struggling with special needs children

Matchy69 · ‎21-09-2019

Does anyone else have children with special needs.I am struggling with mine.My youngest cant use a toilet when their at the age they should be.I am getting tired of changing them,does that make me a bad parent?The constant hyperepisodes are taking their strain especially that i am going through other personal stuff in my life

Matchy69 · ‎08-01-2024

I remember my first day at high school well.I was very anxious and nervous and asked my friend if I could walk to school.So early Monday morning I walked to his house and his dad offered us a lift in his tow truck so I got dropped off in the tow truck.I got put in the wrong class twice as long as another kid and made my first day a huge muck up.All worked out in the end.

Hanna3 · ‎08-01-2024

Hi Mark and mmMekitty

I think first days at anything - school, university, a job, a sport group, whatever - are always a bit stressful and muddled! Once that day is over you can gradually settle in.

I have had a flat out day with a big grocery shop and had to run errands and it's been horribly hot and humid - and I'm beat! I will write tomorrow, I'm about to finally sit down to some dinner and relax for a while. I got a bird book from the library and my suspicions were correct - I have a husband-and-wife bower bird coming every afternoon now for some of the apple - they are just so pretty!

Best wishes for now and I hope to be more relaxed tomorrow! Today has been wayyyyyy too hot and busy for comfort!

Hanna3 · ‎09-01-2024

Mmekitty i think you were talking yesterday about the kids that wouldn't walk to school with you - I read Mumsnet and Reddit Australia - these are public forums so anyone can read people's posts. On Mumsnet you will read so many stories of women excluding other women and mothers who are upset because their kids are being bullied at school or the girls in particular are being nasty and excluding one girl. Mark I think there are also mothers there with kids on the spectrum, I wonder if it's any use to you to Google around that forum? Anyway Mmekitty, it's so common for schoolgirls especially to be nasty like that. I experienced it too. I'd say take a look around the Mumsnet forums!

Hanna3 · ‎09-01-2024

Hi Mark, mmMekitty and all,

I contacted the RSPCA shelter here today about getting a rescue kitty and they had a couple of kittens but informed me that there is a problem getting the vaccine here and they are selling cats unvaccinated. Yikes! I checked at the local vet and they said the entire area of the coast here cannot get supplies and it's a severe problem. The risk now is if I buy a kitten that it could have picked up a disease from the rest of the littler or at the rescue place and come down sick and/or die after I buy it.

So I have the climbing tree and scratch post and cat bed etc - and now I can't get a cat!

Who'd have thought?

I'm off for a nice cup of hot tea!

mmMekitty · ‎09-01-2024

OH, Hanna, that's so awful about the kittens not able to get vaccinated, & that the RSPCA is still selling them. I also don't think I'd like it if they were keeping the kittens isolated, in an effort to stop the spread of disease amongst them, but maybe that would have been a little better ????

Thanks for the idea oflooking online about bullied kids - I won't be doing that. My school days were 50 years ago, & it's all done now.

Hugzies

mmMekitty

Guest_16431 · ‎09-01-2024

hi Hanna, sorry about your predicament. I think you were wise to get all the cat things before the cat - to be ready and anticipate. I hope a good pet comes your way! I thought the cat was a lovely idea. I'm biased as I'm more of a cat person. I like dogs but haven't owned one for many years.

Hi Mark, how has your week been? I hope things are going ok. Is your daughter enjoying driving?

mmMekitty · ‎09-01-2024

Hello Matchy

I hope you are now able to look back at that first day of High School with a little chuckle, - the mix up with classes, & I bet you weren't the only kids.

The other thing I remember about grade 8 was how my step-sis had decided she would take Friench & I would take German (our only language choices), in an effort to ensure we wouldn't end up in the same classes - didn't work! Especially in grade 9, when there was a huge administrative problem, & we had half our classes together. For science, we had 4 teachers assigned to 52 kids & with all the disruption from my step-sis & friends, together, they could not the class.

I borrowed one teacher's books so I could learn anything in that class.

Hugzies

mmMekitty

Matchy69 · ‎09-01-2024

I just popped in to say hi.I had a busy day and I'm tired so won't say much.It was good to see you pop in sleepy and hope everything is going well for you.Sleepy dies love driving and it takes a lot of stress off me to drive her around.Hanna I will have to ask my daughter about the vaccines for the kittens here.The rspca where she works doesn't have a vet and they take them to a private vet for all vaccines and treatment.mmMekitty it's a bit of a fun story to tell about first day of high school and funny you mentioned German and French and that is why I was in the wrong class I was put in a German class when I had nominated to do French so they put me in one that does French but their was to many in it so they had to change my class again.

Hanna3 · ‎10-01-2024

Hi Sleepy, thanks for that. I hope you are doing OK. I id check with another vet today and there's really only the RSPCA pet rescue here - I might take on a cat a bit older, it really doesn't matter that much - the only couple at the moment have severe health problems and financially I don't want to take that on yet after so many vet bills with poor Sam. It would be nice to have a healthy animal for a while! So I'll just keep checking and when something likely turns up, I'll drive up and take a look. Yes meanwhile I am getting in all the gear I need! I find looking for trustworthy sellers on Ebay is the tricky bit - I'm very fussy about reading their feedback!

Had appointment today and it was soooo hot. Am going to have a quiet evening after running around this morning.

I was looking at local Gumtree ads and people are charging as much as three thousand for a cat - I only want a moggie, I think you can get more issues with a purebred myself. I do quite like the Vancouver Vet on utube - haven't watched him for ages but he used to be very good.

Hope things are gradually sorting out for you.

Hanna3 · ‎10-01-2024

Hi Mark, mmMekitty and all

I did German at high school but have never stopped regretting not doing French and Latin as well - I loved languages and our teacher was terrific and she taught all three languages. I had wanted to be a language teacher but my family did not believe in educating a daughter - which was ridiculous even then.So I went to Uni at night while I worked full time and I studied Philosophy and Anthropology and then I went to live in Polynesia for a while, which was great.

It's very hard to learn languages, music etc when you are older - kids are much less anxious about making mistakes and their brains are much more elastic!

I think it's an absolute shame that kids aren't taught more music in primary school - I had a German friend a while back and she was horrified at Australian schools - she said in Germany at primary school kids all learn a foreign language as well as German of course and English - and they learn music theory. You never really forget it when you learn it that young. I wish we had done those subjects right back in early school not wait until high school!