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Past friends

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Hi everyone, I am new to the forum so hope you are all doing well. I am on the edge at the moment as I have left my friend for 10 years due to some reasons that I don't feel very comfortable saying. It hurts me as well that he has done these actions ... View more

Hi everyone, I am new to the forum so hope you are all doing well. I am on the edge at the moment as I have left my friend for 10 years due to some reasons that I don't feel very comfortable saying. It hurts me as well that he has done these actions as we were very close as friends and we new both each other's families etc. Whenever I am out in public I am always on the look out to see if he's there (as we live pretty close) so I know when to hide, I hate doing this it really annoys me as I go out pretty often. I haven't given him a very good explanatory of why I am not friends with him (as I have basically given up on him...) I just blocked him on all social media contacts and left him on the edge although we did not talk often so I guess it doesn't really matter. I am thinking of changing my appearance in public so I don't get spotted but in reality I don't want to do that. Every day I am thinking of my friend and how I should have left him its just non-stop. Hopefully we can get this matter resolved...

So unsure of what to do. Family is a mess

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Hi all, Basically my home life isn’t the best. For a long while now my parents have been through constant patches of being okay and not fighting. To fighting heavily And always dragging me into it with their comments. Today was another intense argume... View more

Hi all, Basically my home life isn’t the best. For a long while now my parents have been through constant patches of being okay and not fighting. To fighting heavily And always dragging me into it with their comments. Today was another intense argument involving divorce papers (this isn’t the first time this has occurred) . I have a close relationship with my mum and she suffers from depression. My dad does not understand and always think she is under the influence of something else, he believes mental health is a “myth”. He told me today that I need to grow up and understand her adult problems. I’m 24 and have helped her through all of it after he has left because he can’t deal. This hurt me deeply I work part time and I’m studying social work, I wish I could just leave home but unable too, I’m meant to go on holiday next year. I just feel such a mess on what to do. I want to live my life, but things like this with my family happening a lot bring me down. It makes me question everything and what I’m doing. If anyone has any advice to share, that would be beneficial I would greatly appreciate it. I’m really stuck and unsure of a lot.

I'm over it... SO over it.

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this time last year i was in a similar position- not going to school, depressed, days blurring together, etc, only by the end of the month, things were looking up again. This time feels different, because I'm not supposed to be like this right now. I... View more

this time last year i was in a similar position- not going to school, depressed, days blurring together, etc, only by the end of the month, things were looking up again. This time feels different, because I'm not supposed to be like this right now. I was supposed to be happy and thriving. I was supposed to be studying for exams, looking forward to school holidays and hanging out with friends on the weekend. Instead I'm not going to be doing exams, I'm graduating in 2021 instead of next year and I feel absolutely nothing 98% of the time. My parents are supportive and would do anything to help, but they're busy with work. It's selfish but I always wish they put more time into my situation. I wish they called the psychologist when I first asked them to, and I wish they would talk to my school and sort something out. I'm sick of waiting for the psychologist to get back to us. I'm sick of feeling aimless, floating through life, not knowing what will happen next or if anything will happen at all. I'm sick of waiting for something to happen. No one barely ever gets what they want by simply waiting, I know, but I am paralysed. I can't talk to my mum about my feelings anymore because I know what she'll say- "you just have to try." Like geez, if only someone told me that 2 months ago, then I wouldn't be in this situation anymore!!! (note the sarcasm). I know my mum means best, but she doesn't always get it. I don't know what to do, I'm paralysed, I have no motivation most days or at least, motivation to do something that really matters anyway. The most productive things I've done in maybe the past month is bake and clean, which are rather mindless tasks really. I should be emailing my school, getting to bed and waking up early, studying, exercising, taking proper care of myself. But I simply can't. It's like the part of my brain that knows how to do those things is malfunctioning. I want to achieve great things in my life- get good grades, travel, go to uni, become a journalist, make a positive change in the world. But I can't think about doing any of that right now, because I can't do the bare minimum. I want to at least be healthy and fit, and a good student. But I can't go to school or exercise or eat properly or sleep properly. I'm so completely utterly absolutely over it. I just want to be happy and okay. I'm sick of just surviving, I want to LIVE. I'm so over depression and anxiety paralysing me and keeping me from being who i want to be.

Theo has joined the party.

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Hello, world. My name is not actually Theo, but it's what I go by. I've decided to join the forums to find support in the case that I start to fall apart. I am a high school that struggles with depression and anxiety. I'm gay, a mega computer nerd an... View more

Hello, world. My name is not actually Theo, but it's what I go by. I've decided to join the forums to find support in the case that I start to fall apart. I am a high school that struggles with depression and anxiety. I'm gay, a mega computer nerd and doodle artist, and I have a small group of friends that I joke around with. I hope I can make some friends here and help others out the best I can, as well as get help for my own problems. Theo.

