Hi, welcome
Well, not quite. 1996 had 2 kids 7 and 4yo after 11 years marriage and narcissism etc led to one and only one suicide attempt. One week later left the family home, yep heartbreaking, but I was free from her clutches. Built my own home etc. all prior to diagnosis 13 years later of bipolar, depression, dysthymia.
All legal settlements are different however I believe (I'm not a lawyer but have a background of court attendance/investigations) that your ex would be compelled to provide proof of how having a certain mental health issue could have safety and care ramifications with you and your children. I believe it's hogwash , a means to separate you and your kids which is very common.
So, my advice-
- Seek a family court solicitor to legally bind her to a court ruling of access to your kids
- Dont forget to include extended periods in school holidays
- Receipts for payments to your ex/child support, clothes etc (always keep receipts)
Your depression. Enduring many years before your youngest is 18yo is difficult. However I can say now that my kids are 33 and 29yo that time does go quickly and once that period is over you dont have to have anything to owe your ex, no obligations. In fact for 14 years I struggled with her nastiness so when my youngest reached 18 I sent her a message not to ever contact me again. She hasnt.
Be aware of new relationships, a potential partner should ideally be a nurturing type, one that likes all children. I had a 10 years relationship that turned out a jealous step mum from hell.
Attend motivation lectures, seek out distraction and have fun. You cannot change the situation, but the rest of your time balance the turmoil with laughter, resist her negativity and guilt tripping.
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TonyWK
