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Meet your community champions!

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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

HELP..Am I posting in the right section?

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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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Unclear of future with current partner

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Hi, my partner and I live separately. Something isn't quite right and I don't know how to figure out what that is. I've always been good with money. Not long after we met [we're both middle aged], we discussed finances. It turns out that he hasn't accrued any savings but can't explain what he's done with his money either. He just says he doesn't know. I've asked him if he's had a gambling habit [which could explain it] and he's said 'no'. I did some calculations [without him knowing], and included all expenses that he'd have and even upt the amounts, and even after doing this something isn't adding up? He should have significant savings. I even included $200 on top of the usual expenses for entertainment. He had been single for quite sometime before we met. He has no explanation as to what he's used his money for. You could say it's none of my business, but I can't help the way that I'm thinking. He's had no drug or alcohol addictions. If he can't explain this, how does he expect me to move forward if I'm not even sure we're on the same page re finances? When i bring this topic up, he gets angry and says he refuses to discuss it, then the subject is closed? I need an answer. to me this is important. He hasn't even given me one reason why he hasn't got any savings. Even if he said 'I wasted alot of money on......[whatever], at least I'd have SOME clarification, but instead I'm just left frustrated. If the table was turned, I'd have no problem explaining my spending habits if he was asking me. Why can't he just tell me what he's spent his money on? I doubt if I'd be judgemental. I feel he owes me an explanation. Am I wrong for expecting this? When I've asked him about this, I do it in a calm manner...I don't get angry. Do you think someone should explain their past if it's relevant to the future? Am I wrong to want an answer to this? What if he has had a past problem with money but isn't telling me? I've asked him now 3 times [long breaks inbetween], and still nothing? What do you think is going on here? Hope someone can help? TIA

Not myself

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So where to begin......... I am in my early 50's. Had a great job, have a beautiful house, have a fantastic daughter and have fantastic friends. Only problem is that I have had to move away to remote North because of husband's job. He has always wanted to work up north and being the good wife, have come with him. It has been 3 months now. I have not found employment and to be honest, only really started looking in the last month. Applications are in! I miss my daughter terribly along with my home and friends and cooler climate. Moving to the heat with menopause.......what was I thinking!! So, maybe drinking a bit more than I should......and had a massive blow out with the hubby. Packed my bags, ready for divorce. next day, couldn't breathe, massive anxiety attack.........and apologised for my behaviour. We had a chat and thought it was a good idea I chatted with someone. So, Here I am. I haven't really met any one here and those that I have are much younger with young families so we really don't have any similar interests. I walk in the morning then tend to hibernate in the air conditioning for the rest of the day. Have a small dog for company during the day and hubby works long hours. Positives are that I'm with my husband of 26 years, in a fairly nice house (air conditioned) and am pretty healthy apart from that dreaded menopause hot flush and mood swings. Love cooking, but with just the 2 of us now, tend to scale back. Did the depression test, I am mild and yes have always had a bit of anxiety when things get yukky - only had two bad attacks that i remember. I think i am just bored and lonely!!

Little Joe

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High all I am a new chum with an anxiety problem, I have been a workaholic all my life an an ex country wheat belt farmer. I am now living in the city and now retired. I do a few little jobs for locals although now because of a couple of health issues I now seem to have way too much time on my hands and wait in the garden for a weed to come up (not really but!!! ). My problems is how to think positive about what may or may not happen re my heath when I do realize I cannot change the result what ever it may be. People say think positive but as you guys know it is not that simple. Anyway this is a way I hope may help, is there a meeting place in Perth similar to an AA type where we get together and verbally discuss our personal issues??

I don't feel I belong anywhere

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Hello. I'm a 68 year old woman. I've been depressed and anxious probably all my life. I believe the depression is a symptom of not just childhood trauma, but ongoing traumas. I've had so many different diagnoses over the years, and different treatments, but I continue to get depressed. I've tried hard to get well, and feel like I've failed. I live alone and have three grown up children. No other family. I feel very lonely, and any friends I used to have, I've lost. I've never had a healthy relationship. Weekends are the worst. Thanks for reading this.

