Too much

[Charlee123]

My husband has bipolar amd depression and diabetes.He has no medication. We were looking to move to get away and start again (i guess). We are having so many problems. He calls me bone idol lazy, dirty, and many other horrible names. I work full time, have 2 young children and a husband who doesnt help around the house. He got into an arguement wanting me to say something meaningful to save our marriage. I couldnt. Dont because i dont want to end it but what else can i say and do. I have no energy, he is so angry, up and down , manic, depreased. He's just so withdrawn and after now will be so depressed. I dont know if i should let him go. I dont want to let him go and all he wants from me is for me to care. And i do, i do a lot for him which he doesnt appreciate or even acknowledge. Hes lost and maybe being with me makes everything worse. Weve been together 20 years. Weve been throguh so much. Sometimes i think is it me, why cant i answer him, why do i struggle with low energy, any advice woyld4be great. I dont even know if this makes any sense im just feeling lost myself and needed to let it out.

[Croix]

Dear Charlee123~

I hope you don't mind, I'm going to reply in your existing thread:

Forums / Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition (carers) / Bipolar husband... im torn what to do

Which has more information and where you have some support already

Thanks

Croix

[Summer Rose]

Hi Charlee

Welcome to the bb forum. It was really brave of you to post. I hope that venting has brought you some relief.

I am very sorry that you are in such a difficult situation. I also care for a loved one with a mental health condition. It can be joyous, fulfilling and meaningful, yet it can also be exhausting, frustrating and thankless--just as you have described.

Sounds like you've done the hard yards for many years. You deserve a medal. But from the sounds of your post, it also seems like it's time to put yourself first--for the sake of you and the children.

I encourage you to see your GP for advice about your exhaustion and low energy. If you make a double appointment you could also discuss your emotional health and relationship issues. If it's possible, it might also help for you to take a break from caring. Perhaps hubby's parents or siblings could care for him for awhile. Maybe you could visit family or friends. A rest would likely be good for your everyone.

I am sorry I don't have anything wiser to add. I really just wanted you to know that someone cares.

[Sophie_M]

Hi Everyone, 

It seems this post is a continuation of Charlee123's previous thread which can be found here.

We're going to close this one off and ask that you continue the conversaiton in the thread above. 

Kind Regards!