Parents Misunderstanding

[Izabella]

Warning:

Please do not read this if you get triggered by suicidal people. I don't intend any harm and I am only here to seek support.

I don't know if I'm the only one feeling like some parents will never understand the pain we feel. I am feeling unstable and have communicated with them in an honest manner. I don't feel safe alone with the self-harm and suicidal thoughts. All they do is give me lectures or solutions to deal with my depression. I am hurt when my Mom tells me to snap out of it or that there are others with worse problems. I am trying so hard to stay strong and can barely hold it together. I'm so tired.

[Sophie_M]

Hi Izabella,

Welcome to the forums and thank you for sharing your story with us here.

We are sorry to hear that you don't feel safe alone with the self-harm and suicidal thoughts. We understand it must be so hard, having to sit with such heavy feelings without the support of your parents. We will reach out to you privately, but please know that you never have to go through this alone, and support is always here for you.

If you would like to talk to someone, the Beyond Blue Support Service is available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals.

We also strongly urge that in overwhelming moments you get in touch with our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467).

We hope that you will find some comfort here on the forums. Please feel free to keep reaching out here on your thread whenever you feel up to it.

[geoff]

Hello Izabella, thanks for coming to the forums.

When your parents don't understand the severity of your condition after you have tried to open up to them but instead are told to 'snap out of it' or even worse 'there are others worse off' not only does it lose faith in them but damages the relationship with any future comments you had wanted to tell them.

Here we are talking about you and not about anyone else because your situation is very concerning and must be taken seriously.

If I can say that my father who was a GP, initially never believed I was suffering from any type of depression until I tried to do something, then he believed me, but not having their support in every day possible is very disconcerting because at times this may be your first cry out for help.

If they don't understand what mental illness is all about, then there is no point in giving you a lecture because it amounts to nothing and could further your relationship with them, that's not the support you were wanting.

Kids Helpline help people from the age of 5 up to 25 years of age and can be contacted 1800 55 1800 by phone, web chat or online but could you say if you have been able to contact your doctor, this is your first port of call, other than Kids Helpline or both in conjunction.

Your doctor can suggest several ways to get you the help you need, and please ask them about the 'mental health plan', this entitles you to 10 Medicare paid sessions to see either a psychologist or a psychiatrist, but you need to feel comfortable talking with this person because if this doesn't happen then important information may not be raised and this may contribute to how you are feeling.

If you don't like anyone then please get a referral to another person, this is very important, and they may suggest going to a hospital, this all depends on how you are managing the situation.

You are home to a large group of people who have struggled with their own type of depression and understand exactly what you're saying, so please don't be afraid to come back to us.

We want to help you.

Geoff.

[Petal22]

Hi Izabella,

Wellcome to our forums!

Im glad that you have reached out to us.

Im sorry that you are feeling this way.

I understand how it feels to feel unsafe when we are alone and I understand the scary intrusive thoughts that run through our minds……

I experienced a lot of horrible intrusive thoughts while I was going through severe anxiety OCD, the thoughts absolutely terrified me.

The good news is that I have now recovered from what I went through thanks to the help I received from health professionals…..

Im sorry for your parents unhelpful behaviour.. please know in this community we understand and we are here to help you.

Can you possibly see a gp and discuss the way you are feeling? As Geoff mentioned please ask about the mental health plan, this will enable you to see a psychologist.

Your not alone, please reach out to us anytime.