Hi, I'm new here

[Aussiegirl89]

Hi,

Im after some advice if that's okay. Last month I found out I'm going through menopause early at 27 and won't be able to have kids and then also found out I had a brain tumour. I am lucky that the tumour looks like it has stopped growing but my moods have been all over the place since.

I can't quite describe it, I'm fine one minute then the next I'm having trouble breathing and thinking and I just start crying and shaking. Some days I'll crying for hours on end. It's getting more and more common and I'm having trouble telling anyone about it. I've seen my doctor a few times but we just end up talking about other things. I keep trying to tell her but I just can't. I'm after any suggestions or guidance for what I should do next

[Croix]

Dear Aussiegirl89~

You are in a truly horrible situation and it's not in the least surprising you react to the grief, fear, frustration and all the other emotions your illnesses have given you.

It sounds to me if you need support in two separate areas, the medical side of course, and also help in dealing with how you are feeling and reacting.

The fact you are seeing a doctor is good, the fact you are not able to steer the consultation onto your immediate concerns frustrating and if it was me a feeling I was almost invisible.

Maybe your doctor feels there are other issues that are more urgent - I don't know.

So what to do? I'd take the time to write down how you are feeling, the episodes of crying and all the rest. I'd do it over a day or more -and if you had someone to look it over and make suggestions good.

Then book a long consultation and work though the things with the doctor - start by giving over a copy if you like. See how you go.

You've given a pretty good idea of how you are feeling and about the illnesses, but have not said much more. Knowing more about you and your life will help us understand and give more accurate - rather than general - advice.

Do you have a family or people to support you? Do you think there is anyone you could talk to frankly who will try to understand and want to help? Having someone like this is - as I've found anyway - well worth the difficulty of opening up the conversation.

I hope you feel welcome here and comfortable enough to talk more

Croix

[Rustyone78]

Dear aussiegirl89,

your situation sounds so hard to fathom. It's not an easy ride at times I know. I'm a newbie here myself. Nice to know we aren't alone. I hope you find your feet and can stand strong

[geoff]

hello Aussiegirl, you must be so devastated to know that these two issues are happening, mainly the brain tumour, simply because I can really relate to what you have said, although was described as having a blood clot on my brain, and also not to be able to have children at such a young age would be horrible.
Can I say that your doctor would know how you are feeling, but just waiting for you to open up, because with a brain tumour means that there are going to be certain changes in your personality caused by this, and I only say this because of what has happened to me.
Please I implore you to tell your doctor because at this time in your life and in the future, you will be needing the help that they can assist you with, so please, I hope you can also trust me, because I would love to keep in contact with you on this site. Geoff.

[Mlasho]

Hi if it helps i write down everything that i want to talk to the dr about on a piece of paper. Ive always had less trouble writing than talking. The jump to do things is not an easy one

[Mlasho]

Oops apparently i replied to geoff was meang for you aussiegirl. Am new here