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Help - My new partner is Bipolar and is going through a depressive episode

LPC
Community Member

Help please!

I'm in a new relationship (2 months) and my boyfriend who was diagnosed with Bipolar 2 earlier this year is going through a depressive episode. Its been 2 weeks since I've last seen him and he's progressively gotten worse - from initially texting me daily to tell me he's ok to now as of the end of the week him getting upset with me because i'm constantly checking in and he needs space so now he's not in contact with me at all. He has had previous suicide attempts and I know ending his life is constantly on his mind. He is medicated. He is seeing both a psychiatrist and a psychologist and his GP.

You might wonder why i'm sticking around - while we've only been together for 2 months we have a long long history and have known each other for many many years. Walking away is simply not an option. Trouble is, I have no idea how to help him. I have no idea how to support him and being blocked out of his life i'm now constantly stressed and worried about his welfare. I don't know whether despite his request for space if I should be still telling him i'm here and care or whether I literally also just go silent and leave him be. Whats the right thing to do here? I want him to know i'm here for him, and love and care for him but I don't want to make things worse for him.

How long can this last for? How long do I wait around for? Im so lost and very few people understand the situation, most people just tell me to walk away but I just cant do that to him. Any suggestions welcome!

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monkey_magic
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Hi LPC,

I can really hear the desperation in your words. I was wondering whether you've heard from him or not and if the situation has changed or is still the same?

I would let him know that you love and care for him and are always there for him when he's ready to talk. I would also encourage him to call lifeline 131114, the suicide call back line or beyond blue when the suicidal thought get too much.

You have a right to be worried and he's lucky to have you.

I wish u the best of luck,

Take care.