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The thoughts are strong

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When is it ok to say you've tried enough? When is it ok to cave in? The thoughts don't ease up lately they just get stronger. I feel so torn on what to do anymore. I'm so worn out but my heart is torn. When is enough, enough? I don't know what to do anymore
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Hi Kitty.

The road can be very tough... no one can deny that, and that is ok.

Do you truely think you have had enough or are you looking for other options? I hope the later...

what is going on for you that may lead you to thinking enough is enough? if you don't mind me asking?


Hi Kitty88,
  We're so sorry to hear that you're feeling exhausted from fighting unhelpful thoughts. We can hear that you're feeling really low at the moment and we understand that this must be overwhelming. Please know that we are all here to support you.

We're sorry to hear that you feel your heart is torn. Have you been able to see your mental health supports recently? It sounds like it would be worth checking in with your supports to let them know how you are feeling lately.

Please remember to reach out when you're feeling overwhelmed and needing to talk it through. You're never alone. In these moments when you're feeling that enough is enough and you need help finding the strength to get through the day, you can get in touch with our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467).

And if you find yourself in a situation where you become an immediate danger to yourself, this is an emergency and you should call 000 (triple zero).

You might also be interested in taking a look at some of our pages for ideas:
Many of our members have also been through a lot in their lives and will be able to talk through these feelings with you.  If you would like to post further, please tell us more about what's on your mind and how we can best help support you.

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Hello Kitty,

Im sorry your struggling so much with your mh...

I can hear in your words just how exhausted and overwhelmed you feel...

Please try hard not to give up....Please keep trying...I know your tired and probably think that giving up is easier then the constant fight to stay afloat....

kitty..honey the contacts our lovely Sophie gave you are really important for you to ring if your to overwhelmed...please try to ring them if you need to...

I don’t think it’s ever time to cave in, or give up...May I ask you if something happened recently to feel this way?..Its okay if you don’t feel up to sharing..

Do you have a GP or mental health professionals looking after you?...Depression, anxiety etc is so hard to manage without any help..Is talking to your GP something that you might consider...It took me a while before I reached out for help with my GP...Which I am so pleased I did and I haven’t looked back since then...

Sitting with you dear Kitty...please talk here anytime you feel up to it..We are here for you..your not alone Kitty..we will try to support you through these hards times you’re going through as much as we can....

Sending my kindest thoughts with care..


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I'm just done, I've had enough. Nothing ever seems to get better. I'm worn out, I'm done hurting I just want it to stop

I'm just done at this point. My health is really crap at the moment, eventually it will kill me. My mental health is gotten so bad. I've tried fighting so much but I'm just at a dead ends ive tried so much. I'm sorry but I don't know what else to do

Hi Kitty88,

That sounds really concerning - we're reaching out to you privately to check in.

We're sorry to hear that you're feeling so worn out tonight. We can hear that you've been fighting really hard and we understand it's really tough. Remember that if you're in immediate danger that you need to call 000 (triple zero) as this is an emergency.

We're all here to listen if you want to tell us more about what you're going through and how we can support you at the moment.

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Hi Kitty88

The depths of depression is such an incredibly torturous place to find yourself in. It can be hard for people to truly relate unless they've been there. I'm wondering whether you're thinking 'Nothing and no one can make a difference'.

I'm wondering if you can find the difference here, even if it is small to begin with, even if it is tiny. Besides raising yourself out of depression, what are some of the differences you're looking to make? I'm actually wondering whether a book called 'Becoming Supernatural' by Joe Dispenza will make some difference to you. It's a fascinating book that ties body, mind and spirit or natural self together in the most incredible ways. Another way of viewing this unique triad is - Chemistry or biology, thoughts or beliefs and energy. I imagine your looking to make a difference in all of these areas. Seeing you've reached this point you're at, it is easy to imagine you are feeling so incredibly exhausted, in so many ways. I remember the depths of depression well. It feels like you've just got no energy left for battle. Energy would perhaps be a major factor for you when it comes to feeling a difference.

I hope you revisit. I hope we can offer that difference you're looking for. Sometimes, simply being encouraged to vent is enough to raise us just that little bit, especially when most people around us have been insisting we keep things to our self. Vent your upset and intolerance if that's what makes some difference. Feel free to be your self. One of the greatest aspects of coming here involves meeting people who deeply care yet do not care to judge.


Hi Kitty,

I really hope you can find the strength to hold on a bit longer. I was recently in a similar position, so very, very close to taking an action that would never have been the right decision.

Dont be critical of yourself. This stuff happens. It’s absolute sh*t but if you can ride it, then ride it out. I f fealty so alone, no one ever reached out to me, so I had to do the reaching out which was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life.

I won’t lie, getting through stuff like this is really, really hard. If you want to stay in bed for a week, then stay in bed for a week. Do whatever you need to do to get yourself through.

if you eventually feel up to it, you could speak to your GP. I was terrified to take that step, but she suggested 3 different psychologists & I had a look I them & asked for a referral for one. It was both the hardest & best thing I have ever done in my life.

if beyond blue have reached out to you, then you have the option to email or call them. The choice is 100% yours. But as someone who has struggled through the tough times, I found it a huge help for my wellbeing.

i really, really hope you pull through. I hope things get better. You aren’t alone, we are here to listen & share our stories too.

Hopefully we shall see more posts from you & know you are still fighting

Thank you for reaching out, I appreciate it but im so exhausted at the moment I just give up.

Thank.you for trying but at the moment I've really just had enough

It makes me sad to imagine the pain you are going through 😢