struggling with special needs children

[Matchy69]

Does anyone else have children with special needs.I am struggling with mine.My youngest cant use a toilet when their at the age they should be.I am getting tired of changing them,does that make me a bad parent?The constant hyperepisodes are taking their strain especially that i am going through other personal stuff in my life

[Matchy69]

Thanks Hanna for your kind words.I just trying be the best parent I can for all my kids and not always successful.I hope you and Sam are doing well.I looking at Sam's happy face and can see how much joy he brings you and well looked after he is.

[Hanna3]

Thanks, Mark. I meant it, you sound such a caring Dad! I'm sorry about your daughter who is having the baby, does she have a caring partner or is she alone? That must be worrying for you.

Sam has been a wonderful companion to me for ten years now, and I believe in return it's my job to give him the best life I can. He was very happy that day on the beach, playing with a doggy friend of his! The photographer was the husband of a friend of mine, he's a professional photographer, and he took dozens of shots that morning. I love all of them, but I do love how happy and exhausted little Sam looks in that photo!

[Matchy69]

Hi Hanna unfortunately my daughter is alone and broke up with her husband middle of last year.He isn't the babies father my daughter me.Shes struggling so much mentally,physically and financially.I did offer for her to stay here but she wants to be independent.I won't push her and just be here for when she needs me.

I have been in this house 5 years in May and it came with a stray cat who's been the best of company for me over those years and she follows me around everywhere which is so cute.

[Guest_1643]

Hi Mark, I'm sorry Ur daughter is struggling and I imagine that it may be triggering for u to watch her struggle

I hope she is OK.

[Matchy69]

Hi sleepy yes it is hard to watch her struggle.She was a special needs child growing up and it was hard at times with her.Everthing seemed to improve for her after she finished school but now she seems to gone back to the old ways and it is very much worrying me.I really don't know what to do and how to help her.

[Hanna3]

Hi Mark,

I'm sorry to hear that. I don't know if she has other children? Does she have a secure home? I wonder is there any kind of social work support/advice for her - maybe whoever is caring for her during her pregnancy? It sounds a lot for you to deal with alone, and you have the other kids too.

I love that your cat came with the house! Pets are great.

[Matchy69]

Hi Hanna yes my daughter does have a 5y.o daughter with the custody split with the father.She is renting at the moment but rent is so dear with trying to pay off other debt.She has a bit of support from the hospital and got a food voucher.My daughter works in disability care and earns good money but isn't enough with the debt she's in.

[Guest_1643]

Hi Mark,

Maybe u can help her best by just being there, letting her know u can call u any time and Ur just as the other end of the phone....

I wasnt special needs but I was a difficult kids, my parents gave up on me and my dad told me I should never come in to his house, very sad but he had no heart for me when I was homeless and unwell.

He didn't like my partner or my chosen friends and abandoned me.

I think by accepting and loving, u help more than u know.

U do it for others here and help ppl no matter their background or experience, and letting Ur daughter know u love her is important.

[Matchy69]

Thanks sleepy I have been telling her that I am if you need me and talk to to me about anything and I love her.She does adventurally talk and tell me things.I can be here for her when she needs me.

[Guest_1643]

That'd amazing Mark

Even if it takes her a while she knows u won't won't hee away and love her.

Ur support is unconditional

Kids know and feel that, and it makes them more confident to take risks in the world.