dear Stacy, I pity the men and women that have to go overseas to try and achieve well what, peace, because in many of these countries it just seems to be impossible, but what they see is something which they don't want to talk about, all the horrors and disasters and unnecessary acts of violence.
I can appreciate that they want to join the army or navy which they do get educated and trained in many fields and helps them in many ways, but to be thrown into a senseless battle seems to be pointless to me.
All the atrocities they see certainly makes them a different person when they return home, because the circumstances are completely different, so unfortunately life is so different.
When they are overseas they lose any personal emotion, although they care about their mates, but at home it's totally different, he now has a loving wife and perhaps children running around calling out daddy daddy come and play with me or daddy daddy come and see what I have made, so the situation has completely changed for him, and as much as he really wants to play with them or be involved in what the family is doing, he can't because he just can't adjust to his new environment.
By men not talking is true or that's how men think, but now depression has come out and is now a recognised illness, bu this won't help you with your husband.
Has he spoken much at the marriage counselling sessions, or does he just go along with the discussion.
Mens shed is a good place where a group of men gather and build, talk or discuss about whatever so he maybe interested in going there.
I haven't been much help but hope you can get back to us. L Geoff. x
