i need some advice please

[emmathon12]

Hi, all, and thank you for reading.

I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years, we've been through a lot together and love each other very much. We're in our mid 20s, so lately we have been talking and planning our future.

Last year, with full support from my boyfriend, I moved to the other side of the state to pursue my master's degree. Long distance is hard, but I think we made it work and had a great summer together.

In June, after a little fight-he emotionally broke down. He said things like "I feel like something broke inside of me." and "I physically can't think of how another person thinks/feels" etc. He tried to break up with me, and instead we met at a halfway point and decided that he needed to start therapy. He seemed to feel a lot better after seeing me. I know he struggled with depression before we met, and has even been on medication.

This summer, he started therapy. I've  been really unsure about his therapist. I've never met her, but from what he told me, I fear she might be making things worse. She seems to make pretty harsh judgements upon me and his father. Calling his father autistic (which he is NOT), saying I like controlling him, saying I'm a women who sounds like I don't know what I want..etc. I just don't really think it's her place to make these judgements. And I wish they spent more time talking about my boyfriend and his depression vs the faults of me and his father. I have voiced concern over her before, but my boyfriend (let's call him J),  accused of being controlling and I backed off.

So I've been back to school for about a month now, and after a small fight last week, J called me and broke up with me. He called me to do it an hour after his therapy apt. I'm really heartbroken, but I'm more worried about him. We've had no contact since..but I sent him a letter. In the letter I voiced that I loved him, but that he needed more help. He hasn't contacted me at all or acknowledged the letter. I miss him like crazy, but I really worry that if I reach out, he'll pull more and more away. But I want him to really understand, I love him regardless. And I really think with some more help, we could make this work. I really believe he can work through all these issues. I feel like his therapist may be taking advantage of J being depressed, and influencing him...

Should I reach out to him more? I really want to invite him into town this weekend, but I'm so afraid of pushing him away. .Any advice is helpful....what should I do?

[Clarkson]

Hey, emmathon

I'm sorry, you sound like an angel, but I have no advice.

I'm interested in future replies as my hubby had a dick of a GP who was so unhelpful he actually delayed my husband seeking help until it was way too late.

Stay strong, I'll be watching the thread.