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moving house anxiety.

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hello, I'm 20 years old and my mum and I are moving house..and for some reason it has triggered a lot of anxiety for me. I worry and stress and over think everything the house we are moving to is a lot smaller and older than where we live now and I d... View more

hello, I'm 20 years old and my mum and I are moving house..and for some reason it has triggered a lot of anxiety for me. I worry and stress and over think everything the house we are moving to is a lot smaller and older than where we live now and I don't know why, but I can't seem to adjust to it. my boyfriend is amazing but he doesn't really understand anxiety and gets a little frustrated that I'm not as happy and talkative as usual and my mum tells me it's frustrating for her. I don't want to always be upset and worried about everything but I can't help it. so I was just wondering if anyone has experienced this before or has some tips to get through it? anything would be appreciated thankyou so much xx

My Story: An Emotional and Physical Rollercoaster

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Hi,I am a female 16 year old and in my last year of high school. I have had troubles with my weight for as long as i can remember. As of the 24th of January 2016 i weighed 93.9 kilograms, i am a size 16 and i have a BMI of 37.3. According to the Worl... View more

Hi,I am a female 16 year old and in my last year of high school. I have had troubles with my weight for as long as i can remember. As of the 24th of January 2016 i weighed 93.9 kilograms, i am a size 16 and i have a BMI of 37.3. According to the World Health Organisation i am considered obese. I have had my doctor tell me i have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. I have appointments with a dietician once a month. The last 6 months have been the biggest impact on my mental and physical health. I did my research and found that i am at a high risk of infertility and type 2 diabetes. Time and time again i have convinced myself "i'm not that big" or "i haven't eaten that much". This self-delusion had only led me further down the path of self-destruction. My mum and my dad have tried everything to snap me out of this vicious cycle prior to the doctors appointments etc. I was extremely stubborn and only thought about the fact that they were hurting my feelings. So, late in 2013, i began to hate myself. I thought i had to be punished for being in the state i was in. So i self-harmed. This caused me to get depressed and very very anxious. I then developed anxiety disorder and cyclothymic disorder. I talked to my best friend and he suggested i address this as soon as possible because it was obvious i was only going to get worse. I did try to commit suicide once, fortunately, it didn't do any damage. It was an extremely dark time for me and i felt like no one could help me. I then decided it would be advisory to see a counsellor. It was solid 9 months of counselling that finally helped me enough to stop hurting myself and stop thinking negatively about myself. The one and a half years after that were a huge rollercoaster of boyfriends, drugs, sex, alcohol and yes, depression and anxiety. In september of 2015 i decided it was time. Time to get my shit together for my own good. I woke up to myself and i accepted the harsh realities about myself. I have only lost 3 kilos but i am very determined to get to my goal weight of 75kgs. It is going to take a while and there will be obstacles and trials but i am praying for a successful year and hopefully, successful years to come. Thank you for taking the time to read my story, i hope you can take something from this as this is a most important lesson to love yourself and those around you and never underestimate all that is being put in front of you. Take all opportunities, there isn't a second to waste

Trouble making friends at university

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Hi guys, looking for some advice here. I'm starting my third year at a huge university, and I've made no friends in the 4 semesters I've completed thus far. I'm an accounting/finance major, so you can say my classes aren't all that interactive betwee... View more

Hi guys, looking for some advice here. I'm starting my third year at a huge university, and I've made no friends in the 4 semesters I've completed thus far. I'm an accounting/finance major, so you can say my classes aren't all that interactive between students. To give perspective, the teacher starts speaking at 5 past, and finishes speaking at 5 too. There's not much room for socialising, and at most I've made a few acquaintances. I have tried joining a club but was unable to commit (I have anxiety and couldn't balance it with my uni workload). Whilst I have friends outside of uni, I'm getting lonely being by myself every day. I hope someone can help me get out of this rut, because I'm feeling rather hopeless right now.

How to tell parents

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So I'm a fifteen year who is a member of a defence family. Ever since it as five I've had to move from state to state every 2-3 years for my father's work. Ever since grade 4 it started to become harder. I barely noticed it then, but no I look back a... View more