Just want to hide from it all

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Hi all, i’m new to these forums so bare with me. I can get down every now and then but there are so many things affecting me right now that I just feel unable to deal with to the point where I have been drinking a bit just to try and get some sleep. I’m in my last semester of university and have several assessments and exams going on. I’ve been juggling nearly full time study with full time work until this week when my employer verbally abused me and I have been to afraid to go back. On top of this all next week is the first anniversary of my mother’s passing and I just keep remembering all those final moments when she was in palliative care this time last year. I know that these are all pretty valid reasons to make me feel as depressed as I am but I don’t want to go out, talk to anyone, do anything and struggling to do any uni work even with a final exam tomorrow and I just generally feel burnt out and not enjoying life. I’ve tried counselling once but didn’t find it particularly helpful as I am not very forthcoming. Would really appreciate some ideas and support to try and get me through these next few weeks xx

Gday

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Gday guys been a member for a while but this is the first time I'm posting. Names carlo and I have a question to ask I've been at my current employer for 2 years now and for basically the 2 years have been great and I havent had issues but last month my work hired a casual who was alright for 2 weeks with me , then we had an argument where he called me lazy, an animal and someone who cant think and is dumb. Which has made my anxiety and depression worsen. It came to a head when my boss took me aside to suggest I look for a jeep job. Which has made me even more anxious and depressed. I wake up in terror of the thought of going to work and I'm not happy to do the job i have to do .

Gender Reveal Depression

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I’m 8 months pregnant and devastated that I’m having a girl. We tried to conceive for a long time and the only thing that got me through was the thought of my precious son at the end. The day we found out it was a girl (we found out at 10 weeks) I hated being pregnant and I’ve found no joy in this pregnancy since! Some days it’s so bad I can’t even get out of bed. I have no desire to name her or do a nursery for her so my husband has had to do it all. I have no idea why I feel like this and I can’t stop these feelings. The thought of being a girl mom fills me with dread... all the hair braiding, temper tantrums, outfit changes, ballet lessons ect ect are just not what I wanted for the rest of my life. Everyone keeps telling me I don’t know what type of girl I’m having.. she could be a tomboy, she could be really sporty.. but I know my luck in life and she will be the girliest girl around. Im sorry for all the negativity but I have been carrying this around with me for months. I just don’t see a way out! I’ve asked for professional help but unless I can pay $70 a session there isn’t any help out there. I’m hoping someone here has been through the same thing and can relate. Please don’t me and think badly of me. I know this is not how you are supposed to feel and that I should just be happy I’m having a healthy baby

this is way too hard

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seeking help should be easy for all not spend 3 hours researching how to use a forum.i am new to this and have had it already.people need help now

Buddies & Monitoring

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I'm wondering if anyone might be able tp help me with some monitoring. My mind is in a strange state of flux and I'm aware I could go downhill as well as up. I want someone's help to stay on a simple program that Ive agreed with them. I want someone who will schedule a call to me maybe once a week to discuss how its going and if the goal in mind is one that cam be reached. If it works we might really have something to say. I want to run this until end of Jun when I plan to begin a search for employment. I know that my mind drifts. There is no direction in my life at all at the moment other than what I give it myself. I wander around the house, forgetting things, losing track of what I'm doing. As I go through this approach to addressing some types of anxiety it is driving others, which I hope to then bring down with routine and habit. At the same time I've received a payout and have maybe a once in a lifetime opportunity to address something. I don't want to wander off into obscurity. Any help would be appreciated. I can bitch and moan, but I need an income, and I need to get healthy for that to happen. I want secure employment as best I can, with a good fit. Ive seen big change before. I was once a baker, I didn't get anywhere through a silver spoon. I know that I can transform but last time it took 5 years and real solid effort to be accepted into a different group so I could mix with them, there were exams to pass. I worked at night and studied in the day. I made my way up to something. Now Ive lost all that. This time I am taking all that learning and experience. Can anyone out there help with 4 or 5 phone calls over a month and a schedule stuck on their fridge with my name on it? Thanks

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HELP..Am I posting in the right section? replies: 10

Anxiety replies: 11

Unclear of future with current partner replies: 8

Not myself replies: 9

Little Joe replies: 6

I don't feel I belong anywhere replies: 4

Just want to hide from it all replies: 1

Gday replies: 1

Gender Reveal Depression replies: 12

this is way too hard replies: 2

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