hello Sunshine, obviously I'm male but my wife had PND and then I had it as it was a continuing problem which I found very difficult to cope with, and this was many years ago, so my experience was nil.
There are a couple of sites I'd like you to google before we continue 'panda depression' and 'pnd support for mothers', these may give you some avenues to explore.
I know how you are feeling, although for a male might be completely different to how a mum is feeling, but your life has now changed, everything you once were able to do that won't happen anymore, and even believing that you're doing everything right for your baby comes unstuck when they don't feed, burp, change their nappy and then try and put them to sleep in their cot, wouldn't that be perfect, unfortunately this doesn't happen so you blame yourself for not doing the right thing.
You become tired and irritated, it's not easy, this is why you need someone to have your child for a few hours a day if possible so you can catch up on your sleep.
My ex didn't want to see a psychologist nor did she want to take any medication and perhaps that's why it stayed for so long, for me I was busy working a business while trying to take the boys for a walk, thankfully my MIL was living with us and did most of the work without a single complaint, she was our life saver. Geoff.
