely you can meet some other girls who could make good friends.

I suggest you let your mum know you feel depressed so you can see a doctor and possible counsellor, they help in getting you to feel better.

It's great your mum supports you, don't let other kids humiliate you, stay away from them, they are insecure to bully others.

Do you have any nice siblings or other relatives to talk to?

You can always contact a professional on BB here to chat to.

You must eat or it will make you feel worse.

Feel free to express yourself more, there are many caring people on here.

Hugs

Touille

[Zeal]

Hi Alyssa,

Welcome to the forum!

To have the courage to post on this forum at your age is great. I'm sorry to hear that you are bullied and mistreated by others, especially girls at your school. You don't deserve this, and you have not done anything wrong. Sometimes young people can tell someone is self-conscious or vulnerable, and they pick on them in order to somehow make themselves they more powerful, for example. It's unfair that people like you who are struggling with their mental health are bullied like this, which makes everything harder.

Starting a new school with a bright attitude shows you have strength. Having a close relationship with your Mum is great. My Mum has always been supportive of me too. I'm about double your age, but I still live at home, and I am still close to my Mum.

Going to your doctor (GP) about the depression is the best way forward. Your Mum can take you and sit in the waiting room while you talk to the GP. She could sit in there with you too. When I was your age my Mum generally still sat in on my appointments. It is up to you, and what you feel is right for you.

[Zeal]

Hi again Alyssa,

I just experienced a computer error (or maybe my hand slipped on the keyboard), so I will continue writing to you now! 🙂

You could jot down concerns/topics on a notepad, and take this to the doctor appointment. This way, you won't need to worry about forgetting to say something. Your GP may refer you to someone else, like a counsellor or psychologist. This will all be handled by your GP, with the help of your Mum, so all you need to do is just ask your Mum soon about making the GP appointment.

There are online resources I often recommend to people on this forum. I think you are probably just old enough to be able to engage with them. If not, your Mum can work through them with you.

Here they are:

http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/infopax.cfm?Info_ID=37 (depression info)

http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/infopax.cfm?Info_ID=47 (self-esteem info)

https://healthyfamilies.beyondblue.org.au/ (this site could be useful for your Mum)

http://www.mindhealthconnect.org.au/

On the Beyondblue homepage, you can find useful info by clicking on headings on the blue menu bar. The facts has info pages on different mental health conditions, including depression. Your Mum might like to look at the info under Supporting someone. Healthy places is also worth checking out - for both you and your Mum.

I hope something I've said has helped.

It would be great to hear back from you Alyssa 🙂

Best wishes,

Zeal

[Alyssa_M]

Thank you touille

i find if very comforting that people on this site are really nice.since my last post I have found a new group of friends and I don't worry as much when talking to them unlike the girls before.sometimes I still relapse into a state of depression but my mum has really helped me through it.Once again thankyou,u really helped me get a hold of myself.

Kind Regards

Alyssa

[Alyssa_M]

Hi Zeal

As I was reading your post,I found it very very helpful and insiteful.I was especially glad to here that you are close to your mum,it made me feel as if I wasn't alone.i have told my mum about the way I feel but I'm a little frightened to go to a GP or therapist.My mum says that if i really need to go I can but she said that she is always there.Im confused on whether I should go or not because my mum has been talking to me and getting me to do some activities to help.i can't tell u how much your reply helped me I really appreciate it so thankyou

kind regards

alyssa

[Gen_Why]

Hi Alyssa,

I was teased badly at school too, unfortunately people like to pick on others; and seem to think its all fine and dandy. Because they get a kick out of it. Ive been through it too! My entire school life was no picnic, but now I'm a little older and wiser. I can tell you this from experience; there are people out there that are nasty and ugly inside. That want a reaction, but if you try your best, rise above them. Theyll look pretty ridiculous making fun of you if you act like you dont care, cos who are they to judge you!? Are they all so perfect? I dont think so!! My mum is my best friend too. I can tell her anything! And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, that is what parents are there for! 😉 chip away at it, keep your chin up. And never let them bring you down!! Cos they will grow up to be bullies and you certainly are far better than the likes of them.

:)​

[Zeal]

Hi Alyssa,

I really appreciate your positive feedback - thank you! It's great that my reply has been so helpful, and made you realise that you are definitely not alone. Having your Mum's continual support is fantastic - I am glad you have such a caring Mum like I do. While your Mum's support is valuable, seeing a doctor (GP) is still worthwhile.

Best wishes,

Zeal