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FSIAD Help or Recommendations for Intimate Support

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Hi All, Thank you for this online forum that makes an impact on countless people's lives who need support. I haven't come across my issue on here yet, and if anyone is aware of a specific online community that can help with this (and is anonymous), p... View more

Hi All, Thank you for this online forum that makes an impact on countless people's lives who need support. I haven't come across my issue on here yet, and if anyone is aware of a specific online community that can help with this (and is anonymous), please let me know. Suggestions would be awesome! I am in a loving, committed relationship but I have experienced sexual issues for a long time. I am so frustrated and occasionally feel hopeless about it, as I don't feel any pleasure whatsoever during any sexual act. I think I might have FSIAD or sexual arousal disorder, heavily due to my anxiety. I have spoken to sex therapists in the past and have tried many things, but I seriously just don't feel any sensations or even enjoy it. Sometimes it makes me very emotional as I don't feel like a 'woman' or able to fully embrace my sexuality and the joy of connecting with my beloved. He is deeply understanding and supportive through all of it, but It's still so annoying and upsetting, and I was wondering if anyone else experiences this, and/or can recommend anything in particular, or a therapy/forum I can get further support from? Thank you.

How do you manage your CFS? (Chronic fatigue syndrome)

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I am very new still to the diagnosis of ME/CFS (Chronic Fatigue Syndrome) I suffer with cyclothymia - however the beginning of last year I had gotten EBV (a virus) and later diagnosed with CFS (chronic fatigue) I spent most of last year in bed / conf... View more

I am very new still to the diagnosis of ME/CFS (Chronic Fatigue Syndrome) I suffer with cyclothymia - however the beginning of last year I had gotten EBV (a virus) and later diagnosed with CFS (chronic fatigue) I spent most of last year in bed / confined to my house. When given this diagnosis, my Psychiatrist was looking on 'Google' for treatment/management. I wasn't too confident with that and really have had to do my own research. I'm wondering, if you are a fellow CFS soul - what works/has worked? how do you manage now? who do you think is worth a visit? Naturopath that specialises in CFS? How do you 'exercise' and 'eat well' when relapsed? I have so many unanswered questions! Thank you kindly sjos

Help for professionals

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I can say this because it's anonymous, and I cannot talk to anyone else. I am a mental health professional (Social Worker) and I am struggling with depression myself. Too scared to seek assistance, in case a colleague feels it's their "duty" to repor... View more

I can say this because it's anonymous, and I cannot talk to anyone else. I am a mental health professional (Social Worker) and I am struggling with depression myself. Too scared to seek assistance, in case a colleague feels it's their "duty" to report this, it can be so incredibly isolating. I am in Sydney, so am caught up in this lock down. No church, no visiting family/friends. This whole thing terrifies me. Of course I cannot share this with anyone at work, as I do not want to be perceived as being "weak" or as a professional who isn't coping. I am also a fairly private person in the workplace and I do not like to discuss personal issues in the workplace. I have been so up-and-down since my father passed away suddenly in May 2018. I have never really recovered and don't think I ever will. I'm glad for his sake that he's not here to endure this COVID crisis and subsequent lock downs; however, I am devastated for myself. My Father and I were very close and we spoke every single day. He passed suddenly from a heart attack just one month after his 70th birthday, and I thought I was going to die from the resulting grief. I have a Husband who is emotionally unavailable. Although we reside in the same house, we just don't connect and haven't done so for many years. It is a lonely life, and not one I ever imagined myself living. Usually I handle it okay because I have work, church, friends, etc. I am all right so long as I keep busy. At the moment though, it is difficult. I am tempted to seek support, but at the same time, I am worried about being "found out" - as a professional requiring assistance. Although people say that there should be no stigma surrounding seeking support, the reality is that is simply not the case in the professional world. Other "professionals" can and do judge. I have heard a Doctor say the most degrading thing to a patient who had previously sought support for a mental health condition. Constantly taking on other people's issues can be a lot to take and it does knock you about from time to time. Anyway, that is pretty much all I wanted to say.

