Hi all, I posted on 17/1 the post "A few questions about starting with a
psychologist". I really appreciated the replies, and am now 1½ weeks
away from finally seeing my third psychologist, desperately hoping that
I will have more luck. But now I hav...
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Hi all, I posted on 17/1 the post "A few questions about starting with a
psychologist". I really appreciated the replies, and am now 1½ weeks
away from finally seeing my third psychologist, desperately hoping that
I will have more luck. But now I have a different tricky situation, with
the psychiatrist I saw. Important to note: I've never seen a
psychiatrist for medication until now. I had a one-hour session (my
psychologist appointments so far have been 2-2.5 hours, because my
situation is so "complex", according to them), and tried to explain
everything in brief, also showing my writing on my life. During that
hour, I talked about how my and/or my wife's potential infertility and
how that has led to me feeling a lack of control in my life. He called
my writing "obsessive", which didn't feel like a helpful comment, and
also was surprised at my list of 15-ish friends I've told about my
troubles. My support network means a lot to me, and I felt he was
challenging me or disapproving. He ended up saying I have "substantial
depression" and prescribing me medication, saying I should start them
straightaway so I could have them in mornings and so I'd be a little
used to them by the time I started work four days later. I put my faith
in him and took them immediately, then started to read the information
about that drug on the tram. I felt so betrayed when I saw that it has
an identified risk of adversely affecting fertility. (As well as this, I
had dizziness, headache, stomachache and vomiting. This was my first
time ever trying an antidepressant.) I called him, and he spoke through
his receptionist, saying that if I have such concerns, I should stop
taking them and go back in a week's time to get something new. Did he
not know about the fertility side effect? Did he know and conceal it?
Does he just want me to visit again soon so he can make more money off
me seeing him? It's very expensive to see him. For now, I booked a new
appointment for this Friday, but I don't know whether to cancel it,
postpone to see how I go at work without drugs and how I go with the new
psychologist, go to see him and decide later whether to take his new
prescription or not (I will of course be reading everything thoroughly
this time), or seek a new one? I'm feeling very fragile, and already had
such bad luck with two psychologists, I don't want to go through this
all again because of a bad psychiatrist too. What would you do? Thank
you in advance for your advice.