My 26 year old Narcissist son

grandmakris48 · ‎24-10-2014

Hello. I have a son who is a narcissist and is getting worse by the day. He has my only grandchild and is withholding her from me. He will not let me spend any time with just her; He has to be present. He gives the orders on what everyone can say or not say, do or not do and you must obey his commands or else! I am very close to my granddaughter who is 6 years old and a diabetic. I have helped take care of her since she got diagnosed with diabetes a year and a half ago. I have been medically trained on how to care for her. I always do what is in her best interest but it that goes against what my son thinks or says is right he cuts her off from me. That's it. He's through. Now I can only see her when he is with her at karate. She can only say what he tell her to say and do what he tells her to do. He is mentally abusing her and me as well as his girlfriend. His need for complete control is getting out of control and is hurting everyone around him. Now my granddaughter is not allowed to see me or her own mother or her papa. Everyone she is close to he has cut off. I can't deal with this anymore. It is too painful for me as I am Bipolar myself and am not doing to well at this time.

Doolhof · ‎25-10-2014

Hi Grandmakris,

It sounds to me like your son has quite a few issues and needs help, but he would probably not recognise that.

May I ask a few questions: has the mother of the grandchild left your son?

Is the girlfriend a person you can talk to independently from your son?

Does the child's mother have access to her daughter at all?

Does your son have total custody of your grand daughter?

Can you mention all this to you Dr and ask if he can recommend how you may be able to report the emotional/controlling abuse of your son aver your grand daughter and everyone else.

Is your grand daughter suffering medically through incorrect care of her diabetes?

Is there some agency/department you can phone to voice your concerns about the treatment of your Grand daughter?

In the mean time, accept the conditions your son gives you and keep in touch with your grand daughter how ever you can until a solution can be found.

I hope some of this has made sense and is helpful to you.

Wishing you all the best and getting greater access to your grand daughter, maybe help for your son, and support for yourself as well with your own health concerns.

From Mrs. Dools

grandmakris48 · ‎28-10-2014

Hi. Thank you for your reply. The mother of my granddaughter moved away a few months ago with my granddaughter. She let my granddaughter come and visit my son and he kept her. He will not let my granddaughter see her mom. He just got granted custody and is supposed to let her see her, but he says that he has to be present there with my granddaughter when she sees her mom. The court does not say he has to be there, but that is his plan. He thinks he controls everything.

Doolhof · ‎29-10-2014

Hi Grandmarkris,

I'm wondering if the Mother of your Grand daughter has a copy of the court order. I don't know anything about these kinds of issues, but can't she contact someone from the court system to ensure she sees her daughter without your son being present?

While working in the Child Care industry in S.A. I did experience people having supervised visits with their children through Family S.A. and other organisations. Their children were actually in foster care or Government organisations.

Surely there must be some way of the mother especially being granted visits without your son being present, or if need be to have a court appointed person there to facilitate the visits.

Maybe someone else out there in the Beyond Blue community might read this and provide you with more accurate information.

Hope this has been of some help, From Mrs. Dools