So I'm a fifteen year who is a member of a defence family. Ever since it as five I've had to move from state to state every 2-3 years for my father's work. Ever since grade 4 it started to become harder. I barely noticed it then, but no I look back and realise that this was the time what I now believe to be social anxiety formed. Little things such as worrying about speeches, what was in my lunchbox, and did people judge how I sounded (I have a lisp and a weird ScottishxNorwegian accent). It slowly worsened, and grade 7 was absolutely horrible. Those three years had it become worse, but my confidence around certain people improved. I started to slightly like how I looked, and how I acted, and even figured out my sexuality, which is all good. Speaking to a teacher or doing a speech in class was still a problem though, unfortunately, but still, I had gotten better in some areas. Every time I mentioned this to my parents, they would say I 'was being stupid', 'acting silly', 'trying to get attention', and when there was a thing on the news about increasing anxiety issues in teens, I ticked off every of the symptoms they talked about, whilst my parents called it 'rubbish' and that all the kids with those 'mental issue's were acting 'like idiots'. The only mental issue they acknowledged was ADHD, as my little brother had been diagnosed with it, my 'poor, precious baby' who is nine and obviously the favourite. If you can't guess it, my parents are very against most things. End of 2015, and the dreaded posting of where we would move. I had a panic attack at school when I told my friends, and had to convince the office not to call my parents. It was horrible. Just an hour ago, my mother and I had an argument about when she should drop me off. She wants to drop me off half an hour before the bell goes so that my two brothers can be dropped off a few minutes before their bells go. She tried to tell me that it wasn't fair for them to have to stand around for ten minutes, whilst knowing nobody and looking awkward. I countered with 'what about me?' because it felt really unfair that I had to sit for half an hour without knowing anybody and looking like an idiot. I want to try and tell her that when I talk to people I don't know that I panic inside, and that being in a new environment makes me scared, and just going outside makes me think of everything that could go wrong, but if I do, she'll probably say I'm acting 'childish' or 'immature'.

The start of a big change

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So I've written so many drafts for this post but none of them seem to really satisfy me so I'll just talk to you, I guess! I just graduated high school, I landed myself a full time job and I'm earning money. What more could a teen want? The thing is,... View more

So I've written so many drafts for this post but none of them seem to really satisfy me so I'll just talk to you, I guess! I just graduated high school, I landed myself a full time job and I'm earning money. What more could a teen want? The thing is, I hate it! I don't want to be apart of this so called rat race. I want my life to have purpose and so I can look back and be content with it. Most people would sayfind my passion, right? Unfortunately, I've never really had a hobby or belief that I've kept with. So I looked at my life experience. Something that has turned my life upside down that I could rant and rave about until I'm blue in the face? My dad. He took his life seven months after I was born due to the overwhelming pressure of bipolar. This is one topic that I'm so passionate about. Growing up, anyone that felt alone or sad could count on me to chat to because I couldn't allowed another family to go through and experience what mine had. I guess this is why I'm here. I'm keen to get involved and do dad proud. I'm excited and nervous but I'm ready for this!! Bring on 2016 and my road to help others

Anxiety ruining my relationship

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Hi, ive been dating my girlfriend for 6 yearsnow.I havent been diagnosed with any type of anxiety, coz Ive never seen anyone about it,but I'm pretty confident I have it. When I was in year8 I started experiencing these intrusive thoughts. It was like... View more

Hi, ive been dating my girlfriend for 6 yearsnow.I havent been diagnosed with any type of anxiety, coz Ive never seen anyone about it,but I'm pretty confident I have it. When I was in year8 I started experiencing these intrusive thoughts. It was like a voice in my head telling me to do certain things (nothing big or serious), and if I didn't do them,then something bad would happen. The thoughts weren't severe though,because I was able to tell myself thatthey obviously weren't true, and I trained my mind to ignore them and eventually I forgot about them completely. I have weird habits though-when I was younger I used to have to continuously do this weird humming noise, and I had to do it twice, every time. That was only a phase though, I got over that as well.I had a bit of trouble completing assignments when I was in school, because I was obsessed on making sure everysentence and every word was perfect.I had this weird habit where when I completed a sentence I had to highlight it-it kinda made the sentence feel official to me. The volume and brightness on my laptop needs to be on an even number, and even after I've set it on an even number I'll need to every now and then just check to see that the number's even. When I have earphones in I sometimes need to take them out, clean them, then put them back in my ears, and I repeat this quite a few times. I never knew if thiswas something to be worried about, or if they were just weird little habits. They didn't have a huge impact on my life. Sometimes when my girlfriend takes me home, I'll think to myself, she might not get home okay.Its in moments like these,when I feel quite anxious, that the intrusive voice comes back-i'll tell myself if i don't do something, something bad will happen to her.I've been depressed for the last 3months, and its worsened my anxiety. Sometimes when im with myfamily,disturbing images about them will enter my mind, which make me feel really uneasy and upset-coz it's the last thing i want. I suffered a panic attack a monthago because I had convinced myself I was schizophrenic andgoing mental. The last three months with my girlfriend, I can never stop thinking-u love her, right? are u attracted to her? Can u really see a future with her? And much more. I was confident of all these things beforehand. These thoughts just make me feel nervous around her and it's ruining our relationship,after 6 goldenyears. I question all my actions and why i do the things i do. Whats wrong with me?

Problems through life.

