dear Midge, hi and it's good that you put your hand out and asked us a question.
If you are away with work commitments and your partner has suffered from depression and anxiety, then he could typically use alcohol while you are away, but when you return it is going to be difficult for him to stop or at least slow down.
Alcohol is used 'because it's the famous cure', as he would believe, and I have to be honest, years ago I was the same, but not now, and it was one reason that caused my divorce.
My only advice is that it is going to be a difficult job for you to ask him to either slow down or if not stop using alcohol as his base support, because he needs to drink to give him the support he needs when you are away, but it still continues when you return, whether he drinks in front of you or has it hidden somewhere else, his hiding spot.
Maybe you should have a decent talk with him, does he want this relationship, is he willing to stop drinking and finally would he go back to counselling, and if he says no to any of these you then have to look after yourself and do exactly what you want to do.
You can't survive on promises that are always broken. L Geoff. x
