struggling with special needs children

Matchy69 · ‎21-09-2019

Does anyone else have children with special needs.I am struggling with mine.My youngest cant use a toilet when their at the age they should be.I am getting tired of changing them,does that make me a bad parent?The constant hyperepisodes are taking their strain especially that i am going through other personal stuff in my life

Matchy69 · ‎16-12-2023

Hi Hanna I hope you can find somewhere nice to walk.The tourist must be something you have to live with and maby give you chance to explore new places.When the sunflowers are out here we have a few tourist stopping and taking photos but unfortunately trespass on the farms and understand what they are doing and that the farmer is trying to make a living out of them.Very humid here to.I went to the park early with my son and been sitting in front of the fan since I have been home.

Guest_16431 · ‎16-12-2023

Hey Hanna,

Sorry to read you also had a friend let you down. You're a good friend I'm sure and sometimes people just walk all over their true friends.

I sent my friend dahlias as they're her favourite flower and don't know if it made it worse but I don't care

Housesitting isn't working for me as it's a big space to maintain and i feel like it's burdening me bit I do have a roof over my head.. thanks for your kind and empathetic response

Matchy69 · ‎17-12-2023

Hi sleepy I am sorry house sitting isn't working for you but it is a roof over your head for the moment .A really good friend is hard to find.You don't need many even just one caring understanding friend can be all you need to make a difference in your life.

Hanna3 · ‎17-12-2023

Hi Mark, Yes it's pretty unpleasant here today too, very overcast and muggy and it would be better if we had a good storm to clear the air!

Not much happening, I did some grocery shopping and went to a cafe and had a coffee and now i'm home doing some housework and computer stuff. Sundays everything is closed in town so it's always a quiet day. I'll go out for a walk a bit later when it cools down. I started watching a very interesting documentary last night that I actually found in an op shop for two dollars - it's called Love, Spies and Cyanide and it's about the abduction of a professor of history from a major college in the USA some years ago. He was an alleged Soviet spy and what happened to him was never discovered but it's all about the FBI investigation etc. Interesting stuff!

I hope you had a good day and have a pleasant evening!

Hanna3 · ‎17-12-2023

Hi Sleepy, maybe just look on it as a place to perch while you look for something that suits you better? As Mark said, it's a roof over your head at the moment. Share houses can be tricky I know. Sometimes when I don't like a situation I'm in I just keep reminding myself it's not permanent and to just bear with it and something better will turn up. '

Sorry about your friend - I've learnt to shrug my shoulders when a friend turns out not to be a friend after all - who knows what's going on in the other person's mind and life - it's not always about us. I used to have a tendency if a friendship busted to always wonder what i had done wrong - now I realize it's more often just something going on in their life, or they just don't click with me anymore - I've learnt not to take it on board too much. I do feel sad and miss the friendship but realize it's mostly not about me - people have all sorts of problems and stuff going on in their life. I discovered the important thing is not to seem too needy, I think I was doing that for a while when things were difficult. Better friends will turn up when you are least expecting them!

Don't waste your time and energy on people who don't reciprocate your efforts. You will find people who value you eventually. The others miss out on a good friend - their loss, not yours, even if it doesn't feel like that now.

Hang in there, things will get better - you are in a transitional phase, and transitional phases are always uncomfortable. It will pass!

Matchy69 · ‎17-12-2023

Hi Hanna it is a very hot and humid day here again.I just been in front of the fan to keep me cool.I haven't been to an op shop for awhile and usually like going through the DVDs and collectables and kitchen stuff.Usually find something to buy.I have a specialist appointment tomorrow at the hospital for myself and getting a bit nervous about it now.

Guest_16431 · ‎17-12-2023

Hi hanna,

thats so wise and that's what the psychiatrist said in the hospital as well - to go back to good things and hold through the transition. i was matched with a psychiatrist in public mental health and he's good. I am holding hoep somewhere but I'm very drained. It's true, I did waste money (that I don't have) on this friend. We'd been friends since high school, nearly 20 years now.... and i find the whole thing so darn awkward. hope you're doing well in your life and enjoying ur weekend.

Guest_16431 · ‎17-12-2023

hi Mark i am grateful i landed in some way and have a roof.

i get a lot of terror and suicidality because i feel somehow like i've ruined everything. i feel different, weird, lost, and strange, after living in a certain environment and getting used to it for the last four years, everything feels wrong.

i've lost so much, i feel, and i'm being tested almost, and pushed to my limits.

I am lukcy that I do not have to pay rent for now, but I do pay for internet etc (which I set up because there was none) and i've spent some money getting the space a little different so it feels like home.

i am hating myself a lot at the moment, and wandering where or if I fit.

Matchy69 · ‎17-12-2023

Hi sleepy it does take awhile to feel comfortable in a different place especially being somewhere else for awhile.I know when I moved here 6 years ago it was very hard to feel like I belonged here or that I had bought the right house.I was tossing up between this house and another one in the next town.I sometimes think I should have bought the other one.But I have got comfortable here and made it home.We can have doubts if we fit in and belong.It does take time and it is up to us if we do want to fit in.I am not sure how long you can stay in the place you are in or if you have put in fir another place.I moved two and half hours away from where I was living and feeling very comfortable but the move has been good.Sometimes taking a risk can be good for us but can be a very hard thing to do but can pay off.I wish I had some words to cheer you up and make you realise what an amazing person you are.

Guest_16431 · ‎17-12-2023

Hi mark, I feel my move was stupid I was seeing an ndis worker and she encouraged me to move and i guess I feel she didn't understand my situation so well. I don't think I made my own choice I was just so over my apartment and worried and did so impulsively when I was told my rent was increasing

I am depressed over it but it sucks

I think u make really good choices and deserve to be happy in your home!