Estranged from family member

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Hello

I have had this dilemma  hanging around for a long time now but would like to know if others would take the same approach or perhaps leave it.

It is about a family member that I have always had a connection with while the relationship was on the phone because of distance it was important to hear from that member over the years.

We now live in the same place but the relationship is none existent. While I can accept that we have our lives to live and we are busy with other things I can not seem to move past the fact that I would like to be seeing him more and have the relationship we use to have.

For me I am having alot of trouble just letting them go because I miss them and wonder why I have been treated like this and other people are having more time with them.I have made  a time to be with him and am wondering if I should  bring up how I have been feeling because I believe it will not change anything in the situation but it gets annoying for me when I keep hearing things about him through family grapevine and I use to be in the grapevine.

It is consistently doing my head in because my heart is hurting and I keep wondering is it me or is it him.Why has this happened with this family member?

Righto throw some stuff at me with your thoughts please.

This is really about me finding a happy place to move onto instead of having these feelings comeup it almost feels like he has died but keeps coming back to haunt me. There might be a few grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr... in this one.

Not giggling over this one.

Giggles.

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cheers David I was very anxious in the lead up to it but on the day as usual things took their own course and we had the result I spoke about.

When ever I get anxious about anything these days I simply chill and know it is only in my mind which 9 outta 10 is properly a habit way of thinking and/or what I am imagining is just that imagining. Either one is manageable to me

As you properly know the reality is always completely different to what we actually have.

I have taken up Tai Chi and wow it is amazing how that slows your mind down and I have meet loads of people telling me they think to much and too fast. (Funny so we all guilty of it then)

All the best 

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