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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Funnybox67 Family isn't always blood
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I have created this thread for all the foster kids out there and all of those who are treated badly by their families. I am/was a foster kid in the Australian System. I came to be there because I was physically, psychologically and emotionally abused... View more

I have created this thread for all the foster kids out there and all of those who are treated badly by their families. I am/was a foster kid in the Australian System. I came to be there because I was physically, psychologically and emotionally abused by my family. My step-dad would lock me in my room for weeks/months on end and if i made the tiniest peep or did anything he deemed wrong. My mum did nothing to help me and my three siblings and through court, even after she told me to stop lying and that she was disappointed in me. before that my siblings and I were physically abused by her previous boyfriend and ex-boyfriends brother sexually abused me and my sister (my mum wasn't aware until years later). I went through the system bouncing from home to home facing abuse almost everywhere I went. My siblings and I were split up and are no longer close. I have gone through years of counselling to bring me to the point I am at now. I forgave my mum and stepdad and they had a child together. even with all that I am now facing homelessness. I'm living at my boyfriends mothers until I can get my own place. I'm now estranged from my parents because the more i better my life the more they seem to pull away and drag me down. My next closest sibling and I have never got along but my parents cant seem to be able to have a healthy relationship with the both of us they always need to be fighting with one of us. Today I have my dog in a kennel being paid for by CPFS because i need him for safety purposes (my bio dad is a heavy drug addict who has tried to harm my family many times), I'm homeless and I have almost nobody I am on speaking terms with that I am related to (my Nanna - bio dads mum - is always there if i need to talk but she lives on the other side of the country). however i have found family in those I'm not related to. My boyfriend and his family. My friendship group and my case manager are the family I have. So if my story is similar to yours don't be afraid to step away from your family if their abusive and you DON'T HAVE TO FORGIVE THEM!!! Just because you are related by blood doesn't mean they can hurt or control you in unhealthy ways. Remember family isn't blood its the people in your life who want you in there's. they are the ones who would do anything to see you smile. You are not alone and there are thousands of us who understand. If you need help then please seek it, you don't need to live with it no matter what.

MinNelle29 I know I'm fat and nothing can change that
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I'm a 15 year old teen and I'm really insecure about my body size. I'm not writing this so people can tell me that im not fat at all but I'd like some advice. Ever since I was 12 ish...my mum would start constently call me fat and fat shame me for it... View more

I'm a 15 year old teen and I'm really insecure about my body size. I'm not writing this so people can tell me that im not fat at all but I'd like some advice. Ever since I was 12 ish...my mum would start constently call me fat and fat shame me for it. My sister says I'm a good, healthy weight but nonetheless mum keeps going. I've tried to ignore her and yet she continues. Its come to a point where I'm afraid to change in front of her or wear non baggy clothes or dresses for that matter and my mum continues harassing me everyday for not being the average weight that people my age should have. I want her to know how i feel about her calling me these things but im afraid because anything I try I end up getting in trouble. Whenever I wear something that doesn't fit me as much as it did before..she'd compare me to people or my past self. Last year it got to a point where id starve myself for 2 ish months It hurts to have your own mum constantly calling you fat for the last 3 years and brushing it off. please tell me what I could do

thehauntisbeautiful I don't know who I am
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hello - im thehauntisbeautiful im a creative - a human who has always known who they are but lately I've been losing that aspect to myself.. I was set on a username, a name to represent me for the longest time. I was happy - but the name involved my ... View more

hello - im thehauntisbeautiful im a creative - a human who has always known who they are but lately I've been losing that aspect to myself.. I was set on a username, a name to represent me for the longest time. I was happy - but the name involved my last name, and due to family issues with my fathers side - being associated with the name really brings me out of place. To have used that username for years - to not use it, feels weird. but I almost don't want to use it anymore anyway. I've tried a new username - and I do really like it. It still has similar aspects to the last but is a complete new name all together - not involving my birth names. I do really like it - but now I feel like I'm letting my mums side of the family down. I feel the need to use my first and middle name - instead of creating a whole entire new name for myself. Ever since I was a teenager, I would always be trying to create the right username, and I did - but I can't use it anymore - and now I am back to square one. I feel like an idiot - since I changed all my social media platforms to my new username - and I might change it back to my original name and middle name. I love my new name I've made for myself - but I also feel like its foreign and nobody will truly know its me. letting my mums family down, by them seeing me not using my original name really hurts me.. I don't want that. I am just so confused. I look at other people all using their real names on social media and it makes me feel guilty for not using mine. what do I do guys. I am so confused. identity is everything to me.

