I don' t know what to do with my partner...

[FeatherPlucking]

I'll try and keep this short but this year I moved out for the first time with my boyfriend into a shared house with three others, out of the five of us four of us work at the same place. Through out the year it's been hard dealing with my anxiety and my partners anger outbursts, we're both seeking professional help though I feel like my partner is ignoring his therapists advice and using a lot more of it ax an excuse to get angry. I've tried so much to help him and I always bounce back after a fighting to give him the support and comfort he needs but it's getting harder to support him when is rather shout at him and his outburst are scary when he throws stuff, I' m scared of him hurting himself or someone as he says he isn't suicidal but engages in reckless activities that can harm him 😕 I'm not sure if I should reconsider living or working with him at this point... Sorry if this is rushed I'm typing it up at work...

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[geoff]

dear FP, sorry to abbreviate your username, but this a a rather disturbing post of yours.

When we live with workmates it can be beneficial or it may become too overpowering, simply because you see them all day and all night so it can become tiring.

With regards to your boyfriend your situation is that it's developing into being not a safe one, because honestly you don't know what he is going to do next and because of this uncertainty I would consider changing your circumstances.

This may not be easy for you to do, because he will probably become angry and perhaps violent with you or threaten you, which would then cause great concern for yourself, which will be a worry for us as well.

Have you spoken to the other three people who you are living with, or have they voiced their own opinion, because if he is still living there then they must have their own concerns or are frightened of him.

I'll wait until I hear back from you. L Geoff. x

[jacques]

Thank you for the reply. I agree that it could get worse, as of they aren't to violent, he tries to keep it contained which sparks the more distressing thoughts though he says he never could I still worry. My housemates are completely in the loop and have offered a lot of support for both of us. With our respective anxieties we do sort of feed off of each other his anger feeds my anxiety and my anxiety feeds his anger. We've talked about it together with his therapist and I will talk to mine when I next see her. I want to stay and I know he is better than his temper