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Hi fortoolong,
I'm not a carer but I saw your post and thought I'd chip in a few cents.
Please know that it's really not uncommon to miss your old self and to grieve for the live that you had and your daughter had before you became a carer. I think that people forget how important it is to recognise how things are different and to grieve for it instead of just pretending we have to accept 'this new normal'. You're also allowed to be angry, frustrated, sad and lonely. It sounds cliche but 'feel the feelings' because they are all normal.
One thing I do want to suggest is getting in contact with your local Carers Australia organisation (depending on the state you live in). They have so much support available including respite, information and support groups and they might even be able to link in with GP's or other organisations that can help you and your daughter.
Take care - and hopefully other people will respond with more personal stories soon.