Always have a feeling of underlying sadness

[Anon31]

Hi everyone,

im new to this... just feeling pretty lonely and sad. I feel like I'm never on track in life and that feelings of happiness are always so temporary or non existent. I'm married and my partner is great most of the time but I just always feel worried and like I'm unsettled and unhappy. I feel like my husband and I can't communicate the way I would like because he's too defensive and that no one ever really cares about what I have to say or properly listens to me. I feel so lost and like I can't move forward. I'm studying and working and find no enjoyment in either and I'm sick of always saying that when I get a new job or change this or that I'll feel happier, because it never changes. When I'm sad, I feel guilty as I think there are way more people out there that have it worse than me, but this battle in my mind is just exhausting! I just want peace

[Domtopia]

Hi,

That need for peace! I completely where you're coming from. We've all got so much going on in our lives; work, study, love or the search for it, hubbies... We stack pressures on ourselves in pursuit of something that's unattainable. I find happiness in the silliest little things - a conversation with a friend, a quiet cup of coffee, standing outside when it's cool and looking at the stars or the sky. If you can punctuate your sadness with tiny squeezed in moments of peace and happiness, perhaps around those seeds something may grow?

It's so hard to shake that constant feeling of sadness. I think friendship and communication can help mellow that sadness into peace.

[blondguy]

Hello Anon31

Welcome to the forums and good on you for having the courage to post too!

Being unsettled and unhappy is just as unsettling as any other issue on the forums. Please dont feel guilty at all

You mentioned that you are studying and working....thats an active mind which is great but you dont find enjoyment in doing so which isnt much value where your quality of life is concerned.

If its okay if I can ask if your husband is reasonably happy at his work?

Sometimes even a small network of people (even 1 or 2) can be a huge help when we are going through a dark period. I have felt the same as you have 31 and whether its being stuck in a rut or having lack of communication with a partner can bring the dark clouds over us.

You are pro-active with your health to post and thats great. When you mention that no one really cares about what you have to say.....do you mean relatives....or friends?

Excuse me for the questions Anon31, just trying to help you more effectively 🙂

Your sadness is no different to anyone else's situation on the forums. There are many people that suffer the same feelings that can be here for you too

I hope you can get back to us 🙂

my kindest thoughts

Paulx

[Anon31]

Thanks for your advice, it's so nice to know someone is taking enough of their time to read and respond to this, much appreciated

[Anon31]

Thanks so much for your time Paul!

its nice to know that we can all find some kind of comfort in each other's experiences.

My husband seems happy at work and does well. I guess it's hard because him and most of my friends are all past that study stage of life and I feel like I'm always trying to keep up with everyone. I'm exhausted .. I tend to always put people before myself and then I end up feeling empty and like I don't know who I am anymore!

Thanks for giving me the courage to share

[white knight]

Hi anon

Great replies above.

Anon, l do have something to contribute.

We cant diagnosed but google dysthymia. Its a condition that was mostly responsible for my sadness, deep sad poetry and endless tears. I also have depression and bipolar 2 so it is difficult for me to pinpoint what illness is responsible for what but it highlights that a proper diagnosis is essential.

Secondly, like me you might be hypersensitive. Ive got a few threads you can google

Topic: depression ans sensitivity, a connection?- beyondblue

Topic: they just dont understand, why?- beyondblue

Topic: accepting yourself, the frog and the scorpion- beyondblue

Topic: defending yourself, dont be an easy target- beyondblue

There are thousands more.

Tony WK

[white knight]

By the way anon. This below is a recent thread that might interest you

Topic: crying, a gauge to our inner strength- beyondblue

Tony WK

[Anon31]

Thank you so much! It's so nice to feel listened to and I really appreciate you giving me some tools to help me, especially when it sounds like you have so much going on yourself. People are being so considerate and caring