Young people

I have trouble fitting in with people

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Good Evening everyone, How are you going? So I am a 19 year old male. I have always had trouble with fitting in with people I don't know why I can't make friends I have tried making friends for the past 14 years of my life. I don't have any friends t... View more

Good Evening everyone, How are you going? So I am a 19 year old male. I have always had trouble with fitting in with people I don't know why I can't make friends I have tried making friends for the past 14 years of my life. I don't have any friends that i can talk nor share my life with. I have been told by my family they don't really love me nor care for me. I have also been told by my family I have low emotional intelligence And that is why I don't have very many friends. I have been called Queer, weird, your a freak. So I believe I am just going to sit back and work my whole entire life not have any friends and just be by myself bc it is so much it than talking to people. I am extremely smart i work very hard to do well in my apprenticeship. The problem is I don't really understand how to love nor to receive love. I wish I could love but I know I am never going to be able to love someone otherwise I know I am just going to either get rejected like every other time in my life or not give love out to someone that cares about me. I wish I could love but I am very uncertain to love someone and care for them. I know I am going to have no one in my life apart from me. I am currently a first year diesel fitter I love my job more than my own family.

I can't do or remember a lot during my days anymore

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Hello! I don't know exactly why I'm here or what I'm even doing in general. I guess I just want to talk. I feel like I'm really bad at communicating in general so I'll try to list things. 1. Halfway through this year I started zoning out a lot, I'd s... View more

Hello! I don't know exactly why I'm here or what I'm even doing in general. I guess I just want to talk. I feel like I'm really bad at communicating in general so I'll try to list things. 1. Halfway through this year I started zoning out a lot, I'd stop typing essays and assignments and play with my fingernails for two hours. I feel really detached and unable to properly do a lot of things I used to tackle easily like study, packing and preparing meals. 2. I don't sleep a lot anymore. Because I'm so behind in my work I'd try to stay up late, fall asleep at 2am then wake up at three hours later and try to fall asleep again. 3. I cry a lot now. A lot of the times without any emotional or physical triggers. Sometimes when my parents say or do things that are a little insensitive. This used to happen only when I was alone but now these sudden crying bouts hit me out of nowhere, even when I'm driving, and I have to excuse myself from a social situation or just go quiet and hope I don't burst into tears. 4. I've already talked to my parents about my feelings about medical school (they wanted me to be a doctor), mental health and things that stress me out but they don't seem to have heard me or they just don't seem to care. There are things that they say which make me feel very uncomfortable, more so now than it did when I was a kid because I feel I have a better understanding of their meaning now? Things like 'depression is for people who aren't busy enough' and 'depression is an excuse' and 'you better not be lesbian.' A lot of this is said in a joking manner but... I think they really do mean it. 5. I've begun to attach myself to really cute/pretty/aesthetic looking things, like old childhood plushies and cute hairclips and earrings and stuff. I don't know if this is relevant at all to my more negative emotions but these things calm me and distract me. 6. I only feel happy when hanging out with close friends (none of which I can see very regularly) and doing sports. I'll be competing for my country in next year's university games and I like to sweat things out and exhaust myself. What do I do? I want to get out of whatever this mood is I'm having. I'm almost always really upset and irritated with myself now. I feel like I've tried everything to improve (such as making my study notes look cute and neat. Actually does work in terms of memorising) but it only improves my mood for a short span of time. I don't want my parents to think I'm weak or attention-seeking.

a bit low - i think

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hi guys, hope you are all well. please excuse me, i am new to this and have no clue whether i'm doing it right or not. but lately, i guess for at least a month it seems as if i'm just fading out. i'm always tired, i find it super hard to be with my f... View more

hi guys, hope you are all well. please excuse me, i am new to this and have no clue whether i'm doing it right or not. but lately, i guess for at least a month it seems as if i'm just fading out. i'm always tired, i find it super hard to be with my friends and laugh and smile along with them, i'm not talking to my family and whenever i try to i just feel like it's not worth it or i'm not worth it, also recently this non-stop urge to cry constantly has decided to come along as well which is super. i feel like i'm just failing everyone around me and i'm this dark cloud that spreads to those close to me. my self esteem has dropped super low and i just don't really know why, and how i can go back to how i was. i'm used to being sad but now i just feel like i've got the symptoms of sad without really feeling anything at all, sometimes anger. mostly anger actually. i don't know what's going on but i'm disappointing people and my family are getting aggravated at me understandably. i just can't seem to help it. i'm eating normally-ish, not sleeping too good i guess, i feel normal enough, i'm still following my passions, i'm just slightly disenchanted with life right now. anyone experienced something familiar?? any tips or tricks anyone has would be a great help. thanks for reading and taking the time. please if you're going through something similar, join the discussion and we can help each other out.

