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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Slothy99 Stuck in a job that makes you depressed
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Hi, I have always struggled with finding my direction in life and what I want to be and it has caused my parents a lot of grief and stress. So when my mums work offered me a full time traineeship, she was so excited and I said yes because at least I ... View more

Hi, I have always struggled with finding my direction in life and what I want to be and it has caused my parents a lot of grief and stress. So when my mums work offered me a full time traineeship, she was so excited and I said yes because at least I was doing something and it was making them happy, I thought it couldnt be too bad anyway. 4 months in and I am stuck in a contract that had 10 months left and I am struggling. This job is causing me so much anxiety and depression and I am not liking what im studying or doing. I cannot tell my parents this as they do not take mental illness with me serious and they will say I should be grateful. Besides this, it makes my mum in her workplace look bad if I quit. I like working with my mum but everyone else in the workplace is not good for my mental health and I feel used. I can't quit because of my parents but I want to go do childcare cause Ive always wanted to work with children but have always been too scared, hense I chose the easy path and worked with my mum. I am struggling through these last 10 months and do not know what to do as I feel a year of my life is being wasted and I could be setting myself up for a different life than this, my cert I will get in 10 months will be useful but is it worth this big mental battle and if so, how do I cope? Thank you

SnowPatrol I hate myself.
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This is my first post so it's a little scary...my feelings were quite clear when I was contemplating writing this post, however as I sit down to do it my emotions are muddled. One of the prominent feelings I am experiencing is just an deep hatred for... View more

This is my first post so it's a little scary...my feelings were quite clear when I was contemplating writing this post, however as I sit down to do it my emotions are muddled. One of the prominent feelings I am experiencing is just an deep hatred for myself in every aspect. My appearance mostly - I'm ugly and i'm not afraid to share this view of myself with others. I do not share this out of a want for people to tell me "no, your pretty", I almost do it as a cry for help. In fact it makes me so angry when people tell me i'm not ugly, because they are blatantly lying to my face. I know i'm ugly, I have eyeballs- and what saddens me most is no one besides a plastic surgeon can help me. On these forums when people comment on their appearance, the solutions offered is; to not focus on the negatives, that you should appreciate your health/able body, and that personality is more than appearance. All the solutions do not help me at all, I agree i'm appreciative of what I have, however to me my ugly face is an issue. The worst part in my opinion is that if I had a good personality, it would make up for my bad looks. I'm a terrible person. I'm lazy, rude, selfish, and unmotivated. I feel lost, I have no idea how to fix myself- how I should behave and act. I'm over feeling sorry for my self, and my constant loneliness and crave for attention. Despite the fact that no guy would ever want me, I cant even find satisfaction in my own friends. I have friends however they don't like me and I don't like them. I'm not close with anyone, and I would never show my family my true self. The person I am around them, is different to the person who I am around my friends, which is different to the person in my head. who am I? and what did I do to deserve an ugly face, it's not fair. I'm not important to anyone, I have no idea what to do with my life. I feel my only purpose is to have children, however to do this I need a partner, whom I could not get as I am me. If I wasn't here no one would notice or care. I'm not depressed as death is my biggest fear, I want to live. I'm not anxious as I never stress over anything. I'm just numb to life.

Ronny12345 Help Diagnose Me Please.
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Hi, I'm starting to believe in a God because there's no way I can be this unlucky without someone planning it. Its not big things like relatives dying or cancer or anything like that. It's just the small things. And there are so many of them. It feel... View more

Hi, I'm starting to believe in a God because there's no way I can be this unlucky without someone planning it. Its not big things like relatives dying or cancer or anything like that. It's just the small things. And there are so many of them. It feels like some God is constantly playing a practical joke on me. Nothing I do ever works. Nothing ever goes my way. And when it starts to go my way it does a 180 turn and just doesn't. Everything is always a disappointment. Anytime I make plans with my friends it always falls through. I feel like I have a lot of friends but only one of them actually asks me to hang out with him. I just hate the situation I'm in so much. The result of this unluckiness is just severe loneliness. I feel so lonely. I have friends, I have people that love me, I know i do, but it doesn't stop the feeling of just being completely alone. I spend so much time alone in my room and I don't want to but there's no where else for me to go. Anyway I'm posing this because lately the feeling of loneliness has gotten to a point where I'm seriously considering if I have depression or not. I'm always tired but I can never get to sleep. I feel like shit all the time. I'm always stressing about weather my friends actually like me or not. Recently I've been falling into crying fits. I just want to know your opinion. Should I go see a doctor? I don't feel comfortable talking about it with any of my family or most of my friends. Thanks for your time.