spesc Easily Irritated and angered
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I was hoping to get some advice on whether there's an issue or if I'm just overthinking this Every few weeks there's a short period of time where literally everything makes me angry or irritated, even the smallest of things like someone asking me to ... View more

I was hoping to get some advice on whether there's an issue or if I'm just overthinking this Every few weeks there's a short period of time where literally everything makes me angry or irritated, even the smallest of things like someone asking me to repeat something or even a slow walker. This has been happening for roughly 1 and a half years now but I have only recently started to look for answers as i've been more aware of it. I haven't spoken to my parents about it but whenever they see i'm in this mood I always end up making them angry and they say I have a bad attitude. I have reason to believe it's just normal teenage stuff or even pms but it's never just the week before my period or the week of. I always end up yelling at people and making them mad/upset and I feel like I can't stop it or control it, it just comes out. I can never bring myself to apologize either, instead I just stay mad and regret it all in my head, which makes me upset too. I can only calm myself down when i'm alone or if no one is speaking to me but i'll get angered again easily. I've googled all I can but there's so many things and not all of them fit completely, there would be bits and pieces that make sense and then other parts that wont. I don't want this to ruin my relationships with others as sometimes I don't want to see anyone or even leave my bedroom. Any advice would be great!!

Ashely Why do I have to go to school
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I have to go to school but I really don’t want to go because some people in my class are so chatty and have no manners ,with all of that the noise levels go up and the teachers get annoyed. I find this so annoying because I try my hardest and I know ... View more

I have to go to school but I really don’t want to go because some people in my class are so chatty and have no manners ,with all of that the noise levels go up and the teachers get annoyed. I find this so annoying because I try my hardest and I know every day they will act the same . Today I really hope people behave good but I feel like that won’t happen.

Guesy_839 Social Media
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I thought I'd never use this account again, but here I am. This is mainly an anxiety thing, but it's been bugging me recently because I know it's going to happen someday. I've never done anything stupid on social media, but I'm paranoid it's going to... View more

I thought I'd never use this account again, but here I am. This is mainly an anxiety thing, but it's been bugging me recently because I know it's going to happen someday. I've never done anything stupid on social media, but I'm paranoid it's going to bite me back. I don't know, I've had multiple accounts on sites, and I'm scared someone will find out stuff. What I'm most scared for is that people are going to criticise me in job interviews based on my social media. If you search up my name, a couple photos of stuff I've liked (Pictures of nature and stuff like that). I'm just scared it'll bite me back, and I've been super jumpy over it. What do I do? Sierra (PS: It's more sites like tumblr and that, not like instagram and Snapchat)

somegirlonline Why am I here and Where to get from here
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Hi everyone. I hope your christmas this year will be wonderful or at least easy to cope with. I am writing to this forum because I have tried different methods to distract myself or even heal. I recognise I have an "issue" because a lot have told me ... View more