What were your red flags and green flags when finding a therapist?

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Hi everyone, I have an appointment with my therapist soon and I was thinking about how hard it has been to really find someone that I can connect with, and I thought it might be a cool discussion to have - especially since it can be hard finding a th... View more

Hi everyone, I have an appointment with my therapist soon and I was thinking about how hard it has been to really find someone that I can connect with, and I thought it might be a cool discussion to have - especially since it can be hard finding a therapist in the first place, let alone one you like- and if it's someones first time, we're not always sure what to expect! Some of my red flags from older therapists have been telling me that things (abuse) was all my fault, telling me either I don't need therapy or I should be in therapy for a long time and cancelling and rescheduling all the time. Some of the green flags for me have been letting me share how I feel about therapy, talking about our relationship without being scared by it, feeling validated and feeling safe. I think I'd known that I'd found my (long-term) therapist in the first session because I felt really comfortable and safe with her, although sometimes it can take a little while. What about you? Have you had any red flags or green flags you want to share? rt

Is what my psychiatrist doing normal?

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Hi everyone! Long story short, my psychiatrist put me on antipsychotics to prevent me from developing schizophrenia and/or other disorders. She's concerned because my bio mother is a paranoid schizophrenic, around my age when it first set in and my a... View more

Hi everyone! Long story short, my psychiatrist put me on antipsychotics to prevent me from developing schizophrenia and/or other disorders. She's concerned because my bio mother is a paranoid schizophrenic, around my age when it first set in and my anxiety had been so severe I got kind of paranoid about an ex friend. Now I'm on the prescribed meds, but I don't have any of the conditions that warrant those meds (or I haven't been informed about them) Is this normal?

Feeling hopeless

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Hi there, I haven’t posted on the forum before, but I’ve been going through a really awful time lately. I’ve been admitted to the ward twice in the last 8 or so months and have changed medications countless times over the last 8 years (when I was fir... View more

Hi there, I haven’t posted on the forum before, but I’ve been going through a really awful time lately. I’ve been admitted to the ward twice in the last 8 or so months and have changed medications countless times over the last 8 years (when I was first diagnosed with depression, which is now dysthymia with major depressive episodes, anxiety, bipolar tendencies, and the list continues). I’m in a really dark place lately. Feels like life is getting on top of me and I’d really like it all to end. I have a really loving family and partner and I’d never want to hurt them, so I guess I find myself stuck between dealing with my own hopelessness and suicidal thoughts, while feeling like I can’t go through with them because I don’t want to hurt my loved ones that way. I’ve tried around 6 different medications over my journey, and have been on my current one around 8 weeks. I feel absolutely awful, and I guess I’m losing hope that anything out there will bring me out of this dark place. The idea of feeling this way potentially forever is exhausting, and it’s so difficult to deal with the idea that I might be a burden to the ones I love for the rest of my life. I guess I’m posting here looking for hope. Has anyone on here experienced a tough and long journey with their mental health, tried multiple therapies and medications, etc. and come out on top? Any kindness would be much appreciated.

mental health support in Japan?

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Hi there! This is a strange request, but I wasn't able to find much through my own research. I'll get straight into it... I have an online Japanese friend who lives in Saitama, Japan. They've been posting about how their suicidal thoughts are increas... View more

Hi there! This is a strange request, but I wasn't able to find much through my own research. I'll get straight into it... I have an online Japanese friend who lives in Saitama, Japan. They've been posting about how their suicidal thoughts are increasing, but they don't know what to do because they aren't able to see a psychologist/counsellor yet. I really want to help, and thought maybe I could recommend some online resources or maybe even online counselling. Do you know any Japanese or international organisations, forums or counsellors that I could recommend to my friend? Basically a Japanese Beyond Blue. I've found "TELL Japan" and "Befrienders-jpn.org", but as an Australian, I obviously can't gauge how effective they are. Thank you so much! I really appreciate any advice or recommendations.

Therapist breakup - should I or shouldn’t I?

