Are my problems rubbing off on him?

[hazel23]

My boyfriend of two years is starting to show signs of depression. He used to be so outgoing, all he says now is that his "spirit is broken" and he's got no passion.Similarly so do I. I fear he's becoming like me. He works in a factory and does so well to put up with that PLUS crazy old me who can't keep her life together. 

 I don't know how to get his passion back (let alone mine). What are we/I supposed to do?? I'm destroying the only person who is strong enough to still care for me. 

[Jacko777]

Hi Hazel23,

Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums, I am glad you are talking about this.

Are you guys getting some professional support? Seeing a counselor together could help you a lot right now. How you get your passions back will probably be different for both of you, try and stay focused on your self and support your BF as he focuses on his self.

Some times I sit down and think about my goals in life, I put them on paper. I think, what would I do if money wasn't an issue, what are the most important things in life for me? So I write down things like family, home, career, music, nature...then in each area I make fresh goals, I make plans to reach my goals and I work it back to what small steps I can take today. Then I can take satisfaction from knowing that I am on track, headed towards my goals.

I hope you get some professional advice and support cause I know it will help you a lot, you could ring the BB phone service to get started. Love to you both.

Jack