My self esteem is incredibly low and i do not feel like i have any worth

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From a young age my parents have told me that i was "special", my dad told me i was smart and continually told me that i was autistic, not as an insult or anything he meant it as a compliment of sorts or more like a fact (i do not know why he wants m... View more

From a young age my parents have told me that i was "special", my dad told me i was smart and continually told me that i was autistic, not as an insult or anything he meant it as a compliment of sorts or more like a fact (i do not know why he wants me to be autistic and i have never been diagnosed so i do not know where he got that idea from). In primary school i was put into a gifted class, but i never performed as well as anyone else, i struggled with basic maths from around year 4 onwards and complex questions about tax and Pythagoras confused me to no end. Now i am in year 9 and i am in compaction science but i am still struggling in class, i have been scraping Cs in maths still and have only ever gotten one A and that was in french. The delusion that i am "smart" is crumbling and my self esteem as never been lower, i have been thrown into the deep end and my self worth is suffering immensely. I often think that my life means nothing and i will never achieve anything i am terrified about the future, i do not know what i will do as a career even working at McDonalds feels like it would be challenge. Exams are coming up soon and i havent studied at all, it feels like theres no point cause i will fail anyway. I have zero talents i cannot play any instruments, play any sports, i do not excel in any subjects, even things i invest lots of time in trying to get better at like video games i am still bad at (ive only ever achieved low gold in one of the games i play a lot), i even get upset about small things like messing up the spelling of a single word, i cannot answer any questions on IQ tests (admittedly they were online and not that good but i still couldnt answer ANY of the questions). I do not know what to do, i do not know if this is just normal teenage insecurity or something else but i figured because i cant talk to anyone else i ought to post here.

Exams and expectations

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I wasn't exactly sure how to describe this, I hope I make sense here. I have always been an above average student. I won a scholarship to a highly prestigious school and everyone that knew me knew me as a really smart person. This has translated into... View more

I wasn't exactly sure how to describe this, I hope I make sense here. I have always been an above average student. I won a scholarship to a highly prestigious school and everyone that knew me knew me as a really smart person. This has translated into huge expectations of myself to perform really well in exams. I always study really hard, up to two months before the exams. However recently, my results have been slipping. It's not like they've been awful, but they've been getting worse. Besides, my school requires scholarship students to be in the top 30% of the grade. I've been doing that, but I've been really depressed lately, as my results are very mediocre. I've been doing really well in class, but when it comes to exams my mindset becomes flustered and I can't perform to the extent of my capabilities. This, combined with my peers' expectations that I will do really well, is really frustrating me, and I find it hard to cope at times. I'm not sporty or musical, and academics is my only main strength. Right now, I'm feeling really useless. I feel so stupid writing this. If you are reading this, thank you.

Panic Attack? Social Anxiety?? IDK whats wrong with me

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So the other day, I went with my dad to a store to ask about getting a battery replacement for my phone. I was kinda scared to go ask for some reason, and so I asked if my dad could go ask instead. He was like no, this is your own phone, you've gotta... View more

So the other day, I went with my dad to a store to ask about getting a battery replacement for my phone. I was kinda scared to go ask for some reason, and so I asked if my dad could go ask instead. He was like no, this is your own phone, you've gotta do this yourself or we're leaving. So I went in and nervously approached this lady who seemed kinda uninterested and impatient. I was really nervous Idk why I was just sweating a lot and shaky. I wasn't really paying attention to what she was saying or anything but luckily my dad was right there listening in on the conversation. My dad then asked me if I wanted to replace my battery, to which I responded that I didn't understand what she was saying. He got a little mad and told me to ask again then if I didn't get it. But at this point, I really didn't want to ask again, and I found myself starting to tear up. I was also struggling to breathe, and I started biting my hand to try and stop crying. I was really scared of something, I'm not sure what, but I had to run out of the store. My dad then found me outside and asked me if I was going to book an appointment or not, which meant that I had to go back in and talk to more people. So I asked if he could instead, as I was a big mess, to which he replied again, this is your phone and you're wasting my time, so hurry and decide yes or no. This made my state even worse, and I was just shaking and crying at this point, but he didn't seem to care. We ended up leaving without an appointment. On the walk home, my dad commented that I was being weak and needed to toughen up and talk to more strangers, I had a problem that needed to be fixed. I've been quite agitated recently and have been crying a lot. I cried last night, this morning in class, and 2 hours ago when I got home. I don't really know what's wrong with me. I don't believe I have social anxiety as I have a lot of friends who I am fine with conversing with, and I don't find it hard to make new friends. Sure, I sometimes get nervous when speaking to teachers or the cashier when I buy something, but it's never really been this severe. Can anyone help?