Hi everyone. I hope your christmas this year will be wonderful or at least easy to cope with. I am writing to this forum because I have tried different methods to distract myself or even heal. I recognise I have an "issue" because a lot have told me I need an actual help. I sought help from a GP and she referred me to a counseling service. The service however is temporarily unavailable due to christmas. Hence, here I am. Not to mention, my partner is away and I think I have a major abandonment issue. I am getting anxious even more due to this. I find myself arguing with him every time we try to keep in touch. I never meant to but it led there. At the moment we have agreed to just focus on ourselves. It's hard to explain to people how intense my anxiety gets. My partner told me I should do "this and that"to distract myself. Of course I have tried to. I find it frustrating when he just could not understand how bad it gets. At one point he gave me a call just to tell me how stupid it was for spamming him. I think we need to work on our communication. That is not the point tho. The title is "why am i here and where to get from here". I have answered my purpose. Where to get from here? I am just coping until New Year's Eve so i could reach the counseling service again. Now for anyone who has knowledge of depression, tell me, how do you keep going? People mistake depression for being a nutcase etc. Maybe I am a nutcase but I had not been properly diagnosed. My GP told me I have biological depression but I haven't got the chance to further investigate. My question is, how do we assimilate in the society so we can live among people? I love my partner, I want to be with him, but it's hard to make him understand why I am this way. I fear losing him but if I cannot make him understand, I feel like I should be alone again. Don't get me wrong, he is a wonderful person. It's just that communicating is difficult when he's abroad and I just need some advice. How do I embrace my anxiety? Or make it tolerable? I don't like to be like this. The tremor. The constant unnecessary worries. Thanks in advance. Merry Xmas.

Mask_is_on Is my health at risk?
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I’ve stayed up for the past week until I have passed out at times past 2am, I’m 15 btw. Well it’s not that bad I have stayed up passed 11pm this whole year. This is purposeful but knowing its not good for myself. Guess it has just triggered to be wor... View more

I’ve stayed up for the past week until I have passed out at times past 2am, I’m 15 btw. Well it’s not that bad I have stayed up passed 11pm this whole year. This is purposeful but knowing its not good for myself. Guess it has just triggered to be worse recently because I am a very lonely person and Nobody ever talks nor texts me. My daily rutine for the past 2 weeks has been stay up late, pass out, wake up, do chores, watch youtube, eat dinner and repeat. I have not had a proper breakfast for a long time, maybe on occasion. And as well rarely I will only have a drink and I will only have 2 sips of that and call it breakfast. I also rarely have breakfast. All I eat is dinner and sometimes at 1-4am I get up and have a snack. With this conbined with eating unhealthy I still manage about average weight in my opinion. 52kilo about.

Unsure1991 My boyfriend is so unsure, I don’t know what to do.
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Hi all, so recently my boyfriend and I have been going through a lot of issues. He is in the navy and has been away for a period of time. I noticed something was up when he wasn’t even excited to be home. we talked and he said he was having doubts an... View more

Hi all, so recently my boyfriend and I have been going through a lot of issues. He is in the navy and has been away for a period of time. I noticed something was up when he wasn’t even excited to be home. we talked and he said he was having doubts and that he doesn’t know what he is feeling right now and whether he should be with me right now. This back and forth conversation last three days with me staying at my parents for most of it. He begged me to come home and said it wasn’t going to make the decision easier if I wasn’t home. We finally got to a point where he said he still wants to be with me but he just has these doubts about long distance. However, he was still really cold to me and wouldn’t touch me or show affection. I decided I had enough and told him that I’m done trying to mend the relationship after the hurtful things he’s said. Anyways back to the point, that was the back story.... last night he told me -he doesn’t feel himself -he doesn’t feel happy anymore -he doesn’t enjoy things he used to enjoy. -he’s drinking a lot since he got back I’ve mentioned to him that it sounds like he might be going through a depressive state. I said he should talk to someone maybe a GP or someone in the navy that counsels them. He said to me he doesn’t know how. I told him I would go with him to the doctor. And he said he wouldn’t know what to do. I don’t know whether to stay and help him through this... I asked him if he wants me to help him through this and he said he doesn’t know. He just said he wants to stop talking about it. How do you help someone that doesn’t want to be helped? Should I still be with him while he’s going through this? Will breaking up with him make it worse?

Meerkat-man Paranoid. Help!
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I have been feeling really paranoid lately, like someone is watching me all the time and someone is going to hurt me even though I know that no one is watching me. I don’t know what to do and I’m way to shy to tell anybody about it. Please help me.

I have been feeling really paranoid lately, like someone is watching me all the time and someone is going to hurt me even though I know that no one is watching me. I don’t know what to do and I’m way to shy to tell anybody about it. Please help me.

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