Hi,
my husband suffers with depression and lately I have been at a loss as to what to do. He knows the symptoms and is on medication for it. I have seen him slip for the past year. He doesn't like himself and every chance I get I tell him how loved and appreciated he is I do. Our sex life is practically non existent and I appreciate this is not the end of the world but intimacy is something that is important to me. He has always enjoyed a drink (as have I) but lately it has been to excess and the cause of a few fights.
i have tried talking to him before only to be snapped at so I was internalizing my own feelings. Right now I am paying for this as I am feeling lost. It is consuming my thoughts and I feel sick to the pit of my stomache. I had no idea what to do so I let him know I was feeling via text this morning. I needed to get it off my chest without being shut down. I wasn't being critical just assuring him that I was here and that I love him and how important communication is to our marriage. I also told him that I won't be drinking and that I would hope he would consider at the very least cutting down. I also explained the fact that I feel like I am treading on egg shells so that's why I sent my feelings via text.
he is at work and has a high pressured job so it is no surprise I haven't heard back. I'm just hoping it opens up the communication lines and doesn't do more harm than good. Has anyone got any other ideas as to how to help? I just want to be a good wife but don't want to become someone's emotional punching bag. I saw this my whole life with my mum and dad and I want differently for myself. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
Thanks.