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Hey, first time poster here looking for some support as I’m struggling. I’ve been seeing my psychologist for a few years now and found our work together to be really helpful for the most part. I’ve been seeking treatment for anxiety with origins in m... View more

Hey, first time poster here looking for some support as I’m struggling. I’ve been seeing my psychologist for a few years now and found our work together to be really helpful for the most part. I’ve been seeking treatment for anxiety with origins in my childhood, in particular my relationships with my parents. It has been a big deal for me to open up to someone about this stuff. About a year ago my therapist announced she was taking about 9 months off to have a baby and would not know her availability when she returned to work as she needed to prioritise childcare. Logically I got it, but emotionally I was devastated. With the uncertainty surrounding if/ when she would return to work, it made it difficult for me to know where I stood. She did return to work recently (at reduced hours) and I’ve been a little hesitant to return to therapy straight away. I’ve had about three sessions with her since she’s returned to work and things are different. She’s increased her fees significantly and has implemented kind of a harsh policy where clients need to commit to fortnightly sessions, need to pay half the fee in advance as a deposit, and give her 1 week’s notice of cancellation or they lose that deposit. I’m not financially equipped to commit to fortnightly sessions right now, and I’m unsure if jumping back into fortnightly sessions is even right for me at this stage. I would rather build back up slowly to where we were at before she went on leave and I think that is going to take time. I’ve tried to discuss my concerns with her and she’s been responding in ways that to me feel really rigid and defensive, like “this is how I need to run my business, that’s just the reality” and “is it hard for you that this baby comes first?” (That one seemed so strange to me). So the choice she’s given me is I can either go on a cancellation list for sporadic appointments here and there, or I can commit to fortnightly sessions and enter into a payment plan. It makes me feel like I’m not a priority and could easily get into debt. After seeing her look at the clock about 5 times during our last session together, I just can’t help but feel that her focus is elsewhere. I truly value all the work we’ve done together over the years and all the progress she’s helped me to make. I’m just having the thought that I might need something different than what she can provide now. Am I being unreasonable? Why is this so upsetting? Have you ever “broken up” with your therapist? What was it like?

How do you know if you are not well?

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I’ve been a voluntary patient for 2 weeks now. Not only haven’t I got better, I’ve gotten worse. I’m keeping an open & honest dialogue about this with my treatment team and husband. They all say I’m not well. Which feels.. not wrong but strange. I ke... View more

I’ve been a voluntary patient for 2 weeks now. Not only haven’t I got better, I’ve gotten worse. I’m keeping an open & honest dialogue about this with my treatment team and husband. They all say I’m not well. Which feels.. not wrong but strange. I keep thinking if I just went home then I would kick back into “normal well” mode? But because we have young children they say that going home is probably not the best idea. I’m really confused. And whilst I’m sharing all these feelings with them, I also have this doubt that they don’t know what’s best me because I’m not getting better. I guess I’m asking others WITH a mental illness how do you reality check your thoughts? Do you just blindly trust your family & professionals even if part of you feels what they are saying is wrong? I just feel so desperately alone right now, and my husband & treatment team seem very sure I’m in the right place but I don’t feel sure. I feel confused scared & alone. Which I have told them.

Pre-employment medical

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Hi, I've had a return of mental health symptoms recently and have restarted medication under guidance from my GP. The main cause of my issues I believe is my job. Just today a job has been advertised which I am going to apply for. I take medication d... View more

Hi, I've had a return of mental health symptoms recently and have restarted medication under guidance from my GP. The main cause of my issues I believe is my job. Just today a job has been advertised which I am going to apply for. I take medication daily. I have done a urine test I bought from the pharmacy and it shows positive for benzo. My worry is that the medication I've been taking is going to make me fail a drug test. I'd rather not disclose my mental health issues for fear of not getting a look in. I might have a week or two before needing to do a drug test (if I am even successful). I think I'll stop the medication.. I haven't been on it long term yet. If I disclose my medication to the medical group performing the test, can they remove any false positive? After all the employer is only meant to test for alcohol and illicit drugs. Does anybody have any advice? Really appreciate it.

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FSIAD Help or Recommendations for Intimate Support

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