Dear Katy99~
Welcome here to the Forum. I can well imagine how you feel when a partner uses, or even is thinking of using a dating app. It brings up all sorts of emotions, anger, self-doubt that you are what he needs, why there is something wrong and why you did not realise it, plus more. It breaks trust.
I think you have done exactly the right thing in getting him to go
back to his prescribing doctor and talk the matter of reactions over. I also think
that a proper unhurried conversation together with your partner,
perhaps when his meds are sorted, is very much needed.
Anyone can do something silly on an impulse, however one has to bear in mind the effect it will have on others. His download has caused you grief, loss and betrayal, and he needs to know it. He may not be in an a state to appreciate that until his medications is stable. Do you think that might be the right time, or would you prefer to talk with him now?
I do not have the same illness as your partner so cannot realy speak for him, however I do think that if a person has a mental condition then it is not always appropriate to judge by normal standards. This might be the case here. I do know in my own case one set of meds made me reckless and behave in a way very far from my normal nature. Needless to say they were stopped quickly.
Whatever the reason you are currently in a most unhappy state. Do you have anyone to give you support at the moment? A parent or freind perhaps. Talking things over, having someone on your side who cares and can also give their view can be a great help.
Please let us know how you get on
Croix
Ch