Lyf_is_hard too worried to attend school
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Hello, lately I've been having trouble getting through a single day at school without having some form of anxiety attack. I'm 14 and currently attend high school (grade 9). I've had anxiety for as long as i can remember but it has gotten worse in the... View more

Hello, lately I've been having trouble getting through a single day at school without having some form of anxiety attack. I'm 14 and currently attend high school (grade 9). I've had anxiety for as long as i can remember but it has gotten worse in the recent months. I'm not an academic and struggle with my school work and grades. I've got dyscalculia and have been diagnosed with Asperger syndrome. I have close friends and can rely on them and family for support. My issue with anxiety comes from the other students around me and the teachers. I'm constantly in fear that i will get bullied, beaten, hurt or abused by students. I've been bullied mentally in the past but never severely. I dislike most of my teachers and we often have arguments. I have the biggest issue with my English teacher. She and i are always in fights and she constantly singles me out and turns me into the bad guy. However this is not causing me anxiety and only contributes to me not wanting to attend school. The reason my anxiety has flared back up recently is because people have discovered my political views opinions. Lets just say there not the norm. as this is controversial topic i don't want to start a war but lets just say most people oppose my opinions. However because of this i fear i will be hurt both physically and mentally. This is causing me great stress and i'm me to lose sleep. I take medicine for my Asperger syndrome and that does help control my feelings sometimes but isn't really helping that much. I plan to leave school as soon as i can as i don't feel like it is beneficial for me and my life aspirations to continue being there. It's also hurting my mental health quite severely as just explained. However until such a time as i can find an alternative i'm stuck with no ideas on how to help myself.

Aggrov I think I might have social anxiety?
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I've been wondering for a while now as I am fearful I might have it. Because before social situations I usually have a racing heart and sweat a little, I also have a heavy throat (is that how you describe it?) I also feel quite dizzy and nauseous in ... View more

I've been wondering for a while now as I am fearful I might have it. Because before social situations I usually have a racing heart and sweat a little, I also have a heavy throat (is that how you describe it?) I also feel quite dizzy and nauseous in large crowds (It has happened to me on 3 occasions.) One of the worst cases was when I was getting dressed to go to the Hairdressers to get my haircut, I starting freaking out about how they would judge me while cutting my hair. I'm not sure if that's just being shy or if it's something worse.

Cricketlover1 Do I have depression or something else, or am I overreacting
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Hi, this is my first time doing one of these threads so I’m not sure if I did it right. I was feeling really down and sad for the last three months at school (all of Term 4), I didn’t want to socialise with my friends, I lost interest in all activiti... View more

Hi, this is my first time doing one of these threads so I’m not sure if I did it right. I was feeling really down and sad for the last three months at school (all of Term 4), I didn’t want to socialise with my friends, I lost interest in all activities and I grew very worn out and tired by the time it came to 4pm. During these holidays I have felt much better, happier, going for runs and wanting to do things. I almost forgot about how I felt and thought I was gone. But in the last few days I feel like the feelings coming back, if that makes sense. I have had a few recurring thoughts and I can’t sleep at night. which I’m not )) why? I’m not sure what to do about this, or if I’m overreacting and ??b vb)6?just need to change my or to stop working myself up??

sadyounggirl Cheated on, Kicked out and currently see now value to life.
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I have dealt with my fair share of heartbreak before but never this gravity. Two weeks ago I was broken up with (later found out there was cheating on his behalf during the relationship) and consequently was kicked out out the apartment as he owned t... View more

I have dealt with my fair share of heartbreak before but never this gravity. Two weeks ago I was broken up with (later found out there was cheating on his behalf during the relationship) and consequently was kicked out out the apartment as he owned the place where I had been living for the past nine months. I really tried to be the bigger person in the break up but then I found out he had already began seeing someone else I had extremely negative thoughts but also felt so guilty for hoping that he doesn't find happiness in the new relationship. As a consequence I completely removed him from my life and do not intend to associate with him ever again which was hard as he was my best friend. Problem is while I feel so hurt, angry, guarded and sad I feel completely empty and like half of me is missing which sucks because he hurt me so much. I also feel that I have lost a part of me in the relationship. I also have utterly no self worth anymore as being cheated on completely changed my perception of myself. I will always be wondering what she had an I didn't and why I will never be good enough. It kind of makes me feel that I have nothing to live for and there is no value in life at the moment. Whilst I have support of friends, family and a good job I just feel utterly worthless and devastated that someone I loved treated me in such a way. I understand that this is probably a blessing in disguise and so many people have told me I have dodged a bullet and I agree. However it doesn't change the everlasting feeling of sadness, anger, jealousy, guilt, loneliness, rejection and emptiness. Even when I try to distract myself with exercise or work I just feel so worthless , let down and just don't know how to get back to a place of happiness and want all of this to be over with (especially these feelings). Please help a sad young girl who is heartbroken and currently sees no value in anything.

