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Hi Mark,
That's great your daughter has a goal to work toward. Perhaps there are opportunities for her to volunteer with animals to get some experience, such as at an animal shelter? Alternately, there maybe someone with an animal grooming business that could use a casual helper. I know you are in a rural location, so that can make it harder, but then there are different opportunities in rural areas, such as larger animal vets, that work more with cattle and horses. It can be hard for young people to get that first start, but if she has a clear interest, hopefully she will find someone willing to give her a go. Tafe has an animal handling course if she wants to study further but not wanting to study vet science.
I went to school in the country, on the Fleurieu Peninsula , where everyone just went to an area school that serviced many towns and farms in the region. I had some really great teachers at my school, and I really enjoyed primary school and I wish my son could have had the same experience.
Although, theoretically there are several high schools nearby for my son, it is hard to get in to the good ones, if not in the zone. I think schools in the city vary in quality greatly depending on where they are situated. Excellent quality schools in the wealthy suburbs, awful schools in the working class areas, it is very segregated. Where we live is not one of the poor outer suburbs but it is still working class and not great for schooling, especially for a child who needs a lot of support to function.
How are you going at the moment with yourself and your own wellbeing? I am really struggling and overwhelmed at the moment, though nothing much has changed, everything just seems harder somehow.
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Good Morning Mark,
Thinking of you and your mandarin tree.
It must be nice waking up in a small country town. The town I grew up was small but not tiny, it had four pubs and five churches and a milkbar. It is so nice to have space around where the landscape has a stronger presence. One thing I really missed when I moved to the city was that the city is never dark, not really, as the street lights have a haze that infiltrates everywhere. Where I live now is between the beach and a lake. The beach is a nice wide sandy beach, but the lake has been manipulated by development, so is a bit sterile (more a boating lake now), but was once a natural wetland. The housing density around here is increasing rapidly as the old larger blocks are cleared and subdivided. Having these two open spaces that are free of the crush of houses is soothing to me, but I often long to get away from the city.
Have a nice day 🙂
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Hi Boudica I am sorry I am really struggling out the moment.I have been struggling with things to.I have an ex wife who wants to make things miserable at the moment and battling with my own health issues.
My daughter's doing a couple of TAFE courses through the school at the moment for horse care and agricultural .She will apply for jobs in the big town as well as places in smaller towns she can apply for in the area.I don't know how she will go with her anxiety.She didn't go to school yesterday because of it.
I hope you can find the right high school for your son and you can get into it.I just went to the local high school in the big city but it was really bad bullying and I dropped out not being able to stand the bullying anymore.
I hope you can get into your study and find some enjoyment with it.
Take care,
Mark.
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Hi Mark
hope ur taking care and so sorry to hear u are struggling.
Hi Boudaica, love ur presence here on the forums and love chatting to u
Thinking of u guys
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Hello Mark,
Sorry you are struggling at the moment. Always here if you feel like chatting, or not.
That's great your daughter is doing Ag and working with horses. I studied Ag in high school (compulsory at my school, but I liked it).
My eldest son had anxiety issues with high school too. He got his first part time job after school by emailing local businesses he would like to work for to introduce himself and ask if they need any help. I think he found it less stressful than when applying for advertised jobs, as there is so much competition for these, and it is often the well-spoken confident ones who get chosen (though they don't always make the best workers). He eventually decided to go to uni (studying IT), and he works at a pub doing pokies and drinks. He has more confidence now than in school. I think he needed some time to recover after the stress of school.
I left school early, I wasn't bullied and I was a good student, but was anxious, and life outside school was really unstable. Bullying can really change a course of kids lives though and needs to be taken seriously by teachers.
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Hi Boudica when I was in school the teachers response to bullying was to just ignore it.Today they have no bullying policies in school.I wonder if my life would be different if they had it back then.Today they try and stamp it out but it isn't always picked up on and still goes on.
Take care,
Mark.
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hi mark
i agree that bullying is still a major problem
there is also cyber bullying now which is a huge problem for young ppl. They see someone talkign about them online and are very upset or they get inundated with messages. I think sometimes teachers talk more than they act.... they talk a lot about doing things to stop bullying but they don't actually do it. The kids who are bullied struggle a lot. I hope for kids who are bullied that they can find just one friend to stand by them, sometimes that changes everything.
How have your kids been?
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Hi Sleepy my son's good but my daughter's been off school with a sore throat.The doctor didn't send her for a covid test this time thankfully.She has been tested about 6 times.
It really is a different form of bullying these days with cyber bullying.It really is hard to stamp out.Cyber bullying happens in all ages and can effect anybody and cause mental health problems.
Take care,
Mark.