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When I was a kid things seemed happy all the time. Now I feel like as a kid my parents hid all the scary things away from me so I could only see good. When I was around 10 I started noticing my parents arguing. My parents started fighting and at one ... View more

When I was a kid things seemed happy all the time. Now I feel like as a kid my parents hid all the scary things away from me so I could only see good. When I was around 10 I started noticing my parents arguing. My parents started fighting and at one point my mum kicked my dad out. At first I didn't really notice because after my dad kissed me goodnight he would go to the lounge and wait until I was asleep before he got out of the house and sleep in the car. I only first knew when I woke up early one morning. I left my brush in the car so I ran out to get it and there was a pillow in the back of the car. My dad still doesn't have a home. Right now he sleeps in the shed at the back of the garden. When I was in grade 2 at school, this new girl joined. I won't say her real name for identity purposes, so I will call her Tanya. So Tanya joined around year 2. We spent most of our weekends together. I thought we had a friendship. Then she was stranger. She started acting strange around me. And my other friends were avoiding me. one time Tanya approached us when we were sitting down so my friend and I just ignored her when Tanya asked to chat privately with my friend. So they went off and chat then came back and Tanya walked off. I asked, "what she say?". My friend replied saying that Tanya said nasty untrue things about me. I instantly thought, 'so that's why my only friends avoid me.'. So all my years through school just got worse. Through being punched to bones breaking. But One year. I was in grade 6. We were graduation to high school an some kids were leaving. Thankfully, Tanya was one of the kids who were leaving. So on the last day, I had fake tears and everything. I thought, 'finally! I won't be punched anymore.' I was wrong. About a year later this app called KiK came in fashion. Everyone in the class had it. And so it turned out Tanya had it too. So we made one group chat of all the people in the class. So someone decided to add Tanya. From there everyone was cool and we chat. So I decided to meet Tanya at a cafe to Catch up. When we were there she said follow me. And she led me to an alley and punched me.

i just want to live a happy normal life

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Hi everyone i am 22 years old i have a 6 year old boy i first got diagnosed with anxiety and panic attacks when i was 8 years old my first attack was in the car i had put my hand on my chest and i couldnt feel my heart beating i had ripped of my seat... View more

Hi everyone i am 22 years old i have a 6 year old boy i first got diagnosed with anxiety and panic attacks when i was 8 years old my first attack was in the car i had put my hand on my chest and i couldnt feel my heart beating i had ripped of my seat belt and nearly jumped into the front seat with my mum they pulled over and i got out of the car and my mum put her hand on my chest and my heart was nearly jumping out .. after that day i had trouble getting to sleep at night and had my second panic attack sitting on the couch watching green mile .. my mum took me to a doctor and they gave me relaxation tapes to sleep at night and there was a lady talking telling me breathing techniques and to relax... over the years hadnt been so bad after that and there were times id go into panic and id run to mum saying i feel funny and she would just tell me to breathe .. my anxiety wasnt so bad then id just have panic attacks every now and then but i still would have trouble getting to sleep at night.. When i was 14 we had been in a car accident and our 4wheel drive had rolled several times i was sleeping and i woke up to my mum saying shes not moving over and my step dad saying i cant move over any further then there was a bang and we started going sideways the rear tyre had dug into rolled and we flipped and rolled a few times before landing on our roof all i remember was grabing my brother and closing my eyes and opened them to my step dad yelling get out of the car i do not rember undoing my seat belt so i presumed it had snapped . after that ive never been able to sleep in a car and i always thinking of the worse when i am in the car with someone like a wheel coming off or something like that... anyway my anxiety had been that bad apart from the odd panic attack and still cant sleep but ive gotten odd symptoms like constipation , dizzyness, pains in random places, heart burn and reflux , i cant swallow tablets or anything cause i have a fear of choking, i get pins an needles in my feet and hands , heart palptaions, shortness of breathe which has only just started in last couple of days , hot and cold flushes, i also cannot fall pregnant again not sure if thats anxiety related or not and i get 98% of these symptoms everyday from when i wake up to when i can get to sleep. Thanks

Loneliness

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Hello, im 16 and i have been feeling down. I feel like no one cares about me, my parents dont understand and they just see me as being lazy. I have no friends that will understand either.i was gonna runaway today but didnt have anywhere to go. I dont... View more

Hello, im 16 and i have been feeling down. I feel like no one cares about me, my parents dont understand and they just see me as being lazy. I have no friends that will understand either.i was gonna runaway today but didnt have anywhere to go. I dont want to be in this house anymore. The days go by lonely and i dont know what to do. I just the loneliness to end.

Family issues

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I am an only child living in a household with an abusive father and a mother who constantly makes me feel worthless. What's worse is that she doesn't understand the pain she causes those around her with her words. My father became depressed before me... View more

I am an only child living in a household with an abusive father and a mother who constantly makes me feel worthless. What's worse is that she doesn't understand the pain she causes those around her with her words. My father became depressed before me because of the same thing. Now i am going into yr 12 and i just feel worthless about myself. Im also bisexual living in an extremely homophobic environment and I'm too afraid to say anything about my emotions because people will just call me weak. My mom will find a way to blame me for my depression just like she does with all problems. What's the best way to deal with my mom?

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