Hamburglar436 Help
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I've been suffering from anxiety for eight years now, and more recently I've become severely depressed. I don't find interest or enjoyment in anything I do, days just meld into each other, I'm without many friends, if I was to be blunt I have one I t... View more

I've been suffering from anxiety for eight years now, and more recently I've become severely depressed. I don't find interest or enjoyment in anything I do, days just meld into each other, I'm without many friends, if I was to be blunt I have one I talk to and even then it's not always ideal. I have tried everything, exercise, escapism, counselling, barring medication which is a method I refuse to indulge in personally. This pit I've been stuck in isn't worsening, just never ending. I have tried to talk to my friend about it but he doesn't ... get it. I don't want to sound condescending to him but I feel he can only understand so much as a person who unlike me doesn't have anxiety or feels the exact way I do. I'm at a loss as what to do anymore, so I came here to ask for suggestions as to what could help me with enduring/pulling myself out of this constant state.

Big_J I feel like i have disappointed my family
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I come here to express my hurting, it all started when my family moved at the start of 2018, up north to the country in Western Australia and i stayed in perth to stay with my grandparents and have better working opportunities. that was tough for mys... View more

I come here to express my hurting, it all started when my family moved at the start of 2018, up north to the country in Western Australia and i stayed in perth to stay with my grandparents and have better working opportunities. that was tough for myself and i miss them alot but my parents started to make me feel terrible by saying to go work up in the mines cause they reckon when i was working part time at a fast food outlet i would ask them for money and complain about not having money when that was never the case. They also thought my girlfriend of 3 years was holding me back when that wasnt the case.. i told them many times its my decision not theres and i was also in university studying teaching but stopped due to not coping well. So it come towards the end of the year i got a full time job working in an office earning good money, both my parents laughed at me and said good luck with that job would like to see you survive in a job like that. (I work with the Australian government). After that was said i spoke my mind over text and told them how they always treat me and my second brother who has autism differently my younger siblings and i basically stuck up for myself. They think just cause my sister is suffering from issues that she is the only one who suffers but i was suffering too on how they mistreated me and made me feel like a disappointment.. they didnt like how i said the stuff of over text and started saying i am the problem and disappointed the family and that made me have bad thoughts and kept lashing out at my girlfriend and close family. The point is i just want them to treat me like an adult not a child as i am 22 years old... i just wanted to write this cause theres not many close family members i can trust without my parents finding out. Please help me guys on what to do, i am suffering bad mentally and my relationship with my parents is thin ice but what i said to them was all factual information they just didnt like it. I just need someone to talk too

richo97 Hello. New Here.
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Hi all, After an emotional breakdown in front of my mother, we both agreed its time i start making an effort to improve my mental health, which is why I'm new here. For about 4-5 years, I have been dealing with a combination of social anxiety, agorap... View more

Hi all, After an emotional breakdown in front of my mother, we both agreed its time i start making an effort to improve my mental health, which is why I'm new here. For about 4-5 years, I have been dealing with a combination of social anxiety, agoraphobia and depression. I am 21 now, so for the better part of my teen years, I have been introverted and unable to be a typical young adult. The worst thing I have is agoraphobia, I simply cannot leave my house no matter what I do. I have been couped up in my room for months, literally not leaving my house for 4 months. I get severe anxiety attacks when I do leave my house, with diarrhea and horrible stomach pains being constant for me. My agoraphobia is so bad that I can't go to see my GP which is 5 minutes away by car. I have taken medication for anxiety but that has been little help. I have lost friends due to not being able to go out with them, as such only having maybe 2 friends, and unfortunately they aren't the best of friends. I live alone with my mum, who works a lot and who endures financial hardship just to keep a roof over our head. The fact that I can't help out by getting a job makes me feel worthless and like an utter disappointment as a son. I am also gay, having broken up with my ex about 3 months ago. Not leaving the house played a role in the breakup. I have terrible self-esteem, which causes me to be severely depressed when nobody talks to me. The reason I have joined beyondblue is so that I can have a normal life and be able to support myself and my family. Being new here, I'm not sure what services are available to me, or how to proceed after this post. I have to admit that I have my doubts, since I am totally unable to leave my house at this stage. Thank you for reading. Any and all advice/direction would be really helpful to me. I just don't really know what to do next. All i know is that I need to get over this agoraphobia/diarrhea/depression. I owe it to myself and my mum to have a normal and happy life. Thank you

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