Hey guys! I'm 24 turning 25. Don't know where my career is heading

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So pretty much ive studied multiple qualifications, and somewhat feel like im on a path, but can get disheartened quite easily. Any advice is appreciated, So pretty much I studied a bachelors in psychology and then moved into construction and will ha... View more

So pretty much ive studied multiple qualifications, and somewhat feel like im on a path, but can get disheartened quite easily. Any advice is appreciated, So pretty much I studied a bachelors in psychology and then moved into construction and will have my construction degree soon, initially i was offered a construction course but declined, im not sure why to be honest. However I feel as though I dont know exactly what i want to do yet in the industry. I'm working on site as a labourer doing renovations, but have the qualifications to be an entry level administrator or junior project manage or estimator, but im dying to work on site and be site based, i love being amongst it, i was thinking of doing a trade but my parents are really against this and im worried about work consistency and ongoing potential earning capacity (i have to support a few people). I would like to site supervise eventually, but cant really get there without a trade background. Whats the answer here? Just go against my parents and do a trade? It feels like my psych degree is somewhat wasted in this and i dont want to disappoint my parents

I have trouble fitting in with people

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Good Evening everyone, How are you going? So I am a 19 year old male. I have always had trouble with fitting in with people I don't know why I can't make friends I have tried making friends for the past 14 years of my life. I don't have any friends t... View more

Good Evening everyone, How are you going? So I am a 19 year old male. I have always had trouble with fitting in with people I don't know why I can't make friends I have tried making friends for the past 14 years of my life. I don't have any friends that i can talk nor share my life with. I have been told by my family they don't really love me nor care for me. I have also been told by my family I have low emotional intelligence And that is why I don't have very many friends. I have been called Queer, weird, your a freak. So I believe I am just going to sit back and work my whole entire life not have any friends and just be by myself bc it is so much it than talking to people. I am extremely smart i work very hard to do well in my apprenticeship. The problem is I don't really understand how to love nor to receive love. I wish I could love but I know I am never going to be able to love someone otherwise I know I am just going to either get rejected like every other time in my life or not give love out to someone that cares about me. I wish I could love but I am very uncertain to love someone and care for them. I know I am going to have no one in my life apart from me. I am currently a first year diesel fitter I love my job more than my own family.

I can't do or remember a lot during my days anymore

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Hello! I don't know exactly why I'm here or what I'm even doing in general. I guess I just want to talk. I feel like I'm really bad at communicating in general so I'll try to list things. 1. Halfway through this year I started zoning out a lot, I'd s... View more

Hello! I don't know exactly why I'm here or what I'm even doing in general. I guess I just want to talk. I feel like I'm really bad at communicating in general so I'll try to list things. 1. Halfway through this year I started zoning out a lot, I'd stop typing essays and assignments and play with my fingernails for two hours. I feel really detached and unable to properly do a lot of things I used to tackle easily like study, packing and preparing meals. 2. I don't sleep a lot anymore. Because I'm so behind in my work I'd try to stay up late, fall asleep at 2am then wake up at three hours later and try to fall asleep again. 3. I cry a lot now. A lot of the times without any emotional or physical triggers. Sometimes when my parents say or do things that are a little insensitive. This used to happen only when I was alone but now these sudden crying bouts hit me out of nowhere, even when I'm driving, and I have to excuse myself from a social situation or just go quiet and hope I don't burst into tears. 4. I've already talked to my parents about my feelings about medical school (they wanted me to be a doctor), mental health and things that stress me out but they don't seem to have heard me or they just don't seem to care. There are things that they say which make me feel very uncomfortable, more so now than it did when I was a kid because I feel I have a better understanding of their meaning now? Things like 'depression is for people who aren't busy enough' and 'depression is an excuse' and 'you better not be lesbian.' A lot of this is said in a joking manner but... I think they really do mean it. 5. I've begun to attach myself to really cute/pretty/aesthetic looking things, like old childhood plushies and cute hairclips and earrings and stuff. I don't know if this is relevant at all to my more negative emotions but these things calm me and distract me. 6. I only feel happy when hanging out with close friends (none of which I can see very regularly) and doing sports. I'll be competing for my country in next year's university games and I like to sweat things out and exhaust myself. What do I do? I want to get out of whatever this mood is I'm having. I'm almost always really upset and irritated with myself now. I feel like I've tried everything to improve (such as making my study notes look cute and neat. Actually does work in terms of memorising) but it only improves my mood for a short span of time. I don't want my parents to think I'm weak or attention-seeking.

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I'm over it... SO over it.

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Theo has joined the party.

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My self esteem is incredibly low and i do not feel like i have any worth

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Exams and expectations

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Panic Attack? Social Anxiety?? IDK whats wrong with me

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Hey guys! I'm 24 turning 25. Don't know where my career is heading

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I have trouble fitting in with people

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I can't do or remember a lot during my days anymore

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New to this Forum? Please read this first!

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Past friends

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So unsure of what to do. Family is a mess

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I'm over it... SO over it.

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Theo has joined the party.

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My self esteem is incredibly low and i do not feel like i have any worth

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Exams and expectations

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Panic Attack? Social Anxiety?? IDK whats wrong with me

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Hey guys! I'm 24 turning 25. Don't know where my career is heading

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I have trouble fitting in with people

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I can't do or remember a lot during my days anymore

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