Am I depressed? Please help.

Crazer21 · ‎15-03-2016

I'm not sure whether or not I'm depressed or not, I'm verbally bullied most days and my friend left the country indefinitely recently so maybe that contributes to it but I feel horrible most days and spend most of the day feeling like I'm about to cry. I also make videos on YouTube and listen to music like Emma Blackery and Doddleoddle despite the fact that I go to an all boys school and it's going to get worse if anyone finds out. I've taken a few depression self-tests that all said moderate or high but when I talked to my parents about it they said that they thought I wasn't and let the matter slide. Despite this I think that at least something is wrong and don't want to bring it up with my parents again. If you have any advice, pleas tell me, because I don't know what to do.

Fairywings · ‎16-03-2016

hi there and welcome. I would go and see your local GP is there another family member or sibling that u trust enough to come with you. It sounds to me like yes there is some form of spiraling going on and i wouldn't leave it too much longer to seek some sort of help. Im really sad to hear that u don't feel supported by parents it is so dam hard, i get it coz not even my parents were supportive towards me when i tried to bring up my depression, abuse that i went thru as a kid at everything else that goes with it nearly 15 odd years ago, i am now 37 yrs old. May i ask if you don't mind who is bullying you?. That in itself is so heart wrentching to hear, i really don't like bullies. Please come back to me i would love to hear from you Venessa. xx

Doolhof · ‎16-03-2016

Hi Crazer,

I too welcome you to the community here.

Okay, so you have taken tests to see if you have depression. It sounds like you have come up with results that show that yes that is so. It may meant that you are in a low place right now, and you may well come out of it yourself soon enough.

If not, then as Venessa suggested you should go and chat to your Dr.

Is there someone at school you can talk to? A school Chaplain or someone along those lines? A counsellor?

Beyond Blue have a phone help line, the counsellors answering the phones are very helpful. You could try chatting to them. They will be able to suggest other people/groups in your region you can talk to.

Look in the local phone book or Google for Mental health assistance places in your area. There are special phone lines for teenagers, I just can't think of their titles right now...sorry.

This forum is a great place to share how you are feeling. People help each other out with advice, suggestions and tips on how to make positive changes in your life.

Hopefully you will get back to us with how you are getting on and will also check out some of the helpful information here under the GET SUPPORT section and the DEPRESSION section as well.

Cheers for now from Mrs. Dools

geoff · ‎17-03-2016

hello, and it's always great to have new people post a comment.
I can understand why you don't want to let on to the other boys at your school if you are already being bullied, that would be terrible, because it's something else for them to pick on.
You seem to be a capable young man, but to tell your parents about how you are feeling and possibly feeling depressed would be something they wouldn't want to listen to, as you go to a private school as it's an all boy's school, no different than myself who also went to a private school, in other words one of those posh schools, so I wouldn't tell my parents about my depression, nor my OCD as this would only be dismissed 'don't be silly'.
What you could do is ask your M/D that you want to talk to the family doctor about something that only you and he need only to know, tell your M/D that it's private and don't want to discuss it with them.
If your doctor decides to put you on any medication then ask him/her about when you need another script and how to pick them up, this I couldn't do as my Dad was a GP.
If your doctor does decide that you need medication then let him/her tell your parents and that perhaps some counselling would help.
Your parents will then ask you all sorts of questions, which you may or may not feel comfortable answering, that's up to you to decide, but just be careful because they might dispute what you have to say and that's what you have to be careful of, I just say this, because they might try and talk you out of taking medication and seeing a counsellor, but if you are feeling depressed that's not what you want.
This is something that certainly shouldn't be avoided.
See how you go and would like to hear back from. Geoff.

Crazer21 · ‎24-03-2016

Thank you all for the advice. My friend was considering scuicide and it made me think about my life and I realised that my life could be helped with a little bit of help and I've been trying really hard to flip my way of thinking and I really think it's working and I'm getting better at ignoring the bullies and appreciating the people in my life who are actually my friends. I think it's working and I've got the next few weeks to rest and recuperate because of the holidays. Thanks again,

Lachlan

blueangel · ‎26-03-2016

The tough thing about being in school is that you often feel trapped in a repetitive routine of school and not much else in between; which becomes especially known to us when we lose something that makes the routine bearable (being your friend).

It's really tough at first especially while enduring bullying at the same time. But there are a few things that can help smooth things along.

The support and understanding from your parents will make all the difference; consider talking to a school counsellor and organising a meeting with your parents to share your feelings in the presence of a third party, even negotiate to see a psychologist once a month or so just as someone else to talk to. Failing that, regular visits to your school counsellor will help lift a weight off your shoulders with what you're dealing with.
Find a new hobby or interest to distract yourself. I'd recommend a team sport of some sort, doesn't have to be a competition team, only recreational. Team sports do wonders with expanding our friendship network and it's always great to have a friend outside of school with a common interest!
Speak to your year advisor at school about the persistent bullying and make them aware of how you are feeling at present. I recall when I was in high school amy depression could sometimes be mistaken for me being inattentive and rude in class. Sharing your thoughts and concerns with your year advisor will ensure that your teachers are aware of whats going on behind the scenes and will open up more support networks for you as well as them keeping an eye out for any nasty behaviour from your peers. You may also consider your year advisor contact your parents to inform them of your feelings.
Keep connected with the beyond blue forums. Whether it's posting or just reading the posts; something we so often forget is 99% of our concerns seem so abnormal but theres heaps of other people going through/or have gone through a similar issue. You can learn some pretty neat coping strategies just from reading a few!

Best of Luck and keep us updated on how you are going 🙂

Fairywings · ‎26-03-2016

Im so glad to hear this keep up the good and remember you can get thru this u just have to remain positive. Well done im so proud enjoy ur school holidays xx Venessa 😊 and remember we r all here for you if and whenever u may need us.