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Would you and how to tell your GP you self harm?

LJpd81
Community Member

Recently I have been self harming. Im not sure if I'm allowed to say how though. Should I tell my doctor? And if I do , how do I tell her? She is quite approachable and lovely. The idea of telling her that I S/H, fills me with so much anxiety! How do I blurt that out? What would she do? I already am booked for 6 psychologist appointments and I have written it down as one of my reasons for attending. Any advice please?

Thanks very much.

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LJpd81
Community Member
Thanks very much Smallwolf

LJpd81
Community Member

I woke up feeling upset and teary and depressed. Little things are upsetting me today. My husband has gone out to hand in my doctor's certificate for work and left without kissing me goodbye.

I'm upset because I haven't heard from the psychiatrist and it was marked as urgent by my doctor. Just shows how important I am. I haven't decided if I will call today.

I'm upset my best friend told my husband about s/h ,now I feel I have no one to talk to. I feel I can't tell her my feelings as she will immediately tell my husband if I'm hurt.

My eyes are blury as well.

I feel I have no one to talk to now except my psychologist. Except she doesn't have time to reply to every email, which I get. So that upsets me too.

Everything is upsetting me and I just don't want to today.

Hi LJpd81, 

We are really sorry to hear tat you are feeling this way today, it can be realy hard to be feeling overwhelmed and low. We can hear that you are upset about your psychologist and your friend, if you ever wnat to talk thorugh these feelings you can call us on 1300 22 4636 and our team will be here for you. 

Some days are harder than others and when you feel like everything is tough for your it is important to try and be gentle and forgiving of yourself. You've already done an amazing thing by posting to these forums and sharing how you are feeling. The power of these forums is in allowing others to share in our experiences, thank you for being an important part of that. 

We hope you feel better soon, but if not thats ok too. You don't have to go through this alone, we are here for you if you ever want to talk. 

Kind regards, 
Sophie M

LJpd81
Community Member

Thank you for being so kind. Today anyone kind to me, has brought tears to my eyes. I've wanted to cry and could, but I have been stopping myself. I find it hard to cry in front of people. Even my husband. I've felt low all day.

My mum called and I feel terrible for basically lying and saying I'm ok. I don't know what's worse. When I hid I was depressed and was seeing a psychologist, or the fact my family knows and I feel I have to hide my sad days. Which is every day. Now mum is constantly worried about me. She is very supportive too.

My best friend messaged me today and said my husband had told her that I was upset with her for her telling my husband that I S/H. I'm betrayed and feel sad, a bit upset. But I'm not mad at her. My husband apparently only said that he hoped that my friend and I are ok.

I'm feeling right now I can't talk to her about how I'm truly feeling. She asks every day though. But today she had a breast ultrasound and biopsy. So naturally today is not the day for me to burden her. I feel because I'm worrying her and my S/H, that she's not going to tell me everything.

I am feeling a little better. Admittedly, I have got wine. So a bit numb. Not happy, not sad. Also I did send a few emails to my psychologist today and she has been a great support. Thankfully I can see her Monday, then Wednesday. I like I can be honest with her. I found myself pouring my heart out to her via email.

LJpd81
Community Member
And I've had to cancel a weekend away with my mum and sister's for my 40th next month. I've come to accept, it will be a lockdown birthday. Might not even see my family.
I'm totally hiding how I'm really feeling from my mum and family. I won't worry them unnecessarily.
I hate life now. I'm in a dark place and don't know how to get out.

LJpd81
Community Member
Harpbird, how are you today? Thanks for being supportive. X

Harpbird
Community Member
Thanks for asking LJ, I am having a hard day, my pain levels are high and the fatigue is draining. Just can’t get on top of it. Going to be a very long weekend. But I got me little fur pup on my lap and I am trying to crochet a Jelli fish for my granddaughter but it’s so hard cause when my necks this bad I can’t look down so have to hold my arms up to crochet arggggg my shoulders ache. No end to it

Harpbird
Community Member
The day started out great, beautiful weather even managed a little pruning and felt so good and then You know then there is always some one come and pop your happy bubble.
Been feel real crappy last couple hours, got my head bitten off for actually helping the H. I am doing my best not to S H , but it’s all I can think about. So dang sad .

Dear Harpbird, 

We're sorry to hear that your day turned crappy and that you're feeling this way / having these urges. If things get worse for you or become too overwhelming, please do consider contacting Lifeline (13 11 14) or Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467). 

We hope you feel better soon.

Please do continue to post here and seek peer support if you feel up to it. 

Thanks Sophie_m, I was having a good couple of weeks. Coping ok with my new pain meds and actually felt happy. Till this arvo, I’ve tried those help lines just really not in the mood. Trouble with feeling happy and your bubble gets burst for nothing it flipping hurts all the more