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Hello, first time posting

Ally_1994
Community Member

I'm not sure what exactly i am supposed to write here but i guess this is what has been bothering me the most.

I have recently gained custody of my step daughter, she will be 3 this weekend. She has a lot of health issues that i have been busy diagnosing and treating, such as her extensive diet due to allergies, speech impairment and dental work. She is toilet training at the moment as well and has recently stopped her day nap.

I also have a 6yo son who has been struggling with her being with us fulltime and having to share me with her, along with a lot of time and energy spent on her for her needs. He also comes with his own issues that we are trying to get sorted as he may have ODD. He is constantly in trouble at school and is somewhat challenging at home.

I love my kids endlessly but lately I have not enjoyed being a mother, I am exhausted and i just can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I have gone to the doctor about all of this and she is helping me with a mental health plan, so fingers crossed i start to feel myself again soon.

anyone else is a similar boat i would love to hear from you.

2 Replies 2

smallwolf
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi and welcome to beyond blue. For someone that did not know what to write you have done a very good job at it. Now I cannot say that my experiences are in any way similar but I can also see from your post that things are a real struggle at the moment - looking at 2 children with different issues, having little time for yourself to the point of exhaustion and then wondering when things might get better.

on the positive side you have spoken with your GP who is helping you when a mental health plan and the love you have for your kids.

I wonder if you have any family nearby that might be able to give you some support?

Perhaps a timeout to allow yourself to recharge?

I hope you might be able to tell more of your story here and if nothing else, I can listen and respond. At worst you will educate me, and have someone to chat to in this space, and on the opposite end, might find ways things to help.

Peace and comforting thoughts,

Tim

mocha delight
Community Member
Hi ally I may not be able to relate so all I can offer is if you ever need to chat I’m here for you and I’m a good listener to 🤗