I'm Nay...

[Nay08]

I'm Nay... I suffer from depression and anxiety on a daily basis...

My work situation has become unbearable in the 2 years I've been at my workplace... I've made a formal complaint against the coworker responsible for my misery, without a favourable outcome... This woman is very clever and cunning... She is horrible to me when she knows nobody can see or hear... I've spoken to OUR boss who is aware of hiw she operates... Just the sound of her voice sets my anxiety off... I can't handle this any longer... If I quit, Im screwed financially... If I arrange to get fired, there is that stigma for future employment... I'm stuck...

[geoff]

Hello Nay, and a warm welcome to the forums.

I'm so sorry you are in this situation but have you been to see your doctor who maybe able to help you and I understand your position financially.

If you have 'made a formal complaint against this coworker for your misery' then you're not stuck, so are you able to move to another section and if not, then your doctor will suggest what you can do, because if a co-worker is picking on someone is not permitted, and I know that you didn't have a favourable outcome.

Your doctor may decide to give you a couple of weeks.

Would really like to hear back from you.

Geoff.

[Rabbit33]

Hi Nay08,

So sorry to hear what you're going through. When it comes to work and coworkers, it can be extremely stressful and frustrating. Especially when it sounds like you're taking the appropriate measures to try and adjust the situations but it's not resolving or settling the problem for you.

If you are full time employed and have accrued a decent amount of annual leave hours. Maybe you could put in for a week off? Paid leave (Just an idea)
Maybe once your mind has settled a little bit, you could work on a pro's and con's of keeping or leaving the job and what outcomes you may experience?
This always helps people prepare for something and supports us in moving forward.

Alternatively, if you were to get fired for some reason. This does not mean that a new employer or prospective employer would even ask about what happened. It is your choice to decide how much information you give them and i'm sure it wouldn't effect any future endeavours.

Whatever you decide, try and remain positive about it and remember that you do have rights. You should feel comfortable and happy at work.

Wishing you all the best and sending you positive vibes! 🙂

[Doolhof]

Hi Nay08,

Welcome to the forum. I see you have received helpful replies from Geoff and Rabbit.

I am also wondering if telephoning Fair Works Australia might be beneficial. They may be able to suggest other options you can take in the work place.

It may be beneficial to write down and record what happens with this employer for future reference if required.

If it does come tot he point where you just can't cope, would you be entitled to Work Cover assistance?

Another idea could be to turn this right around and be nice to the lady! Some people who are nasty and bullies do not know what to do when people they pick on are nice to them! It takes the sting and strength out of their words and actions. It makes their efforts pointless.

It is not an easy thing to do when you feel so drained. I have tried this tactic a couple of times and it is really interesting to see the results!

If the lady is mouthing off at you, ask her how her weekend was? Does she have a pet? Maybe a cat or a dog? What kind of ice-cream does she like? Does she have a favourite movie?

Hopefully she will give up being nasty!

I might even try these tactics with an appointment I have next week!

Hope you find some solutions.

All the best from Dools