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[Cattie]

 My husband is a alcoholic and has suffered with a bit of depression but I'm just get a bit over it all everything starting changing last year notice his moods were changing then he unfortunately lost his job but did realised he needed help so I went with him to see doctor which I thought good step but he never followed through stopped taking his anti depressant which is not good he ended getting another job he though he's right but about ago he was drinking at a festival took our kids I stayed home with the baby later that evening I get knock at door with someone dropping my kids off cause he got into fight and police got called then later that night I had police knocking at my door asking what I knew about what happen not much then husband came home early next morning I had a talk with him about he said he would get help but he's full of crap I know he is drinking again but he thinks I don't know I keep trying to talk to him say it not's fair on the kids and me but he gets annoyed tries to turn things around on me as I have suffered with depression with my kids in past and I spoke to my son about how he felt about what happened that night with his dad he said to me scared and sad he shouldn't have to go through this he is only six years old and I don't know how many times I have been in tears over it all.

[geoff]

dear Cattie, can I ask you if he is drinking the alcohol because of his depression, as you say he has 'a bit of depression'.

He can be hiding how he actually is feeling by using the alcohol, but now he has shown a violent side to his personality, which the police know about.

Did he give you any reason why he stopped taking the antidepressants, maybe because he is in denial of believing that he does have depression and alcohol can do this to him, because he knows that he feels better by drinking.

If he turns the situation back onto you, then this indicates to me that he believes he hasn't got a problem, so at the moment you are at a cross road of what to do.

I am rather concerned for you and the kids, so please reply back to us. L Geoff. x

[Cattie]

My husband has not changed much & last week he was away 4 work coming home on Thursday nite now he phoned me 3 times 1st telling me should b home bout 6:30pm then 2nd had 2 go bk 2 work 2 pick something up he 4got then 3rd phone call having trouble with the car he has b home in about 1/2 hr that was the last time I heard from him then after midnite he was knocking on front door let him he said that he had an altercation & his bag was stolen so of course we had 2 call police my husband asked me 2 tell the police that he got home at 8 pm & I told y should I lie  4 u u've done nothing 4 us in getting help, then wen I was talking 2 police told them about my husband wat he is like especially wen alcohol is involed, but wat gets me is that my husband chose 2 go 4 a drive sit in his car in carpark & have a drink instead of coming home, I just said it's self inflicted, but trying talking 2 my husband last nite said about the choice's he make's, y do u chose 2 go 4 a dry instead of coming home said 2 me he doesn't want 2 come home cause he know's how I will react so he tries 2 blame me. But I said u have 3 great kids u think u would want 2 do it 4 them it's not fair on them we never know wat type of mood he will come home in, had a to at me 4 not supporting him, I said y should I u have done nothing in helping urself.