Anxiety.

[tiffles93]

I'm 22 and suffer from anxiety. I don't really have many friends anymore, I have a partner however it sometimes it doesn't feel like he understands what goes on in my head.​ I guess I'm seeking any kind of advice, I can get. More often than not, I wake up feeling flat and I have all these negative thoughts in my head, that I can't seem to shake off. I want to get better but I don't know how I can help myself. Some days are worse than others.. the worse days, just lead me to tears purely just because of the thoughts in my head. Any sort of advice and encouraging words, would be highly appreciated, as right now I feel like I'm battling this alone.

Cheers..

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi tiffles93,

Welcome and thanks for reaching out to us.

You are definitely not alone in dealing with anxiety - it is so common. If you go to our forums you can see that there is an entire section just devoted to people going through anxiety.  It might even be useful to have a read and to see what other people have found useful: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/connect-with-others/online-forums/anxiety

It's great that you have a partner who can supports you - but sometimes it might be about finding additional support, like a counsellor or a friend who can understand where you are coming from.

There are lots of different ways to cope with anxiety; sometimes it's just about finding out what works for you.  Sometimes people find that they have panic or anxiety attacks and so breathing techniques and muscle relaxation work for them.  Other times people may find that prevention helps better - so challenging self-talk and engaging in mindfulness, meditation or calming activities like colouring in.

Keep reaching out.  If you have a read through the forums you'll find a big bucket load full of suggestions and tips and personal stories.

Hope this helps, take care

[Narniakid]

Hey tiffles93, welcome to the forums and thank you for reaching out.

I am sorry to hear you are experiencing these negative thoughts. Remember that negative thoughts are usually a reaction to fear, and anxiety thrives on avoidance. Is there an aspect of your life that triggers the anxiety, like going to university or work? If you can recognise your triggers, you can predict the anxiety, and change your thinking habits towards them. For example, I used to be terrified of going to work, and I'd get so anxious some days I'd throw up. I practised telling myself that I am okay and I can do this and the more time I spend at work, the easier it will get. I've gotten so much into the habit that I am able to go to work now without any negative thoughts.

Have you considered seeing a psychologist? The first step I always recommend to people is to see their GP for a professional diagnosis, and a referral to a psychologist or therapist. Medication is always an option too.

Don't be too upset about your partner - my boyfriend is the same, and the reality is, if you haven't felt that way yourself, it's very difficult to understand. All you can ask from the people around you is to be patient and supportive.

Stay strong, and remember we are always here to listen and point you in the right direction. I also suggest having a read of the resources available here on the website, as they can be really helpful too.

Crystal

[GypsyAvalon]

Hi Tiffles

Go to your GP and get a mental health plan put into place.

You will then be able to access a psychologist through Medicare with up to 12 visits available, bulk billed. 

Start off with getting some therapy.

Mindfulness is a very good therapy to pursue to help you with your anxiety. It pretty much saved my life☺

[Bearylewis123]

Hi tiffles93,

You are definitely not the only one experiencing anxiety , although it may feel that way at times. It's good that you are actively trying to seek help, and this is the first step to recovery.

it is great that you have a loving partner. Even though he may not always understand what is going on in your head, keep talking to him about how you feel. It is always good to get another perspective and if you hide things from him or become withdrawn, this could hurt your relationship, so try to express your feelings and help him understand.

As for feeling flat and sad, don't let your negative thoughts get to you, as I'm sure you are an amazing person. When you wake up, try to think about 3 things you are grateful for, or 3 things you like about yourself. This can help sometimes as it helps you remember all the good things in your life, and can make you feel happier. If these feelings aren't going away, you should see a psychologist or a counsellor, because they can be extremely helpful and assist you in sorting through your negative thoughts.

Just try and stay positive, you aren't alone in this, you will get better, and you are doing great! Don't give up xxx

[shad0wings]

Hi tiffles93!

Never should you think you are battling alone because you aren't. We are all here for you, and many of us have shared the same emotions and experiences that you are now going through. 

To me it definitely sounds like some form of depression. The thoughts you are experiencing I have gone through as well, just as many others have as well. It's so hard because your brain controls everything; if your brain isn't happy, your body isn't going to be happy either. 

Do not worry too much about your partner at the moment, you have to start focusing on taking care of yourself. Your partner is most likely confused and trying to figure out what's going on. Mental illnesses are hard on others as well because, after all, they are all "mental". After all, it is impossible for others to see what is going on inside of your brain and they cannot experience your feelings. It is because of this that unfortunately, you are the one that needs to take the initiative to seek medical advice.

Maybe talk to a close family member or friend who you know may have depression and/or experienced living with someone that has.

There is tons of information and help out there. Even have a look on this website! Other posts on the forums as well will definitely show you you're not alone!! Far from it!

Goodluck and stay strong! 

~ Taylor