I'm a loser

[mrdjw]

I suffer from bad depression and anxiety. The other day a Dr told me I should just get over it. My condition has stopped me working. I used to do some acting in local theatre, but a 'friend' made up stories about me that everyone else believed, so my name is dirt as far as that is concerned. I've got no confidence, and though I'm not suicidal I have nothing to look forward to either.

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

It isnt uncommon to find a Dr that isnt empathetic nor patient with us. Be prepared to try another Dr.

As far as socialising goes, toxic people are everywhere so we need to keep trying with individuals rather than groups because people can be mean in groups.

What I found, as I'm very sensitive, is that I've lacked effective defence against nastiness. So I developed my own ideas on how to protect myself....like not trusting so quickly.

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Beyondblue topic fortress of survival part 2

I think becoming a hermit doesnt help our lives overall but there is a compromise

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I hope that helps.

TonyWK

[Swan_13]

Hi mrdjw - welcome to the forums

Firstly, I just want to acknowledge that it must've been a massive let down to hear a doctor tell you to "just get over it". It's obviously not that easy. I'm sure many people using the forums have been given that 'advice' in the past and it's really disappointing.

The title of your post really stood out to me... you've labelled yourself as a loser. Do you talk about yourself like this often? It’s hard to not fall into a pattern of being harsh on ourselves.

It’s disappointing that someone who you thought was your friend made up stories about you – I can imagine that must’ve been really hurtful. I hope you have other people around you who lift you up instead.

I’m sorry that you feel as though you’ve got nothing to look forward to at the moment. Before your anxiety and depression got worse, did you have things that you wanted to do?

[Soberlicious96]

Dear mrdjw,

I want to start by saying that anyone who makes up stories about you, is no 'friend' at all. If it were me, I'd refer to that person as an acquaintance ... but not a 'friend'. Even if it is in jest.

I also want to say that I'm sorry to hear you are struggling at the moment and feel that you have nothing to look forward to. And as for that doctor, I would be seeking another doctor as soon as possible.

Maybe you could try some counseling support? It's a much steeper road when we try to deal with these things on our own, rather than seeking help. But, if you look at it this way, you've already sought help from here at Beyond Blue, so that's a plus.

In the meantime, we're here for you for as much and as long as you need. Take care. I'll be thinking of you. xo

[paddyanne]

Hi mrdjw. To be told to just get over it by a supposedly learned physician leaves me shaking my head. You've had to leave something that gave you pleasure because a person you considered a friend made up stories. Obviously jealousy prevails here. Is there another avenue for acting that you could pursue? I have always believed (rightly or wrongly) that acting is pretty much dog eat dog, competitive. How about joining night school drama. I know it wouldn't be as challenging as acting on stage, theatre but it might help restore your confidence. Also seek another physician for another opinion. You've had your confidence kicked out and the saying 'get back on the horse that threw you' might be another answer. The anxiety/depression will eventually fade but in the meantime, you need an outlet so you can regain your self confidence. Night school might help because the chances of meeting anyone who knows you is pretty scarce. If acting's your 'thing' drama classes might be another option. Maybe look at teaching drama, another option.