Uni and Depression

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So, this year has been a bit of a mess. I haven't been attending class (minimum attendance only) both from being in the position of choosing between studying and paying bills and also from those off days. Just being too exhausted to wake up and live ... View more

So, this year has been a bit of a mess. I haven't been attending class (minimum attendance only) both from being in the position of choosing between studying and paying bills and also from those off days. Just being too exhausted to wake up and live life. I'd spend days in bed not eating and seeing no one. I fought hard in school to get where I am and I'm proud of it but I've moved out and it's hard to keep going without my support network around me. I really struggled in my transition. I failed half my subjects in my first semester and with two exams coming up tomorrow, I'm not feeling confident that I'll pass all my subjects this semester either. See, I've been struggling with a toxic mix of medical, financial and mental health issues for several years now. It's left me depressed and failing to cope with life in general. Listing out all the things that have gone wrong would be useless and petty so I'll leave it at that. What I need now is for someone to tell me that I should keep fighting for my passion and that I'm worth more than my grades. These are the two things that I'm not getting from the people around me right now. I'm just a uni student looking for some encouraging words.

running out

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i’m having trouble keeping up with living. i’m running out of energy to keep on living. i’m constantly feeling like i’m drowning, and i’m struggling with so many things. i just want someone to notice that i’m struggling, is that so bad?

HSC exam stress as a high achiever

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Hey all. This post might be a little messy as I'm currently very stressed and had my second mental breakdown today. I'm considered to be one of the top students in my Year 12 cohort by both my peers and teachers; not the dux, but certainly up there. ... View more

Hey all. This post might be a little messy as I'm currently very stressed and had my second mental breakdown today. I'm considered to be one of the top students in my Year 12 cohort by both my peers and teachers; not the dux, but certainly up there. However, my school isn't exactly a smart school so in comparison to the whole NSW, I'm probably not up there. Regardless, the expectations to achieve amazing HSC results from all classmates, teachers and parents are instilled into me. Because if you're near the top, it makes sense to achieve a good ATAR right? Well, that's not happening to me at all. Since the HSC exams started, I had failed to perform my best during the external exams (with the exception of two subjects). I nearly vomited before one of them, affecting my ability to think properly in the first half (however I cooled down afterwards, so I had no reason to apply for illness form). Furthermore I've experienced sleeping problems, from not falling asleep straight away to waking up near 4am after nightmares of the HSC (happened last night as well). Not only did I fail to perform my best, I had let down my entire cohort too due to your overall cohort performance in external exams influencing everyone's HSC marks... I feel horrible knowing that I will be reason why my peers will fall short of their ATAR goals because silly me did terrible! So I have not only let myself down, but my classmates too. In the past, I have attempted to open up about my HSC exam stress to others but again, I'm considered to be among the top. Thus, I usually receive responses along the lines of "You're doing well anyway!" or "People have it worse than you, some are actually failing their subjects!". Which is true, I know this. I know that many are struggling to pass their subjects, some have strict parents while others are going through tough times, like severe family issues. And I have tried to comfort myself with this, but didn't work. No matter what, I still feel stressed knowing that everyone is expecting me to do well. It makes me feel like I'm an ungrateful kid complaining about first world problems, and that I have zero right to complain about the pressures of the HSC. As a result, I've repressed these emotions for the entirety of the HSC exam period and it's taken a toll on my mental health. Had few breakdowns, cried myself to sleep and I feel very alone in my stress with no one to talk to. Everyone I know has it worse. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

Is this a toxic friendship?

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So I have this best friend. And when we are good, we are super strong. But when we are bad, I am always super sad and I always feel as though I have done something wrong. It's as though I can't stick up for myself around him and talk to him because I... View more

So I have this best friend. And when we are good, we are super strong. But when we are bad, I am always super sad and I always feel as though I have done something wrong. It's as though I can't stick up for myself around him and talk to him because I am scared that he will get mad and I will lose him. Some days all his wants to do is hang around me but other days (like today) he wont even sit next to me in class and then when we get out of that class he talks to me like nothing happened. He genuinely messed with my mood in a way that no one else can and I know he is really hurting me as this has been going on for a while. He can be really mean to me and I will be on the verge of crying, but as soon as he is nice to me again I instantly forgive him and pretend like it didn't happen. If this was anyone else I would stop being friends with them, but like it's him I don't want to stop being friends with him because I want him in my life. I just don't know what to do.

Work Anxiety & Impostor Syndrome as a New Graduate

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Hi all! I'm a 23 year old new graduate working in the health industry and currently feeling extremely lost and stressed... I started working at my new job around 6 months ago but every single day I can't help but feel like I don't know what I'm doing... View more

Hi all! I'm a 23 year old new graduate working in the health industry and currently feeling extremely lost and stressed... I started working at my new job around 6 months ago but every single day I can't help but feel like I don't know what I'm doing here... especially when patients don't trust me or question my experience and I feel like I'm constantly playing a game of catch up to prepare and revise for the next day's work and caseload. Maybe it is that I didn't study hard enough and somehow faked my way into graduating with first class honours..(sounds nice, doesn't it??) but there's this extreme sense of confusion about how I got there when I feel like I can barely remember so much of the content we covered in my degree.. I feel like there's this disconnect between who I'm expected to be and the work I'm supposed to do.. I feel so lost and exhausted and I'm just terrified that I'm going to get found out and fired any day. I'm terrified of continuing to ask questions at work because I don't want to be "found out" as not knowing things that I think I would be expected to know I feel like the only time I can be stress free is when I'm asleep, or have my mind off work on my one day off a week. I'm finding more and more recently that I don't even find solace in food and I don't have much of an appetite anymore because I feel too stressed to eat It definitely hasn't helped that I was recently involved in an incident where a patient I was looking after had a rather bad fall and broke her arm... it was an unfortunate accident and I've been told time and time again by my very supportive team members that nobody is to blame but I still feel terrible about it considering that I was the only non-assistant staff member on site with the patients at the time. It's really difficult to discuss my concerns with my parents because they tell me I should be grateful that I have a relatively well-paying job that they can only imagine is "stress free" compared to the 3x minimum wage cleaning and domestic work jobs they had to work to raise me... and that if I had studied medicine I would be 10x more stressed so I should be happy with where I am. I guess I'm just reaching out to the void to ask whether I'm alone in feeling this? And maybe if someone has been in this situation before how to manage it? Are all new grads as lost as I am knowledge and experience wise or is it just me??

I currently feel alone

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Hello, hope you're doing well. I recently realized that its been more than two years since I had someone who I felt comfortable sharing my life with. By sharing my life I mean feeling not only comfortable, but excited, to tell them about my day. I ha... View more

Hello, hope you're doing well. I recently realized that its been more than two years since I had someone who I felt comfortable sharing my life with. By sharing my life I mean feeling not only comfortable, but excited, to tell them about my day. I had a best friend in middle school before I moved to Australia, had another best friend in highschool, and gradually made friends here and there, but then the friendships slowly fell apart. It wasn't a single fight, it was months of not talking to eachother and realizing that I don't miss them that much (usually they would ignore my messages and I'd realize that I was pretty much always starting the interactions). My situation is excarcerbated by the fact that I am bad with social cues, do not currently have a job, and am scared to open up again. I have attended over 25 events on meetup.com and many other events from various other websites and the usual pattern is I see people once, maybe get along, and then never see them again. And even when I was enrolled in uni and had interactions with the same people I never really connected with anyone.

Regret from playing games all day, lacking work ethic

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It always happens when I have a day off from school. Even more common on the holidays when I'm alone. I would play the whole morning and a good chunk of the afternoon (with tasks in mind but no motivation) only to realise and suffer from regret to th... View more

It always happens when I have a day off from school. Even more common on the holidays when I'm alone. I would play the whole morning and a good chunk of the afternoon (with tasks in mind but no motivation) only to realise and suffer from regret to this. There's this tingling feeling of playing video games all through the day, only to stop for an occasional toilet break or lunch. Which would be rather flawed. Fortunately, I have a diary, but I've barely used it over the last week. I have managed to use it before but it's not like old habits die hard. It didn't stick for very long and I'm back to step one, having annoyance over what I had done. Simply continuing to regret would be... well, useless, so I want to stop having the same events occur again and again. Has anyone else experienced this problem, or are there some suggestions I could consider? (FYI: It's not a major problem, but avoiding it would be beneficial)

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I have trouble fitting in with people

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I can't do or remember a lot during my days anymore

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a bit low - i think

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Uni and Depression

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running out

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HSC exam stress as a high achiever

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Is this a toxic friendship?

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I currently feel alone

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I have trouble fitting in with people

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I can't do or remember a lot during my days anymore

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a bit low - i think

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Uni and Depression

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running out

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HSC exam stress as a high achiever

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Is this a toxic friendship?

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Work Anxiety & Impostor Syndrome as a New Graduate

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I currently feel alone

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Regret from playing games all day, lacking